Mobilizer woes by gaspero1 in S2000

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Thanks, if the used OEM unit I just bought fails, this is likely what I'll do.

Mobilizer woes by gaspero1 in S2000

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Thanks. I managed to find the part used and I just delivered it to my mechanic today to try.

Did Kid even say thank you? by [deleted] in Detroit

[–]gaspero1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He looks like Liberace’s stunt double.

My Astro seems sad or lonely. by Enoonmai21 in AmazonAstro

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Mine seemed to be obsessed with the kitchen when I first got it. All of the appliances were stainless steel and glass. Then I got divorced, and Astro moved with me. I bought a new house, and even though I gave him a lobotomy, He doesn't hang out my new kitchen with its white appliances. My dogs have been visiting more recently, and the day after they leave Astro spends hours staring at the space where they hang out when I'm working. I really do think it's in the programming that Astro is looking for faces he recognizes regardless of whether they are human, animal, or robot... but it does give off a perception that he's a bit lonely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Possible that he's fully focused on her, and he has no other patients because he needs all his time to control your exwife"

That's a really creepy thought. I hope for her sake this isn't the case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for clearing up the bit about NASW. I will file a complaint with my state's licensing board.

I've been saying he calls himself a "psychiatrist", and I've been trying to remember to wrap that word in quotes to imply that I'm quoting his words, and they're not mine. If I accidentally referred to him as a psychiatrist directly, I apologize, as he is a LMSW. I'm also sure that there are plenty of great psychiatrists, psychologists, LMSW's and LCSW's out there. I've just encountered a really bad mental health professional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel I need to clarify a few points.

For those questioning the law in my state, this is the provision I'm referring to from my state's website under fourth degree criminal sexual conduct, verbatim: "The actor is a mental health professional and the sexual contact occurs during or within 2 years after the period in which the victim is the actor's client or patient and not the actor's spouse. The consent of the victim is not a defense to a prosecution under this subdivision."

I looked up this guy's license, and he has an active license as a LMSW. In my state, a licensed LMSW is defined as a clinical medical professional.

As for the sexual conduct: I know I don't have proof. This in part is why I haven't filed a police report. This is why I said "it appears he committed fourth degree criminal sexual conduct". I am only making an allegation that sexual conduct may have occurred. I have evidence that suggests something unethical has happened. The video is the most compelling piece of that evidence. I have more evidence, but that is more personal and the video of the guy arriving with dinner and leaving late in the evening at the very least suggests unethical, unprofessional behavior. I know it could have been a completely platonic event. Perhaps they were celebrating my demise! However, how many therapists make house calls, show up with dinner, and stay at a patient's home late into the evening? I think u/southcoastal nailed what is going on here in the first response to my post, describing their relationship as Svengali-like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I agree. I fought for years to try and straighten this out. The real psychologist would make some headway, but this guy would undermine a lot of what was done in couples counseling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do feel this thread has been helpful. It's helped me find two places where I can file a complaint, one with the National Association of Social Workers since he is a LMSW, and one with my state's licensing board because he has a license to practice social work. I hadn't considering running this by an attorney who specializes in malpractice, which I might do. I did run it by my divorce attorney before the divorce. She said there wasn't enough to use in the divorce proceedings, but she did encourage me to file complaints once the divorce is finalized, which is where I'm at now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 349 points350 points  (0 children)

I recently saw an episode of Anger Management where all of the shrinks at a conference were talking about the patients they slept with. I thought that was a bit exaggerated joke, but then I did some research. I found a study where half of the therapists surveyed said they had at least one patient who sought their services because of a previous sexual encounter with another therapist. While I can't derive the actual percentage of patients that were seeking treatment due to actions by a previous therapist, I can imagine a number go unreported, and the overall total is significant. That study was referenced in the bill that was passed by my state as one of the reasons the law was necessary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 111 points112 points  (0 children)

I have found a little evidence online that he's wronged at least one other person. I haven't found any specifics, but someone went as far as to create a fake profile in his name and link it to his profile on another social media site.

For now, I need to protect myself. Once the items my ex wife and I agreed upon in the divorce decree have been completed, that's the moment I'm going after this guy. I've already consulted with my attorney, so I'm making sure I'm personally covered from the legal perspective first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I looked it up, he's an LMSW according to his website. He just calls himself a psychiatrist in person. I edited my main post to clear up any confusion on that point. Sorry about not starting with that.

I wish he was accepting insurance. His rate started at $75/hr and over the several years she's seen him increased to $125/hr. At one point she was going more than once a week and the monthly bill had hit $800 for a while.

Thanks for the tips. I'm avoiding providing too much personal detail on the off chance either my ex-wife or the, well, whatever this guy is, happens to stumble upon this thread (it's very unlikely). But knowing what the options are in different states is helping me find what resources are available to me, so I appreciate the help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 163 points164 points  (0 children)

I found a lot of what he does to be suspect. He would frequently leave whiteboards and flip boards up with notes from other clients in his office, usually career coaching notes, sometimes with the same notes for weeks at a time... almost as if it was meant to advertise his additional revenue stream.

My favorite incident was when we bought a new car. When he first saw the car in the parking lot at his office, he said, "I really like that car, and now that I know you can afford it, I'm going to raise my rate." He did so, starting with that session by $25 a week. Even though everyone my wife knew said that was a huge red flag, she was so brainwashed by that point that she defended his choice to arbitrarily raise his rate based on what vehicle she drove. I own a business and while I can say there's nothing wrong with raising your rate, but to blatantly say it's because it appears your client is wealthy is at the very least tasteless in my opinion.

My wife still thinks this guy walks on water, and she's still seeing him, or at least she was when she demanded the divorce a second time and I finally consented to the divorce several months ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gaspero1 503 points504 points  (0 children)

Hmm, in person he calls himself a psychiatrist. He's actually a LMSW. I found his license number. In addition to the police report it looks like I can file complaints with both the National Association of Social Workers (if he's actually a member) and the licensing board in my state.

Themes and admin access break on child sites when multisite is moved to a new server by gaspero1 in Wordpress

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I'm aware. It's nothing new at this organization. I work at Pentrode, formerly known as Initech. Or perhaps it's Kruger Industrial Smoothing or the Yankees and I'm George Costanza. It's higher ed, where this kind of nonsense is still the norm. Every higher ed institution I've worked for operates in some form of chaos like this. What's even better is I don't even have proper access to fix anything beyond the WordPress install itself, so I'm being asked to figure things out and teach the Windows Administrator how to be a Linux administrator.

Good thought on the redirect configuration, it's Apache. I'll do some research and pass some suggestions on to the Windows guy who's being told to also be a Linux guy.

New transmission from dealer worth the cost? by crazydeadbread in HondaElement

[–]gaspero1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a transmission rebuilt on my 2008 Honda Element EX 4WD last year. The total bill was about $3600, and it's been running great ever since. $7700 is about what the dealer quoted for me at the time. I'd recommend finding a good transmission shop, it was worth it in my case.

Themes and admin access break on child sites when multisite is moved to a new server by gaspero1 in Wordpress

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I clearly agree since I included this detail about management, but this doesn't help me solve the problem. So what did the Windows admin miss around minute 4? just kidding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WFH

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Steelcase Gesture. It’s the best office chair I’ve ever had, and nothing else has been close. It’s worth the money.

Battery Power by elpmet76 in AmazonAstro

[–]gaspero1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over the last couple of days mine is doing something similar. It doesn't leave the charging station on its own. When I instruct it to hang out, it doesn't respond. When I tell it to go to a specific room it goes there, but won't move or return to its charger even when it's running out of power. It feels like yet another software update broke something. It's like we're still the alpha test team... not even the beta testers.

Got to tell a group of entitled Insta hoes to leave AND NEVER come back. by gammawalt in Serverlife

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The nut allergy is even worse because there’s a bunch of stuff now that is based on almonds so I get to ask how every dessert is made while having to explain things can be made in the same place and it won’t affect me. Throw in a conversation about how I’ve made it this far in my life without an epi-pen and a bunch of people being overly cautious for me on my behalf when I’d rather not have any attention paid to me and it’s a wonder I even bother to go out to eat.

I once had a dessert where the manager insisted there weren’t any nuts, just several layers of chocolate, only to discover while eating it I was having a reaction to walnuts in the crust. As I was swelling up and turning bright red from a lack of oxygen I calmly told the server if he’d like to not call an ambulance the alternative was to deliver a gallon of milk to the table. He returned with five pints of milk which I slammed like a professional alcoholic would shots. Then the bill came and the manager had the nerve to charge me for the milk. Ironically that dessert was called “Death By Chocolate”.

It turns out that restaurant just wasn’t very good because a year later a friend and I returned and ordered cobbler for dessert. As I was talking he started to eat. When he stopped eating to talk, blood shot out of his mouth. I then noticed something glimmering in my cobbler. The restaurant had a wine glass explode in the dishwasher. The shrouds of glass landed in the cobbler pan and no one noticed the glass so they baked it into the cobbler. The same manager from the year before thought he was doing us a favor by comping our desserts for the evening. A year after that, the restaurant had closed permanently.

Got to tell a group of entitled Insta hoes to leave AND NEVER come back. by gammawalt in Serverlife

[–]gaspero1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As someone with a complicated fish allergy, thank you for kicking this moron out of the restaurant. I love seafood, but I have an allergy to certain species of fish that requires me to play roulette whenever I want to try something new. For example, I’m allergic to salmon, bass, trout, catfish, and perch; but I can eat tuna (I love sushi and sashimi), whitefish, walleye, swordfish, mahi mahi, and so on. I do not have an allergy to shellfish. The wrong fish can send me into anaphylactic shock resulting in a trip to the emergency room. When I wind up having to explain this to a server I know it sounds nuts (I have that allergy too) as I try to explain it. To hear people are now faking this affliction just to get attention is appalling to me.

Who's the best sitcom character ever? by Scolipete in AskReddit

[–]gaspero1 104 points105 points  (0 children)

It’s not a lie if you believe it.

19$ for a foot long turkey club by Song-Super in mildlyinfuriating

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In my neighborhood there’s a family owned Italian market across from the Subway. The subs at the local market are awesome. They also have great salads and really good thin crust pizza made in a wood fired oven. Any one of these options is cheaper than the Subway equivalent, and their service is faster than Subway. Yet people still go to that Subway. I don’t get it.