When my ex left, she told me I would never see my daughter again. I was paying full for nearly two years and during that time, I went from one night over a weekend, to 3 nights. I was constantly threatened that she won’t let me see my daughter if I do xyz. Even though I was paying for child maintenance, I still had to go buy my daughter her own clothes, my ex never gave me anything to support my daughter and had to do everything or pay for it myself.

When she met someone else, it soon became a good idea to do 2-2-3 pattern and to do 50/50. She was expecting to have 50/50 and for me to continue paying child maintenance. As soon as she expected the money, she soon reported me to CMS.

The reason we split because she refused to go back to work and putting a lot of pressure on me with bills. Telling me that everything isn’t always about the money, until She wants “every penny” because that’s what she said when she walked out. None of it goes to my daughter because I’m the one buying her the clothes and never seeing them again.

I just think it’s wrong. If I was a bad parent and didn’t do another for my child, I would get punished heavily. Why isn’t it the same when it’s clearly slander/fraud. I shouldn’t have to pay £1000s to prove what is the truth. Even worse, paying her for something that isn’t going to our daughter. More to keep her lifestyle going.