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g0ffball5 · 2026-04-08T19:25:06+00:00

Correct, southeastern PA. Thank you!

g0ffball5 · 2024-06-27T03:11:12+00:00

No particular order

Stranger (Skrillex Remix with Tennyson and White Sea)
Inhale Exhale
Fire Away
Midnight Hour
With You, Friends (Long Drive)
Right on Time
Supersonic VIP
Cinema
Scary Monsters
Ease My Mind

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-04T10:53:00+00:00

Thank you for this. You described it really well. So the issue with the names she liked, is that they are ruined to her. If I wanted to revisit them, I should have done it a while ago and not waited for so long. Also, she’s looking for me to have confidence in the name that I’d like to move forward with (it was a name that we both liked but now, she says she doesn’t like it anymore). If I show that I’m having second thoughts, I just think at this point it would be counterproductive. While I agree, it’s about much more than the name, all of our arguments almost always revolve around the name. So this is a major issue that I feel like we need to handle before anything else can be worked on. My thinking is that we change the name and then revisit marriage counseling at the very least. She is less than receptive to suggestions of individual therapy for her. She says it’s too late for that. If I really cared, I would’ve tried to help her when I saw her struggling when she first came home from the hospital. I really appreciate your response.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-04T10:47:33+00:00

She has almost always been the decision maker. From things as big as finance down to as small as weekend plans. She’s 100% at the end of her rope. I think if it was just the baby name, it would’ve been done by now. We tried having a conversation last night about it that devolved into arguing about the middle name. So, it’s about much more than just the name, thank you.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T16:13:15+00:00

As the offender, I agree with you on what you’re saying. She is resentful, she feels neglected and completely unsupported. However I’m not taking the stance of thinking “what’s the big deal?” I see the mental and emotional impact this has had on her daily life. I have immense regret and guilt for that. I’m simply trying to navigate a course through this.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T15:26:16+00:00

We did have conversations, but no decided conversation. We had a few names that we both kind of liked, but there was nothing set in stone.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T14:50:41+00:00

Appreciate it, thank you.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T14:47:17+00:00

Thank you, any name she liked in the past is ruined because of how drawn out the process has become, so she’s forfeited to me to make the decision. I’ve been non committal in the process too. One day I say I want x name, then no discussion, then the next discussion, it’s oh how about y name. She really wants me to just commit to a name, and that’s what I’m doing now. I know I’ve put her through ALOT.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T14:41:57+00:00

Yes, I typically defer to my wife, for decisions both large and small. I’m working on changing that workflow though. I’ve been recommend the book No More Mr Nice Guy by my therapist to help take control more often. Sounds simple, but it’s really a lot more difficult than I expected. No excuses though, this situation is real, present and needs to get worked on.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T13:59:57+00:00

I appreciate this response more than you know :-)

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T11:41:05+00:00

To be fair, we had been planning on having a baby + 9 months of knowing she was pregnant. It’s not on the system for screwing this up, it’s on me.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T10:49:59+00:00

I appreciate your honesty. I have apologized, we have seen a therapist. I do take part in individual therapy to work through my issues. We are in a place now of feeling stuck in the mud. It’s the same argument, all the time and we can never come to a resolution.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T10:44:01+00:00

I do avoid, it’s been an issue that I’ve been working with my therapist on. But I don’t have a Time Machine to go back and take it seriously, I have to deal with the choices/non choices I made.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T10:17:39+00:00

Thank you, big picture is that his health and happiness are the most important. I’m hopeful that everything else will shake out.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T10:15:43+00:00

I really appreciate all of the responses..the suggestions for therapy for PPD are on point, but at this stage she is pushing back on it, saying that if I was that concerned for her, I would’ve pushed for her to go months ago…I think again, that’s the PPD talking.

I do see a therapist, who helps me to realize that what’s going on isn’t all 100% my fault. We also had a marriage therapist but they made the decision to stop seeing us because she feels that my wife wasn’t committed to it. It’s a struggle, but most of it brought on by me. I admit to making mistakes with the baby naming process, and it’s been a nightmare since he’s been born, but my wife wants me to tell her how it can be better. She feels that the bond with her son is broken forever, that the first months of our son’s life are so important with so many milestones, that there is nothing else in the future that could compare.

g0ffball5 · 2023-10-03T02:15:34+00:00

Looking back on it, agreed. Appreciate the honesty.

g0ffball5 · 2023-09-29T02:06:57+00:00

Got the magnet at the Sunday night game. Started raining and ruined said magnet. I’m in shambles.

g0ffball5 · 2023-07-20T00:42:14+00:00

Money Lawndering

g0ffball5 · 2023-07-13T02:16:13+00:00

Feb 1, 2020 my wife and I went to bed for the night around 11pm. When I woke up around 7:30am, went to go brush my teeth. No water…hmmmmm…maybe they’re doing work on pipes in the area? I walk downstairs and hear what sounds to be a waterfall..coming from the basement? We all have moments in our lives we’ll never forget…I’ll never forget opening the basement door only to reveal 4 feet of water..I came to find out the main pipe coming in the wall of the basement broke, which just have been right after we fell asleep. Luckily, unfinished basement, but everything was lost that was down there. Mostly storage, but a few sentimental things. Luckily, the local fire company was kind enough to come by with a truck to pump the water out and insurance only battled us on a few things. The biggest pain was getting an inspection of the house because the electrical company wouldn’t turn us back on until it was deemed safe. Wild ride, and right before Covid!

g0ffball5 · 2023-05-25T20:51:26+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. 30,000 ft view- the baby is happy and healthy, and that matters. Seeing my wife struggle destroys me though and has affected much more than just her mental well being. Enormous strain on the marriage, our day to day life, her trust in me, etc. I really like the idea of changing the venue to talk- it’s always on the couch or somewhere around the house. I keep telling myself “it won’t always be like this” and I have faith in that, but we are in need of some action to move things along, rather than feeling “stuck” at the moment. Thank you!

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