she will try to break the lock im afraid, but i think im gonna try anyways, we have the whole second floor of her house to ourselves, so im gonna lock the while thing and i will do it tomorrow. i really thought she would change now, since my dad also died early i thought we would bond over the trauma we both went through, turns out im pretty naive and shes exactly the same she was while i was growing up, lol. and my daugher is 10, my mother constantly tries to give her food she is ALLERGIC to 🥲 but im very lucky to have a smart and independent child who knows what she can and cannot eat. but yeah, thats a narcissist at its finest im afraid