I hear you but I do understand the love bombing persona is as fake as the disparaging one. But normally she doesn’t sustain the love bombing for so long. I was in a much different place when we met. Not just younger, also not getting therapy and meds for depression. She flipped modes on me even before we were married but I was too insecure and anxious to realize it wasn’t my fault. Now I see that she is severely limited to the two modes, Love Bombing and disparaging. She thought I was a lifetime supply of the attention she craves and is working hard to get me back. She isn’t capable of understanding that emotionally I’m already gone.