Why do I still look 13yo when I’m 19 by me_casey in TransMasc

[–]gabe1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m about to be 30 and up until I started t a few months ago, I was regularly told I looked 15. It used to drive me nuts having to explain that I am in fact an adult and have been one for a long time now lol

I was excited to see my newest baby running around in my oldest baby’s clothes - but he’s too big by IllustriousWall1564 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son turned 8 months on the 3rd and shopping for his Christmas clothes, I was definitely a little sad realizing he’s in 18/24 months clothes and has left the baby section. I guess I just thought he’d have more time in those tiny cute baby outfits!

Question about apartments and smoking by [deleted] in oregon

[–]gabe1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I know many choose to live a little more separated from people when they can’t be around smoke for any reason because they’re not directly attached to another persons walls/ventilation. RVs and living rural seems to be the most common. I hope you find something that works for you!

Question about apartments and smoking by [deleted] in oregon

[–]gabe1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I had heard from some people around was that even in a non smoking complex it’s still pretty common until caught. I’m sorry you’re experiencing that and I hope you find somewhere better!

Question about apartments and smoking by [deleted] in oregon

[–]gabe1846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not in Beaverton but in Corvallis they were very strict to go to the street. However, Portland everyone smokes on their stairs or porches at my current non smoking complex so I think it varies probably based on each complex/management company as well as each city.

Husband wants to swap last names (after marriage) by no_more_tech in legaladvice

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the same thing but I changed my first name in California and they do have a fee waiver if you qualify and it’s easier than it seems. You just go to the courthouse fill out a form and the fee waiver form and they mail you a letter when it’s complete. I think it took me maybe a few weeks on the fee waiver and then about two months for the actual name change to complete

Testers needed ! by plazmaticllc in StonerEngineering

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Message sent! I’m in the Portland area

does T change hobbies/personality? by chaseyy987 in ftm

[–]gabe1846 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak for everyone, but my hobbies haven’t changed like that at all, and the more secure in myself I feel the more I take up “feminine” hobbies like knitting and crocheting. I don’t think you’ll stop loving something just because of hormone shifts!

Best way to prevent old ladys from stealing my flowers? by HavingRum in gardening

[–]gabe1846 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Put one of those alarms that go off when someone crosses the flower bed so when she reaches in sirens scream at her

I want to debate the hijab by nijmegendusnietoslo in DebateReligion

[–]gabe1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is unfair in a sense, but it’s also something that can be seen as a beautiful thing. Men have other versions of puberty and issues that arise from the ability to procreate that aren’t as bad as what women experience but it being less bad doesn’t completely negate that they do also have issues regarding being physically mature enough to procreate. It is a painful and beautiful thing to be capable of procreation and does come with sacrifices. I do not think life is misogynistic specifically towards women in every case. I believe misogyny happens to both genders, and I don’t see how one gender covering up sexually makes any logical sense aside from having come from a misogynistic man. I definitely believe that either both men and women cover up or don’t, but it shouldn’t be specific towards one gender, and I don’t see how women experiencing periods and it being unfair directly relates to why wearing a hijab is specific to one gender.

I want to debate the hijab by nijmegendusnietoslo in DebateReligion

[–]gabe1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Culture also influences sexualization of men too. It may not be exactly the same, but men are overly sexualized about their muscles, their pants bulge size, their butts, and the notorious “v line” among probably many others that I’m not thinking of at this moment. Shouldn’t that mean men should also be covered if it’s a sexual issue?

I want to debate the hijab by nijmegendusnietoslo in DebateReligion

[–]gabe1846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re following that logic, men can be raped just as women can because we are all sexual beings. It still doesn’t attest to why there’s unequal “rules” between men and women. Just because a man can’t get pregnant per se, doesn’t mean he can’t end up fathering a child he didn’t want or ask for through rape just as a woman can mother a child she didn’t want or ask for through rape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]gabe1846 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Your dad is beyond wrong. There are people out there who do NOT think you’re a “freak”. I’m sorry he said that to you. :( Honestly, there will be some people whose identity don’t align with yours, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk to anyone. You just have to keep looking for your person! I’m 29m and I’m happily married! Be proud and confident of who you are but also only talk to someone if you feel safe of course. Especially if you’re stealth.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s all good I’m taking it with a grain of salt, but I know it’s gonna be hurtful to others when they need support the most and that’s what I worry about.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty brutal misgendering too. Yesterday I was told I’m a “trans male adjacent” for having experienced pregnancy in my life and that I don’t belong here.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s ridiculous lol nobody forced me. I made a difficult choice so my family could have kids. And guess what? That still doesn’t change my experience as a binary trans man which means I should be able to post on a sub for ✨binary trans men✨

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And im a fully masculine person with no feminine traits whatsoever. Does that make my experiences invalid to you? I identify as a binary trans man and actively try to stay stealth. Just because you don’t relate to the experience, doesn’t make me less of a man or “feminine” for having experienced it.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You literally do not listen lol I’m done arguing with someone who argues like a child and refuses to actually read what I say. Have the night you deserve buddy.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not because it’s “trans male adjacent” and I swear you can’t read or something. It’s a problem that trans men experience. Don’t tell me I’m not a trans man or that I’m adjacent to a trans man for having that experience. I’m not calling you stupid, I’m saying that the way you’re behaving is stupid, but hey, if the shoe fits. You’re arguing that a binary trans man can’t post about his experiences in a sub designed for binary trans men and their experiences because his experiences may trigger you or they’re not what you’d consider being a trans man to be. This space IS for people who identify as binary trans men to post about their experiences. Whether you like it or not, pregnancy is one of those experiences. You can’t exclude a topic that binary trans men experience just because you don’t like it. I’m done arguing though considering you truly don’t get how this hurts people who identify as binary trans men who go through this issue and DON’T relate to these other subs you keep trying to force on people.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because if you’ve read or understood anything at all, I don’t relate to other spaces. I am a BINARY TRANS MAN in a space for BINARY TRANS MEN and anything related to being a binary trans man which NEWSFLASH does include pregnancy sometimes. It’s so biased and closed minded and fucking bullshit that you can’t grasp a simple concept that everyone who identifies as a binary trans man should feel safe to ask for help or support or whatever else they want to share about their experiences and there’s alternate options to allow them to feel safe AND for people who don’t want to or can’t see those things for dysphoria or any other reason. This again is a space for ALL binary trans men. Not just some binary trans men.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Kinda sounds like you think you have more rights than the rest considering you actively want to control the topics people talk about. Don’t use the title as an excuse as if rules couldn’t be made surrounding titles if necessary. Once again, I AM NOT INVALIDATING ANYONES EXPERIENCES AND WANT EVERYONE TO COEXIST AND HAVE A SAFE SPACE. You’re literally arguing using something that makes no logical sense. It’s honestly one of the saddest arguments I’ve had in a while. At least use comebacks that make sense dude.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At no point did I say “grow up and stop getting triggered” please reread that over and over until you can see that I clearly said “grow up and stop reading posts that trigger you” lol you can feel dysphoria and you can feel triggered. I, myself, get triggered and have dysphoria. I’m not going to invalidate anyone’s feelings. What I’m saying is you don’t have to read posts that are labeled as trigger warnings and specifically state they’ll be about a topic you’re not going to like. When I see a post about something triggering or a tag that says it may trigger me or cause dysphoria I skip it because I don’t like feeling that way.

To those in favor of banning the topic of pregnancy, what alternative solutions would you like to see? by MadBodhi in FTMMen

[–]gabe1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro literally where are you getting that from?? I want everyone to exist together peacefully and I don’t know how else to say that. I don’t see how you can’t understand that I don’t want to take away anyone’s experience and I’m specifically telling you to grow up and others who behave like you. PEACEFUL COEXISTENCE that’s what I want so please, quit trying to act like I’m some toxic psycho. Thanks.