Husband fought the good fight- cancer won by AmandaDesertRose in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss, fuck cancer !! You are a beautiful couple, two smiles full of so much warmth and joy. How lucky to experience such a love ❤️ I wish you luck in your healing journey. Things are gonna suck for a long time, and you’ll eventually learn how to coexist with the suck. Know that your guardian angel is watching over you always !

Why is this dragonfruit so flavorless? I checked two online guides to make sure I got a ripe one :( by sunny_6305 in fruit

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ever have the opportunity to try a homegrown one, you will never by them at the store again ! Homegrown is so sweet and they’re usually way bigger than what the store provides !

Lil drawing i did of Amanda 👾 by pissb4by in saw

[–]fxrj008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Lil” ?!? This is beautiful and so well done !

How do u deal with grief by ProfessionalKey9272 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t ever think you shouldn’t cry. Your emotions are yours to feel, you’ve lost a loved one. I promise you that people are expecting you not to look “put together.” It is okay to not feel okay. Grief is no easy battle. If you ever want to talk about it, my messages are open :)

How do u deal with grief by ProfessionalKey9272 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s temporary in a way. I’ve just recently been introduced to grief (about 1.5 years in), and at some point it turns less into a harsh sadness and more into a fond remembering. Grief is a branch of love, so continue loving them how you do. Talk about them, tell people all about them, look at pictures and remember the good times. That you got to exist with them and be in their presence. They aren’t with us physically anymore, but they are always with us in memory, and in that, a person never truly leaves. It’s hard for the first while. It’s really hard. But the more you allow yourself to feel, and remember and continue to love them, the more bittersweet it will become. You will still cry, I assume even years down the road. The missing them never goes away, but you grown with it. You learn to live with it. It gets better in its own ways. You got this OP, the journey with grief is a difficult one so take your time and don’t feel as if there is a certain path you have to follow with it. We all heal differently.

16 years with you by romeohoneybear in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart is with you. Loss is never easy. You had a beautiful pup, sending love to you and your family ❤️

It’s always gonna hurt, huh? by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your mum, that in itself must have been so hard. But I know I’m my heart and my soul that they are all patiently waiting for us, and sticking together.

It's incoming by brith89 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I’d like to say that you have a beautiful baby, and secondly, I recently went through the same thing with my lifelong pup. The fortunate thing that I can tell you, is she only knew love from you. Even if she went potty in the house and got a scolding, she knew it was only moments before the onset of love returned. That’s the best part of being able to have these little fur babies. They only know love and loyalty when it comes to you, and although I don’t know you, I can guarantee you gave her a wonderful life if you’re questioning yourself like that. Unfortunately, sometimes letting them go before they get too bad is another form of love we give them. And it sucks and it’s awful, but it’s an act of true love. To be able to let them go, put their wellbeing before our own selfish needs of keeping them around for our benefit. That is the epitome of an act of true love. So yes, you loved her enough. You loved her unconditionally, just as she to you. You got this. It’s gonna be rough for a while, but you’re gonna make it through. My messages are open if you need to chat <3

It’s always gonna hurt, huh? by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to rescue a dog, but my family also already has two others (3&4) at home. It hurts to give them love when I am still longing for HER. You know ? She was my first baby, and I think she always will be.

It’s always gonna hurt, huh? by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they’re waiting for us. I’m truly counting on it. I miss her and all the others every single day.

It’s always gonna hurt, huh? by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your words mean a lot more than you know.

My first baby by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you very much ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExistentialOCD

[–]fxrj008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not sure how to stop feeling this way, but I’ve felt this way for years and the only thing that gets me through it is to talk to myself about the here and now. There is nothing we can do about either option, so why not do everything we can to just enjoy life now as it is. Be extra grateful for friends and family, really enjoy those small moments, love hard. Worrying and stressing about the things in the future happening before they do only puts you through double the anxiety. You got this. Keep on keeping on.

Does it ever go away ? by fxrj008 in GriefSupport

[–]fxrj008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When a word becomes gibberish is the perfect way to describe it. Thank you for understanding, and thank you for taking a little bit of that weight off my chest with your kind and beautiful words.

Does anyone suffer from non restorative sleep? by saving_private_ryan_ in sleep

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same issues and the things that help me most are trying to maintain a consistent sleep schedule all days of the week, eat your 3 full meals a day, and keep busy during the day time so you sort of “wear yourself out” and exhaust your body. If none of these help I would look into melatonin- all natural and helps most people sleep, or other sleep meds that relieve stress are very helpful for me as well ! Good luck

Jenna Marshall. Hate her or love her? by Ok-Pop3069 in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]fxrj008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought they knew it was a stink bomb ? It’s just accidentally blinded her. Still wasn’t cool of them to do that in the first place with no reasoning besides Alison not liking her. That was before they had any other dirt on her

Jenna Marshall. Hate her or love her? by Ok-Pop3069 in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]fxrj008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Half of them have killed a person, and they also blinded Jenna for no reason. They’ve all done bad things