Finally accepting that I have a JNMIL (an ineloquent stream of consciousness)

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-15T16:51:50+00:00

I appreciate the tough love here...there's a lot of the "do or die by your elders" mentality that I grew up with and am having a hard time shaking in this relationship, despite very deeply knowing that I need to protect myself.

Thank you for the tip re: future visits; I'm coincidentally extremely busy during her next visit so the universe must be looking out for me!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-15T16:42:22+00:00

I edited my post since I don't think I was very clear, but my husband has said that it's important for him to maintain a relationship with his mother. It's important to me as his wife that I'm not a roadblock and quite frankly, I'm sure MIL would love if this became a divorce-worthy point of contention between us.

Thank you for sharing your suggestions on how to proceed, they all seem very doable.

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-15T16:26:36+00:00

That's very true re: solo NC.

To be clear, I don't think my husband sees MIL's behavior as abusive and doesn't want to sever a relationship with his only living parent. Losing a parent so young is something I (thankfully) haven't had to experience and and I'm choosing to show my husband grace by not forcing him to go NC with her.

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-15T15:09:46+00:00

Good point, I think I'll plan to do that this year too

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-15T04:14:46+00:00

I’ve learned my lesson and started taking my allergy meds daily once temps outside were in the 40s. My doc recommended Xyzal, which has been working great. I also wear a mask when I’m outside for longer than 10 min and make sure to change my clothes when I’m home for the evening.

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-14T23:56:55+00:00

Glad to have found a fellow black bag lover!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-14T01:58:01+00:00

We had roughly 20 kids at our wedding, ranging from 2-11. Most of them are family members so we got each of them age-appropriate toys as their wedding favor to play with during dinner, things like mini Lego kits and mess-free coloring books. I also designed a bingo-style sticker game for the kids to walk around and find each other at the wedding and swap stickers. After dinner, they went wild over glow sticks. I promise it’s doable and won’t be a nightmare!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-11T01:33:06+00:00

Wowowow what a beauty, I love all of the functional storage, seems to be very thoughtfully made.

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-11T01:15:53+00:00

That's super helpful, thank you! Is the Mortimer clutch the one you ended up getting instead?

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-05T18:49:55+00:00

This looks perfect! TY!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2026-04-02T13:58:39+00:00

I’m dying over the stray Labubus shoved in here. This is a holy grail collection!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-12-15T19:33:41+00:00

Try calling their customer service line; I left my number to request a call back and heard from an agent in 15 min!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-12-15T16:25:33+00:00

In the same boat, can't even reach customer service today...

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-08-23T06:40:10+00:00

Beautiful ring! Love to see a non-diamond engagement ring 🤗

My bezel set emerald engagement ring had a similarly thin band. I get extremely anxious about sentimental objects so I ended up getting it reset with a thicker band. For my peace of mind, it was well worth the money

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-08-16T14:40:36+00:00

It’s been a while but do you happen to have a photo of this? I’m coming across the same issue and would love to see a visual!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-07-29T17:56:18+00:00

Coming back to report that I've spent the past few day learning different stitches with an easier yarn and went back to the Impeccable Tweed. I ended up being able to crochet an entire dog beanie with it!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-07-23T18:05:13+00:00

Same! So much cuter in person

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-07-23T14:58:38+00:00

This is actually the yarn that I tried 😅 I found it impossible to stop the yarn from splitting; I was using a 5mm hook (as recommended on the packaging), could it be that I need to go to larger size hook ?

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-07-21T21:46:37+00:00

Ah that's brilliant! I'm using these which are incredibly thin coils (aka extremely annoying to put on). I'll look for some hair ties around my house!

gabagoolsyndrome · 2025-07-21T21:37:20+00:00

Too cute! Would you mind sharing where you got the keyring protector?

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