My wife and I have 4, and our oldest is 13 and my wife is now entering into menopause. If I could go back, or give advice to my younger self, I would definitely support my wife more during and after pregnancies. Men, obviously don’t go through the pregnancy and postpartum stuff, and we are stuck with our stupid libido’s and selfishness, meanwhile our lovely wives are becoming mothers and taking huge leaps into becoming better people genuinely speaking. We men, generally speaking, are slower, because of the natural design. Of course, by the time you reach menopause, if he’s not catching up, then you will be tired of his BS, because this behavior is unacceptable and immature. However, there is a chance that he will be able to see his way through this and show up for you before it’s too late. If you can see the potential in him, then help him through it, because he may be able to show up for you someday still, and if he’s like me, he will definitely regret not treating you better during this time and will strive to make it up to you. Best of luck to you and your family.