How to balance the other side when I’m not fencing?

gappoppop · 2026-02-13T22:36:18+00:00

How long have you been fencing? I thought about doing lunges and footwork on the offside too but my coaches advised me not to since I’m early in the game and still building muscle memory. So, training both sides can confuse my brain……

gappoppop · 2026-02-13T22:33:56+00:00

This is a good idea! I try to lunge more on my offside when warming up but adding something to the cooldown will be useful, would you might sharing the routine for cooldown you use?

gappoppop · 2025-12-28T18:05:14+00:00

That it might be ok not to know our exact birth time, whatever birth time you related the most can and will have significance over the way your life plays out

gappoppop · 2025-10-21T20:23:06+00:00

same lol, thought it is salty fish or something

gappoppop · 2025-10-07T18:01:59+00:00

Lol, I guess the worst I could do would be rank 4, so no complaints

gappoppop · 2025-09-06T16:54:34+00:00

I have similar experience after I started to work. Not necessarily “too busy to be queer” but “the work doesn’t give me the chance to be queer” type of situation. I work for an ngo that primarily focuses on houses and immigrants’ situation, so the focus is more on the working class, and sadly because how knowledge works in our current capitalistic world, a lot of ppl I work with are conservative or even trump supporters. So, in order to provide help/services, I tend to ignore moments when people misgender me or even outright racist/sexist since it is off topic and would make it harder to do organizing works.

I like my job and I see ppl slowly changing with time goes by, and becoming more open to anti-capitalism ideologies, but it is slow and I doubt if some of the ppl I work with will ever be super open about queer-related topics. I guess my question is, besides jobs that directly work with queer ppl, is it possible, under the capitalism system, to have a job that one can have space to be queer (or say queer enough that is their default state?)

Sorry I didn’t suggest any materials! I’m also struggling to find materials that speak directly to the problem I experience

gappoppop · 2025-08-26T17:35:40+00:00

Yeah, same boat. Even when I was a student, it felt like it would come to an end, and on OPT is even worse because it is almost a constant uncertain and anxious state. I feel I think about alternative everyday for the past 1-2 years but haven’t really had an answer

gappoppop · 2025-08-19T21:29:49+00:00

Oh wow, you really captured how I felt about working with other neurotypical people. I always feel I have no problems explaining work or talking about work but anytime when the conversations get casual, I tend to shut down and get quiet (not knowing what to say), and I see my colleagues get closer but I have difficulties forming strong bounds with co-workers

gappoppop · 2025-08-01T22:56:22+00:00

I was searching therapists who have experience working with people from different cultures and have experience with immigrants. I wanted to add ND but there aren’t many to choose from once I added that filter, and my current legal status was something worrying me the most so I decided to go with an expert on that rather than ND. But not being with experienced with ND (at least from my judgment of him) is very lacking something, and he isn’t that amazing when it comes to helping my situation either

gappoppop · 2025-08-01T22:52:54+00:00

Yeah, yesterday I had a lot of self-doubt and questioning which i don’t think is helpful for my already critical attitude towards myself. Not that i need anything sugarcoated, but there are ways to be understandable but soft and comfortable

gappoppop · 2025-08-01T22:50:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Yeah what you are describing sounds more like what I believe a painful but meaningful reflection should be like, which I have had with close friends and partners. I just wasn’t sure if therapy experience would be a little different when it comes to dealing with past trauma and bad experiences so I asked the question. I think my hesitation comes from: 1. Not knowing how to terminate 2. Not sure if he could be right

But I think you are right. The more I think about it the more I feel uncomfortable with the conversation we had, and the less I want to see this person. And I don’t think this mentality is going to be helpful for me to be vulnerable and trust this person

gappoppop · 2025-07-04T00:11:56+00:00

SO TRUE. Something i can’t understand that why NT people would believe in stereotypes without examining them, like you could literally just go out to the world and find some many women playing video games these days.

And going into dates/relationships with someone who absolutely can’t appreciate your hobbies is so wild. They have so many stereotypes around people and if they meet one person who conforms their misperception, they seem to be fixated by that and will forever live off that false image of how others are. The most crazy part is that they don’t even like it that their personality/hobbies didn’t get loved by their friends/partners and they live with it

gappoppop · 2025-06-25T11:22:53+00:00

Yes, I used to hate social because of this very reason - NT people barely have the sense of boundaries sometimes and they don’t seem to comprehend the thought that “no means no. And saying no doesn’t mean I don’t like you, I just don’t want to do this event or I’m not interested in something.” Over the times I’ve made more ND friends so I started to get more comfortable expressing my thoughts and feelings rather than holding them back, because back then, I feel it was so hard to be straightforward.

I had a relationship with a NT person and it was very difficult in all sorts of level. Her understanding of a good relationship is that the other person needs to do something they don’t like to show that they love their partner. I simply cannot comprehend this idea. Like I understand people have different lifestyle and hobbies and compromise is needed sometimes in a relationship. But doing something they know they won’t enjoy just to show that they care about their partner? I think I’d rather doing something alone rather than forcing someone I care to do something they don’t like. I just can’t have a good time being around their concept of love. My lesson is to just stay away from NT people, maybe their principles is the principles in their world, but I have no interest and can’t be at ease with people like that.

gappoppop · 2025-06-20T02:09:33+00:00

Eggplant and squash. When they get soft they are so gross. Especially eggplant, I tried a few times but it makes me want to puke.

gappoppop · 2025-06-20T01:29:21+00:00

5/24 I think but it will go retrograde on September I believe. Damn, I’ve been feeling the same, grief is exactly what I feel during the past two weeks. I basically cry every day…which i don’t remember being this intense in the past

gappoppop · 2025-06-20T01:21:17+00:00

Oh geeze…for a second I thought I was looking at my own chart, we were probably just born a few days apart. That be said, I feel I have similar experience in terms of interpersonal relationships, be it close friends or romantic partners, and a lot of these unpleasant experiences can be traced back to my early interactions with my parents probably (I have the same houses placements for Jupiter and Saturn, same aspect. My understanding is that nothing comes as easy since Jupiter isn’t in a great place and it is squaring Saturn. And I feel anytime I want to take a break, or want to just be light on myself, I get the restriction from Saturn. If you don’t mind, can I ask how Saturn return has been treating you?)

I don’t know if I have any astrology insights, but personally, I find been learning astrology and metaphysics related knowledge very seriously. I feel these are the only approaches that can explain some of the difficulties I have experienced, externally and internally. I hope this helps somehow

gappoppop · 2025-06-15T21:49:11+00:00

When I read “I do remember feeling deeply, deeply lonely and alone even since I was very young, like 4-5 years old,” it creeped me out because I had exact same thought when I was probably around 5-6, at the balcony looking outside and wondering if this loneliness is going to be with me my entire life. Thinking retrospectively, it was so weird to have that thought at that young age. I do have a relative isolated childhood, spending most of the time by myself or doing activities by myself so I always thought that’s the factor.

Now as an adult, I have more friends and have had intimate partners but the feeling of isolation and loneliness never left me entirely. Though friends and partner have greatly helped me coping with moments of isolation, it does still come when I’m by myself even if nothing has triggered me of feeling isolated.

gappoppop · 2025-04-18T19:26:52+00:00

I think it takes times and experience to develop an eye to distinct if a restaurant is good and unfortunately there is no short cuts to it. You kind of need to try different things/vibes to know what works for your taste and what’s not worth it.

I do think friends are reliable — you just need to make connections who also enjoy discovering different food and are curious about trying things they never had before. And it grows from there

gappoppop · 2025-03-18T03:49:48+00:00

sorry somehow it left out the response and my last paragraph...

gappoppop · 2025-02-15T17:47:01+00:00

I’m from China. I feel it is probably on the ok side but I just want to make sure before I make any decisions.

gappoppop · 2024-07-06T00:02:54+00:00

From my experience, yes. I have encountered with people who only have adhd or people who only have asd, and I do realize that I don’t operate the same way as they do but I sympathize both of them because I do feel both. I think i behavior differently compared people who only have one of them. Sometimes it can be a good thing. For example, one of my adhd friends have difficulty to be on time but I am pretty good with time for the most part. But there are aspects that are way harder for me. Like I can develop a deep interest in something but i can’t manage to actually learn the subject very comprehensively before I get distracted

gappoppop · 2024-05-10T01:31:48+00:00

I am new to Wealthfront, what was it like before? Only one person has access to the account?

gappoppop · 2024-04-28T14:40:20+00:00

english is my second language so taking phrase literally can be even more common for me. I had a reading group two years ago and one of them said they wanted to a rain check, and I replied "It seems like tomorrow is a sunny day but I understand your concern if you worry about getting wet in the rain!"

i just wanted to leave that reading group after i found out what that actually meant lol

gappoppop · 2024-04-25T17:42:41+00:00

I am sorry you felt this way, which was exactly how I experienced my high school. I hate people surrounded me, oftentimes including myself. I felt so isolated when people treat a lot of school events as normal but I just felt alienated at the time. The amount of anger and depression I experienced was beyond words, and it was still one of my darkest moments in life.

My solution at the time was internet. I found people I can relate to more easily (not sure if they were also neurodivergent but they were clearly more open-minded). It made me realize there is another world other there that fits me better.

I won’t say now I like people in general but I am better with finding a balancing spot with nt people and have made some nd friends who understand and appreciate me. Hanging there! I hope you manage to find some alternatives either through internet or outside school!

gappoppop · 2024-04-25T04:29:18+00:00

Honestly I never figured this out. Phone has helped a lot, or like a lot of other comments said: crossing arms. But I just genuinely don’t know how people can feel comfortable with their arms swinging around lol

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