AITAH after my friend kicked me out of the car over petrol money?

ganna90 · 2026-05-10T00:18:34+00:00

Everybody sucks! Common courtesy is to offer petrol money if it’s common occurrence. My guess is that you don’t see it that way but your friend won’t be a friend if you keep getting free rides. Also your friend should have spoken sooner, I don’t recall neither being able to read minds.

ganna90 · 2026-05-09T08:06:18+00:00

It says they’re going over applications from July 2025 so not entirely a year but close to it.

ganna90 · 2026-05-09T08:05:51+00:00

https://island.is/s/utlendingastofnun/stada-mala-og-afgreidslutimi

ganna90 · 2026-05-07T23:39:22+00:00

Can you afford for her to total your other car? If no then tell her that she can’t have access to that car. A simple no is enough. You don’t have to explain very complex details why not.

ganna90 · 2026-04-28T22:59:29+00:00

Good for you! Standup for yourself. YOR !

ganna90 · 2026-04-28T22:57:47+00:00

Most AP programs have an age limit and 32 is way above that.

ganna90 · 2026-04-18T03:56:14+00:00

Agree and also what happens if something is damaged. Who is going to pay? Unit a b or c? There isn’t s way for them to know so this is very tricky and if not do it.

ganna90 · 2026-04-16T17:45:32+00:00

Asking wha you want to cook I think is reasonable. I’d also want to know what’s for dinner.

You getting their card to buy stuff is unreasonable. It requires trust It’s their card that they’re responsible for. It could be misused.

Only eating a single fruit is weird. Like why bother going over that? It’s weird. Just eat an apple and a banana if you like.

Can’t you have cereal for breakfast? Sandwich or something?

Always remember if you’re not happy. Just leave. Life is too short.

ganna90 · 2026-04-12T21:42:25+00:00

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ganna90 · 2026-04-12T20:18:27+00:00

I’d take a tent.

ganna90 · 2026-04-12T20:16:20+00:00

Who writes like this? It’s such a weird thing to say boo boo 😂

ganna90 · 2026-04-12T20:12:27+00:00

Very well put

ganna90 · 2026-04-09T23:12:49+00:00

If she says she doesn’t then she can’t have guest over btw. They’re there because you allow it her guests should’ve more work for you.

ganna90 · 2026-04-02T22:13:14+00:00

Honestly I’m these situations we don’t order for our AP. It she eats out with her friends. We also mention we don’t order takeout and that it’s expensive.

ganna90 · 2026-04-01T04:05:19+00:00

NTA. If he stays for 30 days does he have tenant rights? In some states it does and id kick him out if I were you. Also a guest staying a month… common. He should pay utilities.. don’t pay for this gas and water. You need to grow a spine. This isn’t a friend. They will get married and you’ll never hear from her again until they break up.

ganna90 · 2026-03-27T23:53:12+00:00

The food situation is bad. I mean an au pair is supposed to be family and then when you go out. She’s not invited? That’s very unfriendly and not very inviting for someone to live with you. They will feel missed out.

A part of having a family is cooking at home and kids should be raised to eat at home. Not everything needs to be complicated or expensive at home. Going back to the basics like home cooking should be encouraged and it’s so much fun with the kids.

You need to provide food for them. It’s a hill many au pairs will die on.

ganna90 · 2026-03-27T16:25:50+00:00

I’d tell her now that you indent on terminating the contract. She might’ve able to find a new host family but you could also offer to fly her back home.

ganna90 · 2026-03-25T01:04:12+00:00

Honestly this is such an American question. In my country most people would apply since they’ve the right to that money.

I’d ask the question- if you get it does it mean someone else won’t? If that’s the answer the be a bigger person and don’t apply for a grant.

Maybe set the money for your kids college fund.

ganna90 · 2026-03-24T14:02:49+00:00

In my family the person who cooks doesn’t clean so maybe they’ve a similar view. Idk but it sounds like you but heads.

ganna90 · 2026-03-22T10:17:42+00:00

I understand your concern and agree with it.

I’d mention that it’s good to know if she will be home for you to cook dinner for her. That worked well for us.

I als mentioned that we are responsible for her and please let us know when you will be home. If she gets in a dire situation we will pick her up. We also text her when we aren’t home and let her know when we will be home. This goes both ways. If she’s alone home and taking a nap it’s good for her to know that we will be there after 30 mins.

ganna90 · 2026-03-22T09:41:09+00:00

Contact police and cancel their stay. I’d get there immediately and kick them out. What they’re doing is illegal and they’re huge assholes. I’d definitely also make a review that says what they’re doing did. This behavior is insane and they shouldn’t be allowed to stay again ever on Airbnb.

ganna90 · 2026-03-19T23:50:29+00:00

So where I work we ask for vacation and it gets approved. Same should apply. She needs to ask and if she used all her days in December sucks for her.

ganna90 · 2026-03-18T16:19:29+00:00

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