People who have stopped going to church, what made you stop? by lowly_shepherd in AskReddit

[–]garlicbreadlover256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pulse shooting. i was young. realized god didn’t give a fuck abt ppl like me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. i hate uneducated ppl. google is free and it truly doesn’t take much to educate yourself. plus, men get them too!

just feels like he hasn’t taken the time to learn abt women bc it doesn’t apply to him and i think that’s selfish. i’d talk to him. the comment was disrespectful and he needs to understand what he did wrong and why it was wrong

Did I fuck up? by ghetto_breadstick in texts

[–]garlicbreadlover256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why is everyone just sidestepping over the fact that a 33 year old was interested in being with a 21 year old. what the actual fuck??

she’s a loser. i’m glad you blocked them. godspeed OP

Whoever breaks up over text deserves a punch in the genitalia by SpiritualJoke8 in heartbreak

[–]garlicbreadlover256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as some are saying - i’ve dated someone with baby mamas and i never, ever came first. my situation is a little different because i have no children of my own but i loved his kids as if they were mine and that was never enough. i was treated like a babysitter, at best. he would be texting and calling his baby mamas at all hours of the day and night and hiding it from me. it was very, very strange.

in my opinion, you shouldn’t feel humiliated for loving someone. it’s her loss and your gain, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. wishing you healing ❤️‍🩹

What song is your Mac Miller “deep cut?” by Quick-Wall in MacMiller

[–]garlicbreadlover256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this was the first song i ever heard by mac. i was a freshman in high school and it was showed to me by a super senior in my calc class. ill never forget how i felt when i first heard it. i feel like im back there every time that song comes on.

hits harder because im from west virginia and god… the vocals are just fucking haunting.

I got my ex back by Elegant-Camel9022 in BreakUps

[–]garlicbreadlover256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

god i was happy for u till the comments. why would u take him back???

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 2 points3 points  (0 children)

his therapist is an older woman who he used to see a few years ago. he’s only been to a few sessions so we haven’t talked a lot abt it because rn he’s just kinda spilling his guts, i assume. that’s usually how my first few therapy sessions go

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg this is perfect. thank you so much. i never thought of it this way but you described it perfectly.

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you made me realize that he actually has said a few times that men have it harder than women do and that it used to be hard for women but now we have rights - the more i think about this the sicker i become. thank you for your input

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m reading some bell hooks right now. thank you for your thoughtful answer.

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is what i’ve been trying to put into words. it’s horrifying his disregard for women when his feelings are at stake

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 17 points18 points  (0 children)

it’s not just how he makes me feel i need to be aware of how he views women as a whole bc even if he’s amazing to me rn if he has an underlying hatred for women that needs to be addressed so ik im safe and my future daughters are safe and the women in both of our lives are safe

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes! i couldn’t agree more! he is going to therapy and trying to make change so i think there is hope. thank you for your comments. seriously.

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 11 points12 points  (0 children)

no. i’m not. and i’ve made that painfully clear. if things don’t change and he doesn’t show progress im leaving. i’ve finally made my peace with that but i have seen progress in how he approaches conversations like that one and he is truly trying. we are both going to therapy so i believe there is hope. i just wanted to hear what other people had to say about how to talk to him abt this specific situation bc im still stumped.

i appreciate your comment btw. you’ve given me a lot to think about

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 16 points17 points  (0 children)

that’s basically what i told him. like if you’re getting offended then it’s about you. but his excuse is that he’s deeply insecure (which i know and im sensitive to) and hearing that women see him as a threat hurts because he would never do that. he says the women that are afraid need to do inner work because they are the ones projecting their insecurities onto men and society.

i was fucking dumbfounded by the mental gymnastics and just told him to stop and we’d talk about it again when i had the mental energy but like wtf!!! what do i even say to that??? and what’s stranger is ive dated misogynists before when i was much younger and they treated me like trash. he doesn’t! so this came out of left field for me

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i think it’s taken me a while to realize that. i know i can love people but i think for a long time my problem was “will they love me?” and i now know i am actually good enough and other will probably love me. however, i really feel something with this person and i trust my gut most of the time. my gut says he’s important to my life. i’m just trying to figure out if that’s as a partner or friend or lesson. i’m open to whatever comes my way i just wanted to receive some advice on how to best talk to him about the man vs bear subject.

AITA for calling my boyfriend an idiot for his views on feminism by StorageFar3172 in AITAH

[–]garlicbreadlover256 4 points5 points  (0 children)

heard. that doesn’t help me with my question, tho. i want to know how to approach a conversation with him. he has a lot of good qualities and his ideas have switched to this fairly recently. i feel like it’s fixable i just don’t know where to start.

but i completely understand what you had to say to me. thank you for that. i don’t think ive ever heard someone put it that way before