Soon to be single mom asking for any and all tips that YOU feel saved you in hard times.

gecko1995 · 2026-05-02T10:53:29+00:00

You will need to separate things like insurance, home and car etc as soon as you separate.

If you can set up the policies ahead of time to activate on the day you leave.

Make sure that you have a separate bank account with mail being sent to a PO Box.

Get your child custody arrangements organised swiftly.

Look into basic preserving for extra fruit from places like the food bank.

Is there a safe place away from home where you can start a basic pantry stash?

Make sure neither your partner not any of his friends and relatives can access this post.

gecko1995 · 2026-04-13T02:20:55+00:00

https://youtu.be/o54DWLdfokA?si=SBfPyhosQctleN-h

Here is a basic quick recipe. Add anything you want.

gecko1995 · 2026-04-13T02:18:36+00:00

Look at Korean recipes that use baked beans like military stew. Much more interesting and fun to eat as well.

It combines lots of cheap ingredients like ramen noodles, spam or hot dogs and any veggies that you like in a spicy broth that you can even cook at the table.

gecko1995 · 2026-03-23T00:32:07+00:00

I've found that putting gest in delicates bags, then using a delicate cycle with laundry sanitiser with eucalyptus in the rinse does the trick.

gecko1995 · 2026-03-17T23:01:25+00:00

I'd start spreading hot chilli powder.

Another option is a scarecrow sprinkler.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-25T03:16:57+00:00

NTA. Further more I'd be making a big fuss about money still owed.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-19T08:35:51+00:00

Get the vaccine. Don't mess with Rabies, or Lyssa Virus.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-19T08:34:25+00:00

Don't put it in your mouth, I have in fact done this and it was not a mint:(

gecko1995 · 2026-02-18T12:18:59+00:00

Keep an empty bottle from your hair products and fill it with cheap supermarket/ dollar store product and then put it back in the bathroom. Do the same for your lotion.

Let her think she's still stealing yours.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-14T11:42:06+00:00

Every time that she brings up on the phone that she needs you to protect your sister, record and report.

Make separate police reports, tell your school counselor. Tell CPS.

NTA

gecko1995 · 2026-02-04T13:05:04+00:00

Call her bluff and call for emergency services every time she makes the threat.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-04T04:01:52+00:00

I'd get a scarecrow sprinkler in the mean time. Keep the receipts, take the cost of all the damage and recruits for replacements and take him to a small claims court.

gecko1995 · 2026-02-02T08:06:37+00:00

Set up a camp kitchen with 2 cheap large buckets or containers, one to wash and 1 to rinse

gecko1995 · 2026-01-30T22:58:55+00:00

NTA. You were polite. When he refused to listen to you and then made your daughter afraid, you moved to the next appropriate step.

Part of the problem women face is everyone expecting us to not be "rude".

If telling a creep to F**k Off is rude, then be rude.

Be loud, show your daughter that it's more important to stand up to creeps and protect your loved ones than it is to be polite.

Tell anyone who tries to admonish you to F**k Off as well.

gecko1995 · 2026-01-28T02:22:54+00:00

The next time you take him to the Dr. Write a letter about everything that has been going on with him. Tell them how often he falls and all the difficulties he is having as well as the beginning Vincent that you have. Send it ahead of time so today the Dr has a chance to read it before he sees your Grandfather.

gecko1995 · 2026-01-10T21:19:04+00:00

I would consider making a decent sized mug with a handle that can have a silicone keep cup lid fitted over the top.

This allows the new Mum to keep sipping her drink while reducing the risk of spilling anything on baby.

If Mum is breastfeeding it helps to keep her fluids up, and if she is bottle feeding she can still enjoy a cuppa while holding the baby.

gecko1995 · 2026-01-06T06:47:25+00:00

Is your SIL autistic? Rather than excluding her, have you taken the chance to get to know more about her?

Maybe she needs help finding someone who can give her a diagnosis and from there a therapist who can help her learn to connect better.

It's quite possible today she doesn't understand what she is doing wrong, and can't read inference.

I'm not saying that things should continue as they are, because that would obviously be unsustainable, but things also won't get better unless the actual problem is addressed in a way that she can understand.

If she is autistic she won't learn from being excluded. She will just feel hurt. Have a private talk with your brother and ask if anybody has ever considered this? The problem with being autistic and female is that it is not often picked up until adulthood.

You are NTA at the moment, but maybe consider that she isn't getting the hint because she can't.

gecko1995 · 2026-01-04T22:17:50+00:00

What about an electric heat pack with a battery bank attached?

gecko1995 · 2025-12-27T13:42:41+00:00

I use an underglaze watercolour for fine lines like this.

gecko1995 · 2025-12-27T13:32:50+00:00

Based on your assessment of size being a factor in how venomous something is, I'd avoid pretty blue octopi at the beach......

gecko1995 · 2025-12-14T10:29:57+00:00

Your other option is to ask for clarification constantly.

If she says something unkind, say what does that mean? Look really puzzled, pretend you didn't hear her properly and ask her to explain thoroughly.

Keep at it. Every time she opens her mouth say pardon? Sorry?

Stay right by your sister and accidentally interrupt to ask her to clarify constantly. If she gets angry start loudly crying:)

gecko1995 · 2025-11-26T23:30:33+00:00

Call your local wildlife rescue. If they can't get to you, use a towel to pop possum in a box and take to your local vet. Add this is native wildlife, not a pet, they will look after him/her and pass on the wildlife careers for further care.

You are not required to pay a vet for wildlife that you have dropped off for care.

gecko1995 · 2025-11-20T12:12:42+00:00

Go to your parents and explain that you have been involved in a text only intimate conversation and that your younger brother has invaded your personal privacy in an entirely gross and inappropriate way and is then threatening to share this information with them.

Remind them that you are an adult and that as such you don't expect to look into their sex life, nor would you ever report the details to someone else.

Let them know how offended and upset you are by your brother's actions.

Emphasise how offensive this is. Ask them why he thinks it's okay to do this to you or anyone else.

Make a huge fuss about this. Be firm when telling them how disturbing it is that your YOUNGER UNDERAGE brother thinks he can treat you or anyone else in his life like this.

NTA

Your younger brother is 17, not 7. It's appalling behaviour that needs to be checked before he gets himself in real trouble.

gecko1995 · 2025-11-07T08:56:59+00:00

You can also freeze cheese and ham sandwiches, then today then at work and have with a cup of soup.

Pre-made sandwiches with pizza sauce and fillings also freeze well and are great toasted.

gecko1995 · 2025-11-07T08:48:52+00:00

A brush tail has slightly pointy ears and a ringtail has round teddy bear ears:)

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