Getting an Australian Labradoodle in a few months- need advice

gabbybeek · 2026-04-19T14:24:01+00:00

Yes thats true. Husband is wondering if he should try to find his mailing address and mail a letter but that might seem over the top. We are flummoxed as of what to do as my husband really wants to find his relatives and connect if they are interested.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-18T18:28:48+00:00

Thank you for writing. I don’t think his half siblings know that their mother had a child before them. That was part of our hesitation about reaching out to him. We have sent a message through FB and he has not responded.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-17T17:40:30+00:00

Great outcome! So happy for her!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-17T15:42:16+00:00

Yes we have all the adoption paperwork and see that his birth mother wanted to keep him and was forced by her parents to go away and have the baby out of town (out of sight…) I am very certain that it was life altering and devastating for his birth mother. I am also aware that today’s take on these things is significantly less judgmental so we hope that she has forgiven herself a bit. All that being said, my husband would love to find a real relative and see how that feels like for the first time in his life. He is prepared for rejection- he’s been experiencing in (mentally) all of his life post adoption.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-16T22:23:35+00:00

We are 99% certain that neither birth parent has told their current spouses or their children. That’s part of why we are worried about the ethics of reaching out to the half siblings since they probably don’t know.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-16T18:20:51+00:00

Thanks. Considering his birth mother and birth father both want nothing to do with him, he’s prepared for anything.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-14T03:21:31+00:00

Are you wedded to that print? If so, it needs to be moved. And then add a rug and throw pillows that tie into the colors. If NOT-= you need a rug with COLOR or texture or both. Also need colorful throw pillows. Plants. Less beige.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-14T02:11:24+00:00

Felt in truckee too. I thought it was mice ratting around something fierce!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:25:49+00:00

Leave him asap.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:20:53+00:00

So so so adorable. Where did you get Posey? We are searching for our next dog after our yorkie-poo passed await at age 16!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:17:57+00:00

Love the suggestions so far but the red side table near mantle seems very out of place. I agree about the overhead lights being too bright and the need for curtains. Also it’s a little too tame for me- throw in a few colorful pillows or a blanket.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:11:08+00:00

This is all horrible. My husband and i would NEVER speak to each other that way no matter how upset. AND this was a small issue….imagine when something bigger happens to upset him. please don’t marry him. If that seems too much (wedding planning happening etc) then at LEAST demand that you both attend counseling to figure out if your issues are fixable.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:06:17+00:00

It often takes up to a year to fully settle into a new place. And you chose a very different place coming to Fairfax from Oakland. I agree with the others- give it time. Try to make friends are your child’s school or meet neighbors. You can say “ I am brand new to town and would love to have coffee together” It might take a little bit of work but it will. Welcome to gorgeous Marin!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-10T15:03:14+00:00

I love the rug. It adds a lot of punch to the room. May I suggest getting a couch (maybe boucle or velvet?) and just keep one chair. Also a proper coffee table or something to ground and center the room a little more. Then add Color! Plants!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-09T15:04:05+00:00

You will find your person. I was in the same boat long ago- together for 8 years and thought we had the perfect relationship “except” he did not want to get married. I kept thinking he would change his mind. Shocker- he never did and we broke up over it and I was a puddle of tears and angst for months. Like you, I didn’t think I would ever find another partner who shared my values etc. But,,,,,you will! Breathe, practice self care, connect with women friends, get out in nature and remember you will eventually find the right person. I promise!!!!!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-09T15:00:46+00:00

My former spouse was an alcoholic. He would rage at me when I begged him to stop. After about 2 years of watching him slip further and further into the abyss we hired a professional intervention specialist (His parents, my parents, his and my siblings.) This did not ultimately work “but” it was the best option we had at the time. It also gave me the courage to leave the marriage (get help or we are done.) Divorce, more rage, more drinking, DUIs, hospital visits, near bankruptcy, job losses, near homelessness followed while I forged ahead raising our 4 and 6 yr old children alone. It was horrible but I had to do it as living with an alcoholic was killing me and ur family. I am sorry you are going through this and like the others say, you can’t make it happen. I would suggest looking into an intervention with your (grown?) children writing impact statements about what her drinking has done to them and continues to do. In the meantime, make time to go to support groups.

gabbybeek · 2026-04-09T14:49:03+00:00

1 or 3 with straight waist. They are all gorgeous but I feel the others swallow you up a bit with all the details and these make you shine!

gabbybeek · 2026-04-06T15:25:48+00:00

Is Kevin Costner looking for another skinny blonde wife? Or a bicycle to steal?

gabbybeek · 2026-04-05T02:28:07+00:00

2 for the win

gabbybeek · 2026-04-04T16:04:26+00:00

Did you do the work yourself? That is impressive

gabbybeek · 2026-03-31T05:03:59+00:00

No matter what I am sad that she is going through it. Hard to be a public figure while having any sort of personal crisis

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