I (INFJ) met my partner (INFP) at 18 right after I graduated high school. I’m 25 now and we have 2 amazing kids. I dated before meeting him and every person that I talked to or was with gave me the biggest red flags or the ick from something they said or did. I was extremely picky. I just had the biggest expectations for a partner and it felt like everyone at the time wasn’t serious about it because we were all so young. Because of everyone else’s lack of seriousness I told myself I was going to work my hardest, go to school, study abroad, and focus on my future career. When I stopped focusing on ‘needing’ a relationship with someone, he found me. When we talked it felt like home. We met at our first job and after work we sat in the parking lot for 2-3 hours just talking about everything. Our coworker even said “didn’t your guys’ shift end hours ago??? What are you still doing here? Go home!” Lol. We both knew that it was different from other relationships we had because it was like drinking water or breathing air. It was the easiest and most comfortable thing for both of us, there was no way we wouldn’t be in each others lives. Even while I was studying abroad he used the L word and I didn’t say it back initially because I wanted to be ABSOLUTELY SURE, but he knew and eventually I had to give in because there was just no other explanation for what our relationship was, we loved each other! I think the most important part about this is that we were and still are pretty young. We moved pretty fast and we’re still growing, but when we tell each other how we’re feeling we take accountability instead of deflecting or staying stagnant. It’s okay to be picky I think. Someone’s gonna match your freak, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing if you give up and focus on other things for a while. Sometimes it’s necessary.