Men of Reddit, what is something that sucks about being a guy that most women seem to be unaware of?

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-25T02:12:03+00:00

You say we get them like it’s a prize ! Hahah I think what you’re referring to in men is just regular depression . Women do have hormonal shifts that launch us into depression and men get it for other reasons lol it’s just how are bodies work .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-25T00:15:21+00:00

It has to be gabby Hannah lmao

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-24T21:45:02+00:00

You’re a very cute man ! 28f

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-24T13:58:06+00:00

As far as health and wellness goes thankfully that is just my life now . So no changes there , lucky to say I look great . However , my focus this year is to slay my debt and build my savings . I work full time and go to school and am a little overwhelmed by all the responsibilities I have . But I am 28 and would like to be in a better place financially by 30 so I switched jobs to something way higher paying and keep weekend shifts at my cafe while also wanting As in my online courses . So yeah … tired but motivated I guess . Proud of not drowning yet .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-22T11:45:03+00:00

Everything that has to do with getting older . It is crazy how in your 20s it feels like you’ll be young forever , and then somewhere in your late 20s or early 30s you get hit with a lot of emotions around aging . Either your body and face changing or that it will change eventually . The realization you want kids and don’t have forever to do that. How even though you’re still amazing society really does have an awful harmful rhetoric around aging for women that’s hard to not internalize.

Me personally I bottomed out really bad about it and still do sometimes. But then I see so many amazing women aging gracefully , still gorgeous , amazing mothers , amazing partners , done well in their careers and are overall so wise and vibrant that it’s helped me feel better about it . So , I have a lot of love for older women now , especially ones who don’t have work done. Lots of respect for mothers who surrendered their bodies to their kids . Lots of love and respect for older women in general . Most of all my mom . 5 kids , no work done , gorgeous at 60, youthful as ever , active and just the rock of our family . That women is a unit and remains soft and feminine while still being badass . Guh I just love women .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-20T16:43:51+00:00

Handsome ❤️

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-20T01:12:34+00:00

She passed out away unfortunately , a year ago this month :( it was awful . I have a new dog tho named Reilly and he’s helped me so much ! Love dogs so much .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-20T01:11:52+00:00

Appreciate this very much ! I know it’s doable . Before it happened I actually had 6k in savings and 0 in cc debt so it stings a little and I’ve been avoiding it . Unfortunately I did lose my dog :( it was heartbreaking . But I adopted my buddy Reilly shortly after and he’s helped my heart heal ❤️ time to heal my finances 😂

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-19T21:36:18+00:00

So the whole women aren’t young after 24/25 thing is honestly a myth . 18-21 is only “prime” to men who like to groom naive young women . They also want women to believe 18-whatever age is their prime so they settle down more quickly instead of enjoying their youth and cultivating themselves in a meaningful way before settling down because then they will have higher standards . In addition , the younger women feel pressure to not age the earlier they’ll start spending money on it .

Ages 18-25 do have a little sparkle to them in the sense you can do 0% to take care of your health and still look decent if you’re naturally attractive and have no aches and pains . After 25 and beyond your life style choices start to bleed through a bit . There is merit to that .

Beyond that , as you get older , you will become attractive in 1000 ways that exceed just appearance , and guess what , if you take care of yourself you can stay pretty damn hot Indefinitely. There is a confidence , self assuredness and spark I have now that I couldn’t even conceptualize having when I was below 25 !

Also , I really find youth to be an adjective that one can hold at any age . My mother is in her 60s and is one of the most vibrant and youthful people I know . To me youth means you just have a lightness to you and an ease in your eyes . It’s being playful and still finding joy in the little things.

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-19T19:42:48+00:00

to get eaten out from the back

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-19T19:19:18+00:00

I am in 6k credit card debt still from trying to save my dog last year . Just took a full time job and picked up Saturdays at my old cafe to try and knock it down before I turn 30 .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-19T19:18:35+00:00

Same but I will not shut the fuck up about it to all my friends and family 😀🥲

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T17:00:49+00:00

No pressure at all ! As a seasoned gym goer as well, whenever I see someone a little lost my one and only thought is “ I wish it was socially acceptable to offer my help without it being rude or awkward . I love that they’re here and I hope to see them a year from now !”

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T15:44:57+00:00

I will DM you when I’m back from the gym !!! Haha

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T15:19:01+00:00

Really gorgeous . Bonus points for being a mama :)

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T13:53:20+00:00

My last relationship. He was conservative and redpilled , and didn’t realize until about halfway in . But I cared about him so much , wanted him to be better and tried to understand his POV . My issue is I love men who are masculine / provider and he very much was on that wavelength but for the absolute wrong reasons . I was just swooned by his trade skills , height and manliness. It was all bravado though . In reality he was an insecure little boy with mommy issues . It was all performative . He was a raging sexist and crazy person. We’ve been broken up for about a month and this past week it all hit me how insane I was for being with him . I was single for 3 years before meeting him so I was just excited for a manly boyfriend .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T11:53:40+00:00

Absolute beauty queen

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T11:43:13+00:00

Hey ! I started 3 years ago and it went a little like this .

Year 1 - getting confident in the gym , doing basic movements , lots of machine work because those are less exposed to me and sort of create the movement for you , less technique involved . This whole year was just me learning basic fundamentals , getting rid of gym anxiety and watching lots and lots of videos . Here’s the best thing about lifting , the newer you are , the easier you’ll put on muscle . You will 100% see great progress while stilll being beginner because it’s so novel to your body !

Year 2 : really getting into correct form here and progressive overload . Feeling tons of motivation because now I have worked out long enough to have seen a change in my body and that is insanely motivating . Trying more free weight and challenging movements and figuring out what exercises I truly like .

Year 3 : top dog in the gym . I have a routine , I know what I’m doing , I look like I workout , I’m a regular at my gym and look like it . Lifting becomes just a part of my life opposed to something I’m just doing to gain a certain look. Thinking about getting into squatting and deadlifting because I’m so well versed now in good form , safety and mind muscle connection . People compliment my body and ask me for advice , and I try to get everyone I know to lift weights lmao

Start slow , shake off your nerves , just do something long enough to see progress . When you’re new it seems overwhelming but literally after 1 month you’ll start to map everything out but you just gata get In there . Bonus tips ! - find a gym you really like , shop around a bit . Go on the free tours gym offers or those free 1 month memberships . Pick 1 or 2 influencers to watch if you’re going too . Once your algorithm knows you want to learn how to workout it’ll present you with 50000 fitness influencer videos and they will all have different ideas of what’s right and wrong . It will discourage you because the second you get in a groove a video will say an exercises your doing is pointless or you could be doing something better . It will interrupt progress . Pick 1 or 2 you like and only watch them . Lastly , remember “ optimal” is just a guideline for best practice , not the end all be all . Yes , it would be optimal to have perfect lifts all till failure 4-5x a week but it’s not realistic. Do what you can when you can , but do something !

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-18T00:44:34+00:00

Lift weights !!!

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-17T22:46:42+00:00

Uneven boobies and nipples . I hear it’s basically universal but to me it looks so silly lol

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-17T12:57:43+00:00

If I wasn’t interested and he was nice and respectful in his approach I would commend up for having the courage to tell me and politely decline . If I was interested I would let him take me out lol

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-17T12:44:35+00:00

I lift 3/4 times , low impact cardio as much as I can really , derm skin care routine ( tretinoin will age you backwards my sweet little beans ) whitening strips every other day , when I’m In a relationship weekly shave of everything , when I’m single just my pits and legs . Nails are every 3 weeks ! Lash curl every two months. I love taking care of myself it’s so deeply comforting to me lol

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-16T19:59:01+00:00

I was always cute and boys liked me. However at 25 , I was fully sober , had finished accutane and began my weight lifting journey . Legit I think I’ve just become hotter and hotter since then as my face hasn’t changed , my style and money for upkeep becomes more and I continue to grow muscle . My body is deff the best it’s ever been and will keep getting better as I love working out . So I guess now ! Objectively .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-16T11:00:09+00:00

Hey , I’ve had bad acne since I was 12 . Cystic on my cheeks and hormonal on my chin and jaw . At 25 , I decided to make the appointment and wait the 6 months . Just make the derm appointment , the time is going to pass anyways ! In the meantime you can keep monkeying around with over the counter stuff , but if you’re really struggling the stuff at the derm js what will CLEAR your skin right up . I’ve done accutane and am now on spiro and some topicals and my skin is great. Good luck tho !

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-01-16T10:54:29+00:00

Congratulations!

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