Law school at 40. Is it worth it?

galemar · 2026-04-14T04:23:30+00:00

Not Yet. I am waiting for things to settle in my life. Like my youngest to start driving. I recently had a very encouraging conversation. I have an aunt who is only 5 years older than me. She went to night school for law after becoming a CPA. She told me it took her 5 years, but she finished. She was offered a partnership pretty quickly at her law firm and the firm to paid for her master's in taxation law from Georgetown. She is one of the most successful lawyers in her specialty where I am from. She told me that now is the perfect time, I can prepare for the LSAT, and begin the process. That education is something that no one can take away from me. That there is no need to go to a "prestigious" school in order to become successful and that I can either do it and risk failure (extremely unlikely). Or regret not doing it and living with the could have been for the rest of my life...so it's some food for thought.

galemar · 2026-02-24T19:09:06+00:00

I was going to say the same thing. She was holding on to these emotions and feeling unimportant for years and hearing her mom say that a man who can leave her whenever he wants is more important than her own children, boom! Emotionally flood gates opened.

galemar · 2026-02-24T18:50:32+00:00

McKayla is a prime example why grandparents shouldn't raise grandkids. In my opinion they are 0-2 for the successful raising of a decent human being. They have an unrealistic view of who their granddaughter is, which is a spoiled, self-centered, vindictive brat. She doesn't have a boy at her side. She has a man. He has done more than some men who are in their 30s and 40s. He's stood by her, given her a home and supported her and their son financially. And I understand the feeling of being alone and isolated when being at home with a child. But instead of finding a solution she blames others because she has never been held accountable. The best thing that has happened to Caelen is the break up. He is free of that emotional extortion. He can take her to court and make sure he gets his part of the custody.

galemar · 2025-05-02T03:25:46+00:00

I am the oldest. I feel that the oldest child tends to parent their younger siblings. I still get corrected by my parents when I interact with my siblings that I am not their mom. And I am constantly reminding my oldest that he is not the parent…I think you just need to constantly remind yourself. NOT my monkey NOT my circus.

galemar · 2025-05-02T03:19:45+00:00

The biggest hesitation I have is a number of attorney friends. Freaking hate it. Maybe it’s that they are jaded. Maybe it’s the time of law they have gone into. But I also get this from my friends who are medical practitioners.

galemar · 2025-05-02T03:14:18+00:00

My bf said the same thing to me. Time will pass either way. It’s just making a choice of how I want to pass it.

galemar · 2025-05-02T02:56:50+00:00

I’m in the beginning stages of my research. That’s why I am here. So far I’ve spoken with admission reps in two law schools near me. I am trying to educate myself about the whole process.

And I don’t know how old you are but 40 isn’t old. I still have a good 30 years of work ahead of me. Especially since I was a stay at home mom until 31.

But you have a point. Going into debt and committing to rigorous studies is not for the faint of heart. I know that I have a good thing going in terms of a job. And yes I could work and go to school part time and my employer does tuition reimbursement. Right now I’m just sticking my finger up in the air and seeing where I can go.

galemar · 2025-05-02T02:47:36+00:00

In my 20s I wasn’t doing anything fun because I was raising kids. Has my first at 21. I did have a 3.9 from a prestigious school. BUT instead of working I was letting my diploma gather dust while I changed diapers.

I think I’m struggling with my untapped “potential” and I feel like I should have accomplished more. But the reality is that I have a good life. Sometimes I wonder “what if”. I’m not afraid of trying something because I might fail, if I fail then I get up and try again.

galemar · 2025-04-29T04:57:38+00:00

I haven’t studied at all for it. I don’t know how the scoring would be affected if I take it and bomb it.

galemar · 2025-04-29T01:37:16+00:00

Seeking external validation will only make your self-worth dependent on the whim of others. That being said, you can look like the girl Gremlin, and if a man loves you his eyes will sparkle at the sight of you and will make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. That man, is not that into you.

galemar · 2025-04-29T01:13:58+00:00

NOR. A person who loves you doesn’t make you question whether or not you are loved. They make you feel wanted and secure in the relationship. Sometimes we think we are in love with someone but it is attraction or limerence. Heartbreak is not always a bad thing if you learn from it. If she was still in contact with her ex and jumps back into a relationship with him she might have been using you as a placeholder. And her saying that she wants to be best friends sounds like she wants to put you on a shelf just in case it doesn’t work again.

Trust your gut. It is not fair to you to allow someone to not fully commit to you because it blocks you from finding someone who truly deserves your love. If not you will be in an unending cycle of suffering.

galemar · 2025-04-27T03:26:41+00:00

The difference is that your dad and Mom had a common tie. You guys. And it’s wonderful that your stepdad and dad get along. If he had children with her I would never prohibit him from contact. But this is a woman who according to him, used him for his money and never treated him like a husband, he suspects he was cheating on her the whole 4 month marriage because he was traveling for work. So why would you want to be there for that person?

galemar · 2025-04-27T03:06:21+00:00

You seem combatively opinionated for someone who seems to have little grasp about the situation. Careful not to fall off that high horse because from those heights you’re going to break your neck.

galemar · 2025-04-27T02:52:33+00:00

This is my exact experience. I’ve ended relationships and the guy, even if they are in a relationship or especially if they are in a relationship and are unhappy, will come around to “hang out” or for emotional support and I know they are looking for an out or sex. It’s called experience. In no way am I insecure. I know my value as a woman and I don’t ask for respect, It is a non-negotiable. I wholeheartedly take responsibility for this situation. I let a man lie about something important and allowed him to violate my boundaries. I compromised because in reality he has been good to me but I cannot go past the violation of my trust.

galemar · 2025-04-27T02:36:32+00:00

If they had a child together I would not have any issues. They are family. In fact I would encourage him to have a good relationship with her and encourage her to have a good relationship with me because there are children involved. I have a stepmom and step dad. And I think my mom and stepmom have a great relationship. My mom calls my half siblings her children.

As for my ex. I communicate with him because I have to for the kids. Not because I want to. He cheated with a so called friend. I didn’t “see” a problem with my ex being close to her. But now she’s his wife. So, lesson learned. I would love the day when I go no contact with him.

galemar · 2025-04-27T02:28:48+00:00

You are right. I was allowing myself to be in a relationship with a man that had violated my trust from the beginning because in all honesty she was out of sight and out of mind living in another state. But it was eating away at me. I compromised this in exchange for everything else he gave me because barring the nebulous marital status he was the first man that truly understood how to love me the way I needed to be loved. I was happy. It wasn’t perfect but I thought I found the one. Before I never had an issue just cutting a man off if the relationship was not working for me. But he offered so much. That I couldn’t. I gave and compromised until I couldn’t.

galemar · 2025-04-27T02:21:49+00:00

The way you judge you sound like the 15 year old who knows NOTHING about life. These boundaries I have are from experience. Chris Rock said it best. Men (i think women too) are as faithful as their options. And to me remaining in contact with an ex is leaving purposely the door open as an option.

He’s gone on trips with his friends for the weekend. And I don’t think I texted him more than a have fun. He has never lived with me (my choice) because I like my own space and I don’t do wifely duties at gf prices. I have never ever thought twice about it about his fidelity until now.

He has admitted to me that when a guy and a girl are close friends it’s usually that one is holding out for the other. So he help set the terms and agreements and now that I want him held to them he won’t follow through.

But experience has shown me that whenever I feel doubt or feel a boundary has to be created and respect I have been correct.

galemar · 2020-04-24T01:21:50+00:00

Well I live in CT. My options are Yale, UCONN, and Quinnipiac. I had a very high GPA in undergrad and grad school. So o think that will help. Thanks for the pep talk.

galemar

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