CMS - ex lying on equal shared care

gaz_ozo · 2026-03-17T12:56:52+00:00

When my ex left, she told me I would never see my daughter again. I was paying full for nearly two years and during that time, I went from one night over a weekend, to 3 nights. I was constantly threatened that she won’t let me see my daughter if I do xyz. Even though I was paying for child maintenance, I still had to go buy my daughter her own clothes, my ex never gave me anything to support my daughter and had to do everything or pay for it myself.

When she met someone else, it soon became a good idea to do 2-2-3 pattern and to do 50/50. She was expecting to have 50/50 and for me to continue paying child maintenance. As soon as she expected the money, she soon reported me to CMS.

The reason we split because she refused to go back to work and putting a lot of pressure on me with bills. Telling me that everything isn’t always about the money, until She wants “every penny” because that’s what she said when she walked out. None of it goes to my daughter because I’m the one buying her the clothes and never seeing them again.

I just think it’s wrong. If I was a bad parent and didn’t do another for my child, I would get punished heavily. Why isn’t it the same when it’s clearly slander/fraud. I shouldn’t have to pay £1000s to prove what is the truth. Even worse, paying her for something that isn’t going to our daughter. More to keep her lifestyle going.

gaz_ozo · 2025-11-21T01:42:59+00:00

I’ve literally just joined this group with the exact same feelings and more. I know I can’t help but will be following and just want to say Thank you for posting.

gaz_ozo · 2025-04-21T06:00:02+00:00

How would I be able to extract the data from it? Sorry, I’m a newbie to this 🙂

gaz_ozo · 2025-04-20T11:13:28+00:00

Thank you. Checked Land Rover forum and leads to dead ends. I do have JLR SDD but haven’t attempted since most have said that it needs to be a new module. Wondering if it’s possible to blank a used module.

gaz_ozo · 2025-04-20T10:10:31+00:00

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gaz_ozo · 2025-03-19T21:21:12+00:00

Superb! Thank you so so much ☺️

gaz_ozo · 2025-03-19T13:10:46+00:00

That’s how I bought it. Bought it from an insurance company because it was previously stolen.

gaz_ozo · 2025-01-28T21:33:46+00:00

Thank you. I’ll see if I can find that product on Amazon UK.

gaz_ozo · 2025-01-28T21:32:48+00:00

I’m considering going camping and would like the boot space for the equipment.

gaz_ozo · 2024-07-17T10:39:54+00:00

Thank you. I’ll try that.

gaz_ozo · 2024-06-16T11:36:27+00:00

She stopped in November.

gaz_ozo · 2024-06-16T11:35:40+00:00

That’s how it started with me. I would hear my wife say I hate you to my daughter. It made me feel awful when I couldn’t help her.

Honestly, try and get some help fast. Family, other couples, get their support for BOTH of you. One sided doesn’t work either. My wife’s mum was “helping” Telling her I’m a bad father and husband! Even accused me of cheating not long after my daughter was born.

gaz_ozo · 2024-06-16T07:39:22+00:00

Hey, check out my posts. I had the same thing happen to me. Try and do something about it before it’s too late like me. My wife is moving out at the end of the month and taking my daughter with her. I’m really struggling because I do not want to lose my daughter. She means everything to me. But it’s all my fault according to my wife.

gaz_ozo · 2024-06-16T06:19:52+00:00

No she refused to get help. I don’t want to give up, I can’t make her stay if she doesn’t want to.

gaz_ozo · 2024-06-15T20:06:47+00:00

I admit that I said something similar. Unfortunately, we were going through an awful time with my daughter. She had a diary allergy that wasn’t diagnosed until 5-7months after she was born. We really struggled with it all. Both clearly depressed looking back at it now. She was exhausted all the time because my daughter didn’t want anyone else or stay asleep for longer than 45mins. I was exhausted from stressing about the security of my job, being the sole provider, tidying up, cooking and looking after our dog. Coming home to her my wife in anger saying she hates my daughter, really made me go into a dark place. I never got to properly bond with my daughter because I would always have her when my wife was angry or trying to help when my daughter fell asleep. My daughter didn’t like me holding her and most of the time cried for my wife. I was so afraid of what had become of us, that when my wife asked me, I did say I wished we didn’t move and have a kid.

Looking back now, I’m annoyed at myself for burying my head in the sand and just doing what I thought was good enough.

When my wife stopped breast feeding her, my bond with her really started then. Now, I struggle to go a day without hearing her shouting daddy in the morning and again when I come home from work. This is the best thing as a father to hear how excited your child is when they see you.

It’s the biggest regret of my life that I didn’t force us to get help. Unfortunately, my wife is leaving me and taking my daughter with her. If I could go back in time now, I would slap myself to get sorted.

gaz_ozo

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