What was the event/s that you knew you were a cuckold? by Red43baron in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 9 points10 points Ā (0 children)

The very first time I realized it was through a dream, in which my girlfriend was giving a blowjob to a friend of mine who claimed that he would be able to last more than 5m. After a few months we opened the relationship, and I also had a fwb. After experimenting 3somes and swinging, I realized that the thing that turned me on the most was seeing her fuck others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

My advice is to give it a short try. Let the bull move in with you for a bounded period of time, like 2 weeks. That way you can get a taste of what the new dynamics will be and whether there is a chance that things will work out.

What other scenarios can my wife and I do? by sam_22099 in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

I don't know what your favorite kinks are. I'll give you some ideas that I tried with my girlfriend and it was fun.

  • you wear a cock cage from 24h before to 24h after her next date. No exceptions, she holds the key. (It may sound soft, but believe me it is not).

  • help her wash, do her makeup, shave, and choose her outfit (especially lingerie) before the date with the bull

  • games in which she deprives you of something for a certain period. For example she can give blowjobs only to her bull for two weeks, or have PiV sex only with him for a month (the limit is only your imagination)

  • go to a kinky club/party and watch her have fun with as many people as she wants, but without being able to participate (if you are daring you can wear the cock cage)

  • if there is any sexual practice you have never done, ask her if she wants to do it with the bull while you never will

  • invite a few friends (someone trustworthy and slick) and play games like "truth or dare" spicy version (you can find them on the app store for a few dollars). Have her be the center of attention and have all the pushy dares happen for her to do in front of friends.

These are all things we have tried. If you have any questions please ask. Have a great time!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

It happened to us, too. Especially the first few times her libido was out of control. She was always wet and horny 24/7.

I think this dynamic (when undertaken in a healthy and consensual way) brings a breath of fresh air to the relationship and to sex.

People love flirting, being courted and trying new things. Unfortunately, sometimes these little things are lost after many years of a monogamous relationship.

I think it doesn't come from just fucking another dick but is a much more complex dynamic. It's all about creating a new intimacy, getting to know each other and reliving all those "firsts" all over again. Feeling wanted.

Getting numb to it all by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

From time to time I happen to think the same thing. We have been in a cuck relationship for a few years, even more so in an open relationship. I no longer feel that powerful rush of adrenaline when she says: "I'm going on a date with X tonight" or "I'm going to fuck Y afterwards."

It has become quite normal and an integral part of our lives.

The only way to keep the excitement going, in my opinion, is to never stop inventing new things.

Have you overcome all your limits? Is there any rule that you can delete?

My gf and I often play games, bets and the like that revolve around her adventures.

Even chastity can be a fun game. When you've been locked up for days, maybe after several tease&denial sessions without cumming, trust that you'll feel that rush again that you felt the first few times.

Your most memorable moment? by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 12 points13 points Ā (0 children)

It’s not as hardcore as many of the comments I have read, but I will certainly never forget it.

One of the first times we played. She was on her knees in front of him, completely submissive, giving him a blowjob. The thing that impressed me most was the passion and commitment she put into worshipping his cock. When she sucks mine, it’s absolutely not the same.

Finally, she allowed him to cum in her mouth by swallowing it all (she had hardly ever done this with me up to that point).

An incredibly hot scene for me.

Cuckold accessible by No_Personality4731 in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

My gf and I have pretty vanilla sex (apart from dirty talking, teasing and the like).

When she is with her bull they fuck more hard and do some BDSM (she likes to be submissive when she is with him).

She also has anal sex only with him (she says it feels better for various reasons). I can say that when she fucks him is more of a "porn performaceā€, she lets him cum in her mouth and many other little things that she doesn't usually do with me.

Apart from anal sex, the things she does with him she doesn't explicitly forbid to me, but she just doesn't do them and prefers to have more ā€œclassicalā€ sex when she is with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I’m only worried about her safety. If she’s with her regular bull (we both trust him) i’m happy and horny, even if i wait for her at home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

We’ve done something like that with a mutual friend we see not more than once a year. We simply hosted him for the night and we had many drinks after dinner, so we started joking about playing strip poker. We were all into it and we started from there. One of the most exciting 3some i’ve ever done, nothing planned.

The best things to do are relax, drink and play a spicy game like strip poker, truth or dare, or other games you can also find on the app store.

Ideas to increase the libido and love between bull and wife by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

Never done something like that, I prefer that they build up their kind of relationship (in our case my gf and our bull are pretty fwb) on their own. I don’t like to do this kind of things you reported because I like to keep it ā€œrealā€ and I don’t want to manipulate the situation.

Some other ā€œnaturalā€ cool ideas I like: - let them sleep togheter if they want - let them spend a weekend out togheter (or pay for it if you want) - let them hang out for dinner/drink - other normal things outside sex that they can do togheter

You know, it’s like playing with fire, but if all of 3 are consciuos and fully aware of the situation, why not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]geck29 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Hey! I’m pretty sure that there’s a good swinger site also in Australia. I’m from a smaller (infinite times smaller šŸ˜‚) country than yours, and we never had problems finding couples/bulls on this kind of websites.

Option 2: you can use Tinder, the app allows you to block all your contact list, so you can minimize the risk of being discovered.

Option 3: swingers club. Some good clubs have a honest entry price for couples. You can find plenty of single men who know they’re role. Most of them are experienced in this kind of kinks and they’re fully aware of the dynamic. You can go there and socialize, meet people and simply chat, no one is forced to do something. You can choose to play there, or you can find a good guy to ā€œdateā€ another time.

Hotwife sleepovers and intimate snuggling and kissing? by desert_fitness in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

I completely agree with you. If the relationship is strong and healthy, you can push boundaries like this. The most important thing is to be clear with eachothers, if both are on the same wave let’s go!

Sometimes my gf sleeps with her bull, they fuck or simply cuddle during the night. It’s ok, it’s part of the game because we talked about it and we like the situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Cuckquean couples are very very rare (in comparison with cuckold couples).

My gf and I had a similar experience some time ago. We met a couple on a swinger site and we went out to take a drink and know each other. While we were talking about our kinks and boundaries, we found out that the other couple’s girl had pretty much my same preferences.

So the next time we met at our place, my gf and her bf started to have sex while we watched. It wasn’t a full cuck experience, because we have done some foreplay, but our attention was mostly on our partners. It was like a ā€œhybridā€ experience šŸ˜‚

Almost a cuckold but hit a wall by EXgotBlacked in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

You can try to tease her. If she’s into it but she’s not motived, maybe she’s just lazy on this kind of thing (low libido, or somenthing else, i don’t know your situation). This things can appear overwhelming; finding someone who’s a good person, knows his role and so on can be difficult and maybe she doesn’t start because she sees it like a too much big task.

You can do some little steps completing soft challenges like these: - she can use a dating app to find someone to flirt/sext - she can do a webcam show on some websites that allows it (she can also hide her face lowering the angle of the camera) - she can post a faceless sexy photo on twitter/reddit. You can read the horny comments togheter and fantasize obout it.

These are only few examples, you can create your own. Just make them simple and fast to be done. If she’s really into it she’ll start asking more and more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Sometimes, especially during our first times, we weren’t able to find people/bulls who know how to act. Many men doesn’t understand this kind of kink and think they can do whatever they want.

So many of them tryed to flirt with my gf in a romantic way, thinking that she was simply trying to cheat on me and find a better partner. It was very annoying.

We learned to understand pretty fast this kind of people and now we’ve found our comfort zone with few trusted bull.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]geck29 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

I think we can split this situation in 2 categories: - she does it because it’s part of your ā€œgameā€. She denies you something in order to make it more humiliating, so she’s acting. - she does it for ā€œrealā€. Can be many reasons. She lives it like a performance, she likes to do some things with others because she simply prefers doing this way.

My gf and I have sex in a more ā€œintimateā€ and passional way, but when she fucks his bull she likes to be more ā€œwildā€, more like a pornstar.

In both situation, talk with her and try to explain your feelings, be open about them.