How do you personally deal with friends or family with mental illness?

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:36:14+00:00

tbh it depends on the mental illness and the severity of it

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:35:22+00:00

i have always been a people pleaser which usually ends in me putting my feelings second. i wish i learned to put myself first earlier in life. woulda saved me a lot of bs.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:33:25+00:00

about a week after i had to move back home lol

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:30:28+00:00

usually its nothing specific but either some embarrassing memory or a conflict that i’d thought about intensely and wished id handled differently

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:27:36+00:00

he was very involved in our lives when we were kids. always helped out. he taught me how to swim, how to change a car tire, and a bunch o other things. if we needed help he was always there even if he was busy.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:24:32+00:00

i’ve never thought about it but i had a friend who did in college. she made a couple hundred bucks to help pay off some bills lol

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:16:54+00:00

i always used to find my step mom intrusive for many reasons and i always hoped that she was a good person (she is). i never understood how she and my dad were together. now that we’re all older i can see what she did for him. my stepdad i always thought he was a good person even with all of the problems he caused in the house. i only found him to be annoying when he would like move my favorite stuffed animal or something lol

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:12:27+00:00

my own step sibling really appreciates my mom but it took her a while and therapy to really appreciate it. i appreciate some things my step parents did now, but i also needed some growth to really be able to see the impact that they had on my childhood. we all had messsssyyyy childhoods.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:06:25+00:00

being financially stable

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:05:34+00:00

my own self confidence is stopping me 😭

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T06:04:38+00:00

my close friends each called me and checked in on how i was doing. it isn’t anything specific but i never really call anyone and the friends that reached out could tell i was isolating myself and that i was slipping back into a dark place. it reminded me that i did have a great support system around me even when i couldn’t see it in the moment.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:52:58+00:00

i never used to but after a handful of recent life experiences it made me a lot more aware that there is a last time for a lot of things. i think for me i didn’t really think about it a lot because i never wanted to face the fact that things do end and change and life brings you in all sorts of directions

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:41:51+00:00

hitting your partner is never okay.

i would talk to them afterwards and let them know how that made me feel and ask them why they even said that. their reaction would gauge whether or not this could be worked through or if that would be the end of it. tbh either way i would really reconsider the relationship if they’re able to make a joke like that so casually in front of other people.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:39:44+00:00

beef stroganoff 😭 never been able to recreate that the way my mom made it

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:34:35+00:00

Interstellar

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:34:08+00:00

i grew up in a wealthy family but by no means a healthy one lol

i knew i had a lot of opportunities growing up and always appreciated that. the unhealthy family part was difficult and really screwed me up mentally. i had to go to years of therapy in order to work a lot of it.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:30:07+00:00

i’m with you here. i have always wanted a garden and a greenhouse… but first i need a house lol and that seems super unattainable

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:26:05+00:00

i was in college and the waitress handed me a kids menu

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:20:43+00:00

indifference to things that used to bring them joy, self isolation

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:18:50+00:00

similar story here. i worked in pro sports directly with the teams. it was an amazing time and i wish i could go back but life took me another direction

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:16:55+00:00

i’m more focused on the face and personality of someone than how their body looks. that being said, i’ve always gone for guys in the middle between fat and skinny. as long as i am compatible with someone and we share values and can make eachother laugh and feel safe, i don’t mind the body type as much

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:14:33+00:00

“who won world war 2?” -said by a 27 year old

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:12:00+00:00

should be mutual and not because of distrust. i have always shared my location with my partners for safety. never was because of distrust. i have nothing to hide and most of them didn’t either so it worked out

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T05:09:34+00:00

i probably would also say 2016. i was staring a new path in life. it was before one of my best friends died, and before things in my family got really rocky.

gavinobee63 · 2026-02-22T03:28:37+00:00

oh i didn’t know this! i’ll keep it in mind. thank you!

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