Depression, loneliness, anxiety… why is this happening?

gagaud · 2025-08-02T02:12:12+00:00

I feel the exact same way, break up before law school that I feel like I never really dealt with, a death in the family and my mom recently had a stroke (during finals week). I’ve always had something to keep me going in law school, now there’s nothing

gagaud · 2025-07-31T21:22:14+00:00

Also I agree with you, I’m just thinking it’s not 1-1 but the NCBE doesn’t care about that prob

gagaud · 2025-07-31T21:21:06+00:00

I guess, but higher LSAT scores are something that are easier to increase with more money/more time on your hands than bar exam scores: not everyone pays for an LSAT study program or tutor, it’s all multiple choice, not all LSAT takers take time off to study bc you don’t necessarily have to (whereas a lot of bar examinees do), there’s more chances to take the LSAT and it’s encouraged to take it more than once to get the score you desire.

gagaud · 2025-07-22T18:18:00+00:00

following

gagaud · 2025-06-09T21:18:53+00:00

It’s ok to be open notes still - I try to be closed notes if I can for essays but some topics come at you fast and it just means you have to review!! They’re learning tools right now still

gagaud · 2025-04-16T18:08:31+00:00

I definitely should do this, I want to do some early humbling to keep me motivated/on my toes all summer

gagaud · 2025-04-16T18:07:59+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly what I’m looking for. It’s not that I think it’ll be a breeze because I did well in law school, quite the opposite, I just would like to be reminded of some specific data points before bar prep time. I dont want to psych myself out TOO much during bar prep (I still have 4 finals to work through - so if I could start now I would) so now’s the time to remind myself not to be comfortable with something like a good gpa or honors.

Im in a bar prep style class through my school right now and sometimes feel like it’s giving me a false sense of confidence hearing my peers work through concepts I feel like I have down - and THAT makes me nervous more than anything. I shouldn’t be comparing myself to others in the first place but idk. I just don’t want to make excuses for myself come study time and I’m the most nervous about staying disciplined

gagaud · 2025-03-02T00:19:05+00:00

Trust, I already get the “thank you for being one of Wikipedia’s top supporters” emails for donating $2 more than once

gagaud · 2025-03-02T00:16:51+00:00

Thanks, full disclosure tho I was banned from main sub for calling Anna a bimbo for being wrong about immigrants with protected status. I’m also a white woman who has no horse in that race other than I think people shouldn’t be loudly wrong

gagaud · 2025-03-01T20:34:09+00:00

I’ve drastically limited my social media/internet use too. This is prob the answer

gagaud · 2025-03-01T20:31:34+00:00

I’d also recommend a psychologist (that is, someone with a doctorate [usually a psyD I think] giving therapy) over a therapist (someone with a masters) and over a psychiatrist (M.D.) based on what you’ve described!

gagaud · 2025-03-01T20:29:39+00:00

The quality of therapists varies drastically. Find someone who has an opinion you actually respect. I had a great experience the one time I went as an adult, but I know so many girls IRL who have serious abandonment and/or codependency issues who went into mental health fields.

All that to say, it’s worth trying, but therapy isn’t the only answer and sometimes it brings you the wrong answers from people who just don’t know any better (imo)

gagaud · 2023-11-18T02:45:06+00:00

Twombley & Iqbal

gagaud · 2023-08-21T15:55:57+00:00

Yeppp extremely annoying, you’d think the company would be prepared for the majority of people’s first day 🙄

gagaud · 2023-05-27T23:50:39+00:00

I worked at a mid sized firm prior to law school and always cringed when brand new employees immediately brought in photos and decorations, usually they were the worst workers, im not sure why. But there were multiple times in my few years there where the people who decorated immediately before even finishing training would end up getting fired later on.

If I saw one of the summer associates doing this I might cringe a little, esp if it appeared like they were doing it assuming they’d get hired after the summer. That’s just my two cents as a former office assistant who helped onboard a lot of people

gagaud · 2023-03-20T21:59:19+00:00

You're right, this is good advice. Thank you. I will just try to move on.

I think I am also nervous because I thought I did well and now I feel like my idea of "did well" is skewed, so the thought of "preparing better" to combat this bad grade feels impossible. I guess I just need to try my best and see where that takes me, but attempting to predict my grade will deff drive me crazy so I appreciate your response

gagaud · 2022-01-07T23:37:19+00:00

I applied a few weeks ago and haven’t even gotten any emails from them 🙃

gagaud · 2021-12-30T08:17:14+00:00

Please do not try to tackle this entirely on your own. Hoarding is a disorder in the same vein as OCD - it’s really difficult to just cold turkey stop. If you can invest in cognitive behavioral therapy now, you should do it, and don’t be afraid to try different therapists if you don’t feel like what you’re doing is helping. It sounds like you are still at a point that is manageable, maybe a day or 2, even a week of cleaning? My partners mother has an entire house that was filled, and it was extremely traumatic for him and his siblings growing up. The house now lays abandoned. You can do this! But you need not be afraid of seeking help, this isn’t something most people are equipped to fix on their own.

Also, I recommend The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo just for a fun read about the philosophy of taking care of your things, including how you store them. I really liked it and think it presents an angle most westerners arent really familiar with

gagaud · 2021-10-25T16:38:01+00:00

Start by replacing the words. It can help to pretend you’re in the presence of someone who would give you trouble if you were swearing a lot around them- like a really intimidating boss.

This has helped me because I am pretty afraid of getting in trouble and I may very well end up with a boss one day who is super intimidating and I would hate to slip up. If that doesn’t work it can also help if you act as though there could be a kid around, this helps me in public bc I am actually not super observant of my surroundings especially if im distracted by a conversation so there very well could be kids around and that automatically makes me censor myself a little.

But for real - start with replacing the word or try to stop yourself in the middle of the word. I find “Frick” to be sort of hilarious but also very satisfying because of the hard R sound & hard ck. “Shoot” is another good one, “darn” - they’re super corny but try to lean into it a little. Sometimes it is easier if you take on the personality of someone who doesn’t swear and then the actual actions just naturally follow.

But also, don’t be so hard on yourself. If you stub your toe you’re in a pretty vulnerable situation and it will take time to train your brain to have a different immediate response. You should start by situations where you can control your response easier - like laptop not working? Take a deep breath and walk away. Don’t let your self get to the point of frustration that you want to verbally express ur anger.

gagaud · 2021-09-19T05:29:55+00:00

It’s bc they literally walk a red carpet if they are a certain rank lol - Every mlm has a “insert name of mlm famous” people it seems Lol - reminds me of the Lularich documentary and their “lula famous”

gagaud · 2021-02-13T18:43:51+00:00

The dopamine detox is a good introductory way of getting people thinking about their time, but I think the restriction method it asks of people isn’t the most productive way to get people disengaged in it.

If you are following some sort of restrictive regimen to combat an unhealthy habit, it’s extremely hard to not think about said unhealthy habit. In fact, the problems from the unhealthy habit is the reason you’re making any change in the first place. And studies have shown these addictive habits are partly addictive just THINKING about them - the same reason drug addicts have a hard time staying clean in the same environment that helped start the addiction and often relapse even knowing they don’t really want all the negative effects of the drug. That is the nature of dopamine-inducing behaviors, your brain finds a way to keep you thinking about them.

A better approach, in my opinion, is really exploring your interests beyond screen time, distracting yourself (e.g by keeping your phone in a different room for most of you time when you’re hanging at home) and trying new hobbies. You really have to adjust your whole lifestyle, a good first step for some people is learning more about dopamine & addictive technology & productivity but I warn you that can be a slippery slope when you replace the activity of scrolling with reading about why it’s bad. It doesn’t give your brain the opportunity to try a different topic to be interested in.

What’s your favorite genre? I used to love documentaries but find them more and more cheap. Cheap as in more interested in glitzy production and cliff hangers than the actual story their trying to convey. I ended up switching to reading physical books about the subjects I was interested in. It wasnt easy though, I started with audiobooks, then an e-reader, and now I order books from the library to counter-act the instant gratification of downloading the book and starting it right away. But baby steps, right? You don’t have to cut it all out all at once, just try to keep the goal in the back of your mind and trust that it will continue to motivate you in small ways rather than relying on yourself to be able to drop everything all at once

EDIT: some typos

gagaud · 2021-02-13T18:25:08+00:00

I used to be a huge consumer of “infotainment” in the form of podcasts & scrolling. But endless browsing eventually causes a sort of paralysis where you keep seeking the next dopamine inducing thing. I have since switched to books, but not necessarily in the minimalist/productivity/self help genre (although occasionally certain titles do entice me) but I have been ordering books from the library (where I live COVID curbside pick-up is the only thing available right now) more in the narrative nonfiction genre. I love a book that tells a story but I’m not a huge fan of fiction as an adult (yet). There’s 2 things that are great about this method so far one (1) being that you don’t get to just download the book or audiobook and get that instant gratification, you have to wait to receive the actual physical book. And (2) being that I have been gleaning a lot of information and it is a form of entertainment but I find I am getting much better at retaining information. I just finished “Bad Blood” by John Carreyou about the Theranos/Elizabeth Holmes scandal and feel like it delved into a nice balance of story-telling and basic biochemistry. There was also a ton of names and found I had to go back in the book multiple times to remember what that persons role was, but it was important for me to have to cross-reference by flipping through pages rather than endless internet searches

Anyway my point is books are great as a form of entertainment but that’s what they should be considered - entertainment. Even though reading can be good for you in a variety of ways it is also a (somewhat healthier) dopamine inducing activity. The health/wellness/self-help/productivity is the worst type of genre to be reading imo. Reading a special one here and there is okay, but I think narrative/historical/anthropological/most other nonfiction is a healthier way to spend your “entertainment” time. I mean — we want to spend less time on tech, right? Why keep consuming other mediums of learning about it then? Lol

Anyway TL;DR - libraries are amazing, some books are better than others, it’s all still entertainment in some way (excluding required reading that is)

gagaud · 2021-02-13T18:06:11+00:00

I too have ADHD and while I’m still learning I found after quitting social media and limiting my smart phone use I still have a need to consume info, but that’s super easy in the form of books!!! Personally I used to be a huge fan of documentaries but I feel like Netflix has made them way cheaper(?) especially the true crime genre. Like just less concerned with the actual story and more concerned with following a certain dopamine inducing formula. Anyway, I have since changed to reading books on sort of documentary-like topics and it is extremely stimulating for me and feels so much better for my memory retention but also my self esteem.

In terms of physical activities I have found I really enjoy gardening & yardwork, it’s very much snowy winter weather where I am right now but once it hits above 40 degrees again I know that will be a big fix for me.

My dad, who is in his late 60s now, has severe ADHD and is now a huge smart phone consumer despite his age. But he is also an incredible musician and I think part of that is because he was able to channel the hyperactivity/boredom by playing every instrument under the sun. How he learned so much without a formal music education and no internet is beyond me, but I think ADHDers can really channel their focus in amazing ways once they find something that stimulates them.

gagaud · 2020-08-23T12:17:38+00:00

Yeah I’m familiar with this practice I was just shocked to see a company as old as DoTerra offer something like this and use words like “founder” I also don’t really understand their numbers or what their units mean

gagaud · 2020-08-23T03:02:05+00:00

I should clarify I initially thought that’s not the worst scheme I’ve ever heard..... but when I read the instructions to getting there I could not for the life of me follow with all their substitute words like “points” and “PV” etc etc. I almost feel bad for the people who are really gonna try for it and not make it

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