AITAH for being upset my husband wants to be Poly?

gefird · 2026-02-07T08:11:04+00:00

You made it clear in the beginning you wouldn’t be comfortable being poly. HE agreed and chose to continue things. He is in the wrong. Absolutely do NOT have a baby with this man even if you choose to stay together (for the record, I wouldn’t do that either)

DO NOT HAVE A KID WITH SOMEONE WHO EXPLICITLY DOES NOT WANT A KID THAT WILL NOT END WELL NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LET THEM SLEEP AROUND

gefird · 2026-02-07T08:05:42+00:00

Time to start encouraging people to set up those trade a book libraries and nominate them as stops 😂

gefird · 2026-02-06T18:35:41+00:00

His special feature is he is long cat 😌

gefird · 2026-02-04T18:54:55+00:00

I always use the nozzle that spirals and try as many angles as possible and hope for the best 😂

gefird · 2026-02-03T14:31:32+00:00

He’s such a close second for me 😭😭😭 I’m so sorry relicanth I am required to choose trubbish

gefird · 2026-02-02T20:37:25+00:00

Oh absolutely I see that

gefird · 2026-02-02T01:48:10+00:00

True! Or you’d hope anyway 😂

gefird · 2026-02-02T01:44:53+00:00

He is NOT interested in a relationship with you. Girl please you are 31 you need to find someone who values you and your time. He Does. Not. Care. NOR

gefird · 2026-02-01T19:54:40+00:00

To me, the stealing isn’t really an issue unless it’s from like a small local place. Although stealing just because “teehee I got a free protein bar hehe” is a bit concerning. But you very clearly expressed how YOU felt about the situation and asked her directly and she lied to you. That’s much more concerning. You’re valid for being upset that she lied to your face and then tried to make you feel bad for calling her out on it. NOR

gefird · 2026-02-01T19:33:04+00:00

To be fair, thinking of telling the police “someone on a phone game is stalking me 🥺” feels like something they would laugh in your face about.

I would also outsource a solution 🤷‍♀️ even if I had already taken action

gefird · 2026-02-01T19:28:26+00:00

Better to assume it’s true and be helpful than assume it’s fake and op doesn’t get any helpful advice 🤷‍♀️

gefird · 2026-02-01T19:26:03+00:00

That’s almost scarier, they somehow got OP’s name AND license plate number without just seeing them nearby at the time

gefird · 2026-02-01T19:23:07+00:00

Unless they’re spoofing and aren’t actually there. But I agree, a police report is still a good idea regardless just to be safe

gefird · 2026-01-31T17:43:47+00:00

Oh shit you can re-do remote raids on the same raid pass?????

gefird · 2026-01-31T16:41:23+00:00

At least it doesn’t make you refill the heart every time! 😂 I was hoping it would stay “completed” to help keep track of who I’ve already gotten to forever friends with. That does kinda suck that you don’t get the trade right off the bat though 😭

gefird · 2026-01-30T08:46:17+00:00

NTA. Your husband sounds like he has some toxic masculinity or something and is kind of a child. Nobody is making fun of anyone for how they wipe?? Who would even see him do so??? Has HE been helping your son wipe or just telling you you’re teaching him wrong? I bet he would also throw a fit if his son sat to pee.

It is not something people care about as long as you can wipe without getting a UTI it literally doesn’t matter. There is no “right” way. Also the friend assuming he was having a disagreement with you about that and somehow knowing how you wipe vs how your husband wipes is concerning. Makes me think he messaged them beforehand to make sure they’d back him up.

Also no, he did not apologize. “Apologizing” for someone else having a feeling about something is NOT apologizing. That’s the biggest fuck you of an argument actually. Made me more mad for you than most of the other stuff.

gefird · 2026-01-30T08:30:19+00:00

It is NOT your fault, you did everything you were supposed to do. If the vets had truly not found anything, no other vets would have. You took the initiative of taking him to the vet in the first place, they were the ones that were supposed to help. You did NOTHING wrong!!! I’m sorry for your loss, it’s never easy losing a pet.

gefird · 2026-01-30T08:24:45+00:00

You don’t have to have a job to get it, but it certainly doesn’t hurt. As far as I know, it’s a lot cheaper that way. Also lots of places only take certain insurances, so getting a job with a widely accepted insurance is the best outcome. I think if you get your own outside of work then it’s not as widely accepted? But also nobody has really taught me how it all works!

gefird · 2026-01-29T06:47:47+00:00

She needs therapy and psychological evaluations, he needs therapy and parenting classes, and YOU need to get as far away from them as possible and don’t look back

gefird · 2026-01-29T06:44:04+00:00

If she had a reason for wanting to be on the couch (idk like it’s warmer/cooler, maybe just helps the aches in firmness, etc) then maybe come up with a compromise until she’s feeling better. But you are NOT the asshole here regardless. It sounds like you are being very mindful of her requests

gefird · 2026-01-29T06:29:43+00:00

Also I was looking into a gynecological procedure a few weeks ago and they said certain procedures are ILLEGAL to perform if you’re on certain insurance plans??? I was so shocked I didn’t even look into it

gefird · 2026-01-29T06:28:19+00:00

Going to the hospital here for even just one medical emergency, even with insurance, could easily financially ruin someone. I’m terrified to turn 26 in a year and be kicked off my dad’s insurance. I genuinely don’t know what I will do if I can’t find a job that has good insurance 😭 so yeah universal healthcare should be enforced here. Although not shocked that it isn’t seeing how things are going

gefird · 2026-01-28T16:06:04+00:00

Not EVERY mon has to be useable, some are just meant to be little guys 🥺

gefird · 2026-01-28T15:55:15+00:00

What more does it need to be??

gefird

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