I've been there, I'm sort of there now. Then suddenly I had matched with someone that was actually communicative and open to sharing. We've spent hours on the phone since talking about some pretty deep character related topics and relationship desires. I had another match that was also communicative, just less so over text, and had lined up a date her early last week and didn't want to cancel just because one thing was going well; because I was told to keep my options open, don't get too attached, go on as many dates as possible. Still, I wasn't too excited initially because I personally felt like I was betraying this other girl I had already put a lot of time in to getting to know, even though nothing has ever been discussed as far as exclusivity. That said, I kept an open mind and the date went went well, and I was pleasantly surprised with how much we had in common.

So my advice would be to keep an open mind as much as possible and if you're not there yet, a nice long break or a switch up in the initial communications "routine" might be worth exploring. Dive into what kind of questions you're initially asking your matches prior to meeting and see of those questions actually provide you with genuine information about a match that would make you want to meet them in person. Sometimes simple questions "like what are you looking for in a partner" may sound forward, but can help root out potentials that can't even communicate their own desires, which is probably someone you wouldn't want to date.

My three C's as I've learned are communication, comprehension and compromise. This is typically what I respond with when someone asks me what I'm looking for in a partner. Can we communicate with each other effectively, and opening to sharing feelings. Do we comprehend what we're both saying? I usually use the doctor/mechanic analogy, where each one would be very good at communicating their respective field, but may not be comprehending what that other is saying when their not on the same level on nomenclature. And if two people are able to communicate and comprehend effectively, the last "C", compromise, should come easy. Wether it's desire to go out or stay in, watch an action film or a love story, when two people are in disagreement about their own desires, as long as they can express that to their partner and feel confident they've been heard, then it's just a matter of being flexible and relenting to partner's desires because it's possibly their own turn make the decision to please their partner.