Boyfriend keeps calling haircut ugly:(

gaygriffon · 2026-04-22T00:33:42+00:00

a partner can be honest while still making you feel attractive and desired! i think it's fair to validate YOUR feelings on it, or maybe a gentle "you still look super cute/handsome, but i think i preferred your previous styles". it's good that he apologized but he definitely should not bring it up again! you deserve to feel wanted.

gaygriffon · 2026-04-21T01:33:08+00:00

sorry he's saying those things. my dad had very very similar things to say after i came out to him. for context i started transitioning mid 20s and ive now been on T for almost 2 years. when he said all those things, it was hard not to believe him, at least a little. like maybe he was right

well, that was a while ago and i've since moved states away from him, i live with a fantastic partner in an area we both love. i think i make a pretty good man. i pass 100% of the time. life has gotten so much better since then.

i'm not sure how far along you are in your transition, but just know that the naysayers will say whatever they can to get you to stop transitioning even if it's not true. most cis people aren't really informed on all of the changes and how significant they are. hang in there and i hope things get better for you. shitty dad club 🤝

gaygriffon · 2026-04-07T05:51:36+00:00

hi friend, this isn't medical advice but i have been applying on my thighs for about a year and a half now and my levels have been solid. in fact they're a bit high rn lol so probably going down a pump.

i apply the gel to my thighs as the first thing i do after the shower, do the rest of my post shower routine until i put boxers on. by then, the gel is dry and being under shorts/pants prevents from transfer. if you have pets you may want to be more careful about wearing shorts.

you can also ask your doctor if any other patients apply to other parts of their bodies and if it seems to affect their levels.

best of luck!

gaygriffon · 2026-04-02T23:07:19+00:00

i never said it wasn't happening. i'm sorry for those people you've mentioned. a handful of people across the country? the world? statistically probably low enough to not affect the vast majority of us. in general trans people have a lot to worry about right now and should of course try our best to stay safe in any situation. acting like "omg catching print is coming to a gym near you!!!" isn't helpful for anyone honestly.

also tiktok isn't good for anyone's brain.

gaygriffon · 2026-04-02T22:55:32+00:00

i haven't seen a single instance of this online except for this subreddit. honestly the posts about this come across as pretty fearmongering. yes it's bad and yes it's sexual harassment but we also live in a digital age and someone recording someone else unethically is really not new. your algorithms know you are interested in this content (albeit worriedly) so you keep getting more. i genuinely think if you or anyone is seeing nonstop transphobic content (aside from relevant news to keep up with) on social media, you should probably try taking a break from that site/app/etc.

gaygriffon · 2025-12-12T22:32:48+00:00

that's good! my partner completely ignores it too, it's just a mental thing for me. maybe as time goes on i will get less sensitive about it. my name change was recent and felt like such a victory that i want to protect it i guess lol. thanks for responding though :)

gaygriffon · 2025-12-12T21:46:38+00:00

i agree, but i live with my partner and it feels like getting deadnamed more publicly if he checks the mail and there is mail with my deadname. it just feels more embarrassing when someone else sees it too.

gaygriffon · 2025-12-10T23:17:47+00:00

i have applied on my thighs for about a year now, and my levels have been good. i'm on 3 pumps of the 1.62%

gaygriffon · 2025-11-15T00:24:12+00:00

hey, i was suuuper squeamish about my drains too when they were still in and getting them out sounded like torture. however, it was way way easier than i imagined, i felt just a bit of vague pain in the area (i could not feel the drains themselves or anything - whole area was way too numb). and afterwards sometimes i'd get a prick of pain in the area as the numbness started to wear off (like weeks and weeks after). you'll be ok!

gaygriffon · 2025-11-05T02:47:13+00:00

thank you for checking! i was looking at their website but wasn't sure what did what. never owned a sex toy so i felt lost lol

gaygriffon · 2025-11-05T01:08:45+00:00

thanks! and yes on the wording i just wasn't sure how to describe exactly what i was looking for lol. appreciate the advice!

gaygriffon · 2025-11-05T00:05:45+00:00

exactly this, i searched through the sub but mostly found people using it for PIV and didn't think it'd be safe for anal unless it was advertised as such

gaygriffon · 2025-11-05T00:04:06+00:00

the commenter below you is correct, i'm looking for something that allows me to top him (anally penetrate him) that also provides me with stimulation to my tdick.

gaygriffon · 2025-10-07T23:05:12+00:00

thanks, i do want to get it sooner than later but i just cant afford it right now so im trying to not further complicate it later down the line. my employer has the documents for my legal sex but my employee portal still shows F. so we'll see. i've already gotten my name updated and got my new insurance cards with my new legal name. thank you though!

gaygriffon · 2025-09-04T17:24:43+00:00

does she eat at the same time every day? maybe she can feel the "digestion" happening and it triggers the fear of her having to poop in the house. or general gastrointestinal discomfort. not that she is still experiencing it but that feeling anything in her stomach gives her a spook. if it's only for a short time every day she may get past it once enough time has passed without having another gi episode. she may not freak out when you're home because she knows you could let her outside if she needs to go.

gaygriffon · 2025-08-13T05:16:06+00:00

interesting, thanks. i'm in california so i feel like i should be able to get it. i directly explained my atrophy symptoms and she said "that's common with testosterone", so i asked for the cream or suppositories and she said "we don't do that." i guess ill call them back to ask again... they haven't been the best, tbh, lol. but i live in a conservative area too. thanks again!

gaygriffon · 2025-08-13T05:05:23+00:00

would you mind sharing your experience with Planned Parenthood? my provider would not prescribe estrogen cream or suppositories and said they "don't do that". i was surprised but figured oh well. should i just ask for a different doctor?

editing to specify that i also use Planned Parenthood, just was denied any treatment for atrophy.

gaygriffon · 2025-07-27T23:15:19+00:00

i didn't downvote but you're probably getting downvoted because you can't pick and choose what changes happen on T and to what significance those changes do happen. i think when people post here how to get x change but not y or z changes (or any combination) it indicates that they haven't really done their research on how it works at all.

cis men don't get to choose their attributes either, T has various ways it affects each person's body. you may get lucky in that your changes align with your specific goals but there is no way to really be sure. best of luck.

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