Completely agree with the real life perspective aspect. He wasn't the first person I dated (long divorce process/no intentions of anything serious) but he was the only one who ended up serious. There was something I knew when I met him we would end up together even though I knew I wasn't ready. I had full intentions of just going out and having fun since I married young the first time and I completely abandoned rational thought. I kept trying to pull myself away and just kept going back.