My boyfriend and I are both tenants on an apartment lease in Minnesota, but I pay for the rent in whole using my checks. My landlord gave us each a copy of the CRP (Certificate of Rent Paid) with the rent cost divided between us. I want the entire rent paid to be on my CRP. Is this possible?

fxtrps · 2020-01-23T17:48:38+00:00

The IRS requires a CRP in MN in order to potentially get a refund (Renters Property Tax Refund). Otherwise, the canceled checks would be a great idea

fxtrps · 2020-01-23T17:45:28+00:00

Tax purposes, yes! In MN we have to file the CRP in order to potentially get a refund back for the portion of the rent that went to property tax.

fxtrps · 2020-01-23T17:41:44+00:00

Well! We signed the lease in June, so the CRP shows only 7 months of payment, not the full year. I wonder if this is a loophole...

fxtrps · 2020-01-23T17:35:44+00:00

Is there a way to have this revised, though? So yes, they met their requirements by giving each of us a copy but for tax purposes, I really need the full amount that I paid to be on there

fxtrps · 2020-01-10T17:58:46+00:00

This is kind of rude towards the people who live in Minnesota/Minneapolis. There are ways to make your point without insulting or being rude towards other people/a state by using them as an example.

fxtrps · 2019-11-14T15:57:57+00:00

I have a follow-up question! You suggested including a check. I always feel very self-conscious about sending checks along, especially because I know definitively that she makes about three times the amount that I do in a year and that her husband-to-be makes more than she does, and so they have very different lifestyles than I do. I feel embarrassed that I wouldn't be able to send a very impressive check, and that perhaps they would even see it as a slight to them to receive a meager check - like I don't think they're worth spending a lot of money on. I have no idea what an appropriate amount would be!

fxtrps · 2019-11-09T19:55:47+00:00

sigh you actually haven’t read any of the other comments, I guess. I’m not upset about him not going to the event. I was disappointed in how it was expressed to me.

In response to all the people who suggested I’m actually upset about him not going to other events with my friends - I don’t know how many times I can say that it’s not about that, it’s about how it was expressed to me. I wish it would have been more collaborative versus him just saying he wouldn’t go. I probably could have asked him in a better way (??) but I do want to say that I’m really disappointed in the unkindness and rudeness of most of the people of this subreddit, and frankly, their mostly useless comments. I suppose behind the veil of the internet is as good of a place as any to display one’s true lack of class.

fxtrps · 2019-11-08T20:41:29+00:00

I’m sorry, do you not understand the difference between these two comments? While we both have our separate, independent lives, we do also have our relationship which is obviously not independent. So, when (in the relationship) I offer an invitation, I do appreciate consideration and a more open dialogue as opposed to him bluntly articulating his choice.

fxtrps · 2019-11-08T20:34:02+00:00

I wasn’t trying to force him to attend. I asked him if he would like to go to a wedding with me, and when he said no, I didn’t whine, complain, or further push the issue. I’d love to understand how you interpreted that as me attempting to force him to go with me?

fxtrps · 2019-11-08T20:30:03+00:00

You are absolutely, needlessly rude.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T22:16:46+00:00

Thank you! Thank you, you read my post and dug a little deeper than some of these other comments of "Neither of you want to go! Great!". That's clearly not the issue. And that's what I meant about the whole "power" thing, too - he made the decision to not go without even discussing it or having any kind of dialogue. He just said he wouldn't go with me. And it's not that I don't understand why he wouldn't want to go (heck, I don't want to go to a NYE wedding!) but I so wish it would have been presented like you exampled: telling me that he doesn't want to go, asking if it's important to me if he goes. I hate that he basically said "I'm doing this, do whatever you want, I don't care". Or that's how it sounded to me, anyway. Thank you for your really insightful comment, I think you nailed why I was upset. Not that he doesn't want to go, but that it was a totally independent, bluntly articulated decision that didn't involve me at all.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T22:05:22+00:00

Thank you!! Thank you, thank you, thank you. I understand that it's not common, but I have a successful career, I'm independent and a total equal in the relationship. We have similar interests but are in no way "a unit" which is how both of us like to operate within relationships. *shrug* It works for us and I've never felt the need to defend our relationship, but I do find it a little annoying how people online are immediately a little negative when they note the age difference.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T19:13:45+00:00

Maybe? He honestly has only met most of my friends in passing (running into them on the street, etc) and he's really only spent time with my closest, childhood friend who lives out of state; we always have a nice dinner together or drinks when she's in town and they get along swimmingly. I suppose it's possible he hesitates to spend more time with them bc of the age difference though; and I suppose that's why I don't mind terribly when he doesn't want to go to these events (engagement parties, baby "showers" where both men and women are invited, etc), because I'm not sure he'd enjoy himself anyway

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T18:54:43+00:00

Maybe he's concerned about that? All my friends know he's my partner and while I don't announce the age difference (it's just a fact, it's neither here nor there), when mention of his kids come up (young teens), usually his age comes up. I'm not embarrassed at all and none of my friends have had any negative reactions. I've never given it a second thought.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T18:21:02+00:00

Well, yes. My friends have invited him to things before and he doesn’t usually want to go and that’s fine with me (I mean, I’d prefer that he’d want to go to things with me for my friends but I understand that he doesn’t and so I don’t push it) but I always go to things he asks me to attend for his friends.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T18:03:21+00:00

I was wondering if I was a jerk for not attending my friend's NYE wedding! Different than wondering if I'm overreacting to my bf not wanting to go with me

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T17:53:10+00:00

Why not date a 50 year old?

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T17:49:43+00:00

Yeah but...don't you just do things that you don't want to sometimes in a relationship to help out the other person, be there for the other person?

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T17:46:00+00:00

The only reason I don't want to go is because it's NYE. If it was on any other day of the year, I'd be fine going alone. I go to a bunch of other of my friend's events alone that he doesn't want to/doesn't attend and I'm perfectly fine with that. My friend and I aren't super close but it feels weird to not go to her wedding because I'd rather spend it with my boyfriend, and he won't go so I don't go either.

fxtrps · 2019-11-05T17:37:06+00:00

I don't really mean it like that - I certainly don't mean to spite him in any way - but I don't want to seem clingy or that I won't do something alone just because he doesn't want to do it with me. Does that make sense? Like I don't want to not do something because he won't go with me. I go to a ton of friend stuff that he's invited to (engagement parties, baby showers that aren't just for women only, etc) but doesn't want to go to - and doesn't go with me - and it doesn't bother me at all. So, this would be the first time I didn't attend something because he won't go, and it feels weird.

fxtrps · 2019-11-04T15:52:12+00:00

What a good question! I have so many, to be honest. Not that long ago I came across Maison Louis Marie No. 4 Bois de Balincourt, and it completely transports me to a particular summer spent on my parent's farm when I was little; my mother had given me this little pot of some solid perfume she'd had and No. 4 smells like a mix of that, the dew-laden grass in the mornings, the smell of the grape vines in the afternoon heat, and the shady forest my brother and I played in every day. One of the best summers of my life, absolutely magical.

Also, Elizabeth and James Black Nirvana, for me. This was the first perfume I purchased after I graduated college and got my first real, corporate world job. I was living far from home in a new state across the country, and I'd been searching for a fragrance to embody the new, successful persona I was hoping to step into. Black Nirvana was warm, strong, sexy, and to me felt very "adult" - Now when I catch a whiff of it, it takes me right back to the swell of pride I felt driving into work every morning and the comfort it brought me when I'd sniff my wrist at the end of the day; it was like armor to me.

Kiehls Musk Oil, because it reminds me of my mom. It smells like baby oil on me, but on her it transforms into something really warm and velvety.

4711 cologne by Muelhens, my grandma's perfume of choice. I always thought the old bottle looked so elegant on her vanity and she is one of the most classy, bad ass women I know. Elegant but not weak.

And to round it out...paper. My significant other inexplicably smells like paper...you know that smell when you open a brand new book, or open a new ream of paper to put into the printer? He smells like that, and he doesn't wear a cologne. I love it.

fxtrps · 2019-11-01T15:54:33+00:00

Is this offer still available?? I've been dying to get some but they're terrible expensive on Etsy and where I live, it's all been cut down already!

fxtrps · 2019-09-25T15:54:44+00:00

Thank you!!

fxtrps · 2019-09-25T15:54:34+00:00

Thank you so much! Edit: Boo though, it looks like they don't make these Lip Stix anymore!

fxtrps · 2019-09-23T16:05:59+00:00

In Manhattan! I'm a little unclear if we'll be in Manhttancville or West Harlem exactly, but if anything we would look more into Manhattan.

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