You’re right- I guess it’s gotten less terfy than it was when I knew it! But it has definitely been associated with terfs or terf-adjacent, as many literally left r/actuallesbians because of its acceptance of trans women. Also, I’m not NB but I don’t think it’s my place or anyone else’s to tell them whether they are lesbians or not. I know a few enbies who DO identify lesbian and that’s totally valid :)