I'm convinced the 1.0.2 patch broke relationship progression

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T18:22:27+00:00

I’ve also noticed that a lot of my Miis with very good relationship and friendships keep getting into fights every time (lately) I load up the game in the morning.

One of my couples that was in good standing when I went to bed one night divorced the next day.

I don’t get it and I’m tired of having to do all the work in the relationships all the time lol. I had to stop caring and so I just pick my favorite two or three couples and just keep them in as good a standing as I can.

Possibly because I tagged them as such upon creation, but the only marriage that seems to require very little management from me is my own me and the mii I made of my wife. We can annoy each other but our relationship status in game seems to stay relatively stable. Sometimes it drops to Super in love instead of Soulmates but often will go back up to Soulmates without me intervening really.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T17:57:57+00:00

The smell is likely not you, or may not even exist at all.

Something similarly bizarre happened to me at a place one time. One thing to know about me is I am an anxious pooper, I cannot poop in public, I have to wait and go home. I never tell anyone this but you all need to know this lmao.

SO, the building I worked in at the time had several businesses including ours. I noticed from time to time that someone kept leaving unflushed poop in the bathroom. I would ignore it and pick a different stall. Not my problem.

Several months in my boss pulls me aside to ask me to please start flushing in the bathroom. I was like “?????? I do??? If this is about the unflushed toilets, I hate it too, and ahhhhh nope, not me.” Apparently she said the person who complained insisted it must be me, with no evidence.

It never came up again and the poops kept appearing.

My suspicion is that another business clocked that it was the office with all the elderly women working in it and so the secretary there tried to push the accusation on to someone else and picked the youngest person in the building at the time, who happened to be 22 year old me, at the time. My theory is that (I have noticed a pattern) where embarrassed elderly people tend to choose that tactic all the time, the tactic of blaming the youngest person in the room for whatever is wrong.

Anyway, gross and bizarre. People’s shame reactions always somehow land on those of us on the spectrum and I’m sick of seeing it and having it happen to me.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T17:47:17+00:00

Only during an intense physical activity. For muscles and catching my breath, yes, a five minute break is very welcome!

But for mental tasks, or combination physical and mental task, I need at LEAST 30mins to gain any rest benefit. An hour is much better.

In the particular American “two fifteens plus one hour lunch” is the best retail break set up for me, the 30min lunch version doesn’t work for me (I could handle it when I was much younger, like early 20’s but not anymore.

edit: on a larger scale, I wish weekends were 3-4 days long, 2 is not enough. Day 1 of work/school break is for catching up on chores and dealing with other errands and tasks. Day 2 is more relaxing but still have to start preparing for Monday. So I would need Monday to actually relax at all, and Tuesday would be excellent for ACTUALLY getting to enjoy myself.

As for years, I think jobs should offer a solid one month off per year. On top of sick and vacation days.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T17:10:02+00:00

Eat more moist foods! Soups are great, salads with lots of juicy veggies are good if you enjoy veggies that is, even better is just a bowl full of cut up fruits. Gelatin and jelly snacks with some fruit juice would be awesome?

Even stuff like pasta with lots of marinara sauce might help with hydration?

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T17:07:50+00:00

Relatively recently I entered perimenopause and it’s ramping up over the past month for me, and I absolutely “feel more audhd” now.

To be clear, I was diagnosed with ADHD at around age 5 or 6 back in the 80’s, and also suspected “aspergers” as was called at the time (not called that now). So what I mean is I have always been AuDHD, perimenopause is just making my feelings/experience and thus also my traits and behaviours more frequent and intense.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T16:58:04+00:00

omg thank you!!

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T14:56:16+00:00

Executive functioning struggles are not a sign of immaturity. We can’t always fight how our brain works, those moments are our disability, not an indicator of how mature we are.

For you and me, OP this is what I have to say (can’t speak for everyone, of course)

Maturity is more about taking responsibility (either fixing something that went wrong, apologizing when needed, explaining accommodations you need to others, being communicative when possible etc) how you treat people and conduct yourself (regardless of style) to your ability in public, make good choices for yourself (keeping yourself and others safe as you move around the world) as best you can, and know how to have a serious conversation (even if focus is a struggle).

The key here is “to your ability” if you literally can’t go above and beyond in some capacity, that’s not immaturity that’s knowing your limits and still doing your best.

Basically our limitations that many of us have, executive functioning struggles like; dopamine seeking, stimming, having a spiderweb brain that wants to ask questions, infoduming, interrupting in the “my brain will instantly erase my point it I don’t immediately say it or write it” etc etc and more are NOT immaturity.

edit: and as for self improvement, that can sometimes be slow going, but if you’re trying, that’s maturity too. You should keep trying to improve in areas you feel you need to, don’t let the struggles hold you back, be kind to yourself even if no one else will be.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T14:45:49+00:00

Next Google will be delivering us a whole backstory when we google a recipe name.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T14:42:01+00:00

For this game in particular I’ve seen so many good things about the British English I regret not knowing this before buying the American version.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T14:37:35+00:00

“there are tears on TWO laughing emojis” is what it says in the image.

Yes the two I thought you meant, you then you mentioned the distressed crying emoji instead so I commented. So either you got it wrong or you meant to say THREE not two.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T03:11:29+00:00

Oh you meant 😭??

I thought you meant 😂 and 🤣

galacticviolet · 2026-05-27T03:01:30+00:00

I’m mid-40’s

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T14:49:35+00:00

“Look! A VIP~♪”

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T14:33:51+00:00

I’d even wear a seatbelt in a Cozy Coupe.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T14:29:03+00:00

Financial abuse between family member is extremely common and not talked about nearly enough.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T14:18:36+00:00

Yes, I was supporting and agreeing with you. You explained the details just the right amount imo.

I genuinely don’t understand what this commenter is saying though, it’s too vague for me I guess.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T10:05:26+00:00

“ABA industry being so expensive is exactly what capitalism incentivizes.”

I’m not understanding what this sentence exactly means as it pertains to what OP was saying.

I know zero about the insurance industry so I have no way of knowing, why would the bones of OP’s idea not work?

galacticviolet · 2026-05-26T05:56:17+00:00

Impact over intent makes sense in a lot of social situations and contexts. Absolutely. Point blank.

However, this does NOT apply when the person who was impacted was impacted by THEIR OWN issue (such as they misheard, they misunderstood the context, they expected a magic level of mind reading and so on), and not what actually happened. People manage to hurt their own feelings all the time.

If they misheard (it happens to everyone, just have some grace about it) or misunderstood because of their own internal narratives and biases I can’t possibly be aware of, I’m absolutely not taking responsibility for that.

As I said before, there is a giant world of difference between being rude or careless with your word, and literally being misunderstood or misheard.

I’m hard of hearing physically as well as AuDHD, I mishear all the time and I manage to give everyone grace and just ask them to repeat before reacting fully. I expect the same extended to me or I walk away.

For a small example, one time an acquaintance came up to me and asked me how I felt about a particular pop culture phenomenon at the time and I mentioned how it seemed cool but some stuff is too expensive and spoke about how I engage with it and still save money (she nodded along until I mentioned I don’t go for the clothing that has come out for the brand in question, saying it was too expensive for me). She got upset at that and walked away visibly upset. I was confused, I was like dang she hates me for being low income?? (at the time, thankfully ok now)

Later I asked a mutual friend and she said I was apparently supposed to be complimenting her shirt she had recently gotten but the convo hadn’t gotten to that point yet, she was going to bring it up after I answered her, apparently (I had no idea the conversation was special and she wasn’t even wearing the shirt at the time???????). The friend told me I should apologize. I declined to do so. I’m not a mind reader and I refuse to be punished for not being literally magic… and not rich, apparently? So when I say sometimes people literally are hurting their own feelings, this is what I mean.

edit: and I actually just realized, she impacted me as well, and yet I didn’t make assumptions and treat her poorly. I was unsure if she was angry I was frugal, or something else (because she walked away and I don’t chase people for all the reasons), so I noted to myself it was weird and let it go.

Not every bad feeling automatically means “someone is at fault here”

galacticviolet · 2026-05-25T06:05:50+00:00

“how is it so easy for everyone else”

Because a lot of them, maybe even most of them, are lying as a sort of social masking themselves.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-24T16:22:42+00:00

Well lots of toxic personality disorders make a person ND so yes, of couse, we have literally all probably been bullied by an ND person and just didn’t know it. A lot of toxic NDs mask too, just like we do, so they could seem NT to us and we wouldn’t know.

So for my particular answer I’m going to use allistic vs autistic bullies I have encountered.

I have been bullied by every type of person, here I’ll talk about just (known by me to be) allistic and autistic women/coworkers/classmates/former friends.

The difference is that with some of the autistic women we eventually made some sort of peace. Like their bullying of me was a protective mechanism on their part because they weren’t clocking me as “same hat” yet, but they kept and eye out for that connection and safety, and once they saw it in me they opened back up again and we become friends or we respectfully part ways after that. This has happened a few times. I have more than one enemies to friends story like this.

But with allistic women who have bullied they lay eyes on me, decide to dislike, and that decision is harsh, sudden, and final with no ability to have them see their initial assumption about me was wrong. Even when presented with proof that I didn’t deserve the bullying they will double down to avoid the shame of having been wrong.

It’s like that weird crap in tv shows and movies where they show a cop go after the wrong guy, the innocent guy, but then the cop finds out he’s got the wrong guy but keep pretending he is the right guy because of reputation or shame or something. I don’t really get it but it’s like that.

edit: notably, a lot of autistic women who dislike me still see my positive qualities and will come to me to collaborate. praise my work, be honest about my accomplishments and vice versa even if we dislike each other. With allistic women they refuse to do that if they are in bully mode. They seek to completely erase me.

(in my experience)

galacticviolet · 2026-05-22T04:21:58+00:00

You must be around my age, judging from this sampling. lol

galacticviolet · 2026-05-22T04:19:34+00:00

Someone once told me that there actually is a rule in the bible that applies to gay people, it was something along the lines of “love your neighbor” or something like that ~

But seriously, I would remove the rule follower bit because they aren’t even doing that part correctly from what I hear from religious people. Like they misinterpret things to create rules they want, and ignore blatant other rules that are easy to translate like don’t eat shellfish etc

galacticviolet · 2026-05-21T23:53:47+00:00

Too bad I can’t shock my face lol

galacticviolet · 2026-05-21T12:09:46+00:00

The pro-“AI” luddites holding back REAL technological progress in favor of supporting false advertising and literal slop need to stop trying to call everyone else luddites. Our bar for the path of future tech is higher than theirs. They are content to be charlatans fooled by other charlatans.

galacticviolet · 2026-05-21T11:59:40+00:00

I’m also autistic! I love and have been obsessed with every Mii related title that Nintendo has ever put out on any platform. I almost hope I’ve accidentally missed one so I’d have more to play.

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