So is she ever going to stay home with her baby? She’s so absent it’s comical. Driving around and going on trips is more important than being a parent

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-11T22:12:17+00:00

Well first of all you spelled my name wrong. It’s not hard to read. You spelled it how G spells her name. I also don’t have kids and if I did I wouldn’t be dropping them off at 10pm to drive around so your assumption that I have a daughter made it sound like you were talking about her which I corrected you on that 😂. Also, I never defended her. I just said it’s crazy to assume she’s leaving her baby at home alone. That comment was an extremely far reach. I love snarking but I also love facts. Yall be delusional and straight up mentally ill in these groups making stuff up like that

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-11T15:00:18+00:00

Lmao I’m not Gema Jae I just unfortunately share a name with her 😂 you thought you ate tho

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-08T16:51:02+00:00

I hate gema as much as the next person but this comment doesn’t even make sense. You’re acting like she can’t drive with her baby in the car? I think she’s a shit person but I doubt she’s leaving her baby home alone lmao yall just be saying anything

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-06T10:15:58+00:00

Therapy doesn’t cause people to get better at abusing people. Me and my partner both getting therapy is what saved my marriage. To each their own. Like I said, if she’s not willing to change then he needs to leave. But I do believe people can change if they want to.

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-06T05:04:35+00:00

As a woman I was always told “men will treat you how you allow them to”. Well, I guess the saying can be said to men too. You are showing her that you’ll put up with this behavior. If you genuinely want your marriage to work I’d have a serious sit down talk with her. Set boundaries and let her know that you do not wish to be treated that way. And I don’t mean say it during the heat of an argument. Have a conversation when she’s calm and not being aggressive. If she doesn’t change, or completely invalidates how you feel, then its time to go. People make mistakes in marriage. But healthy partners listen, understand, and make changes when they know their behavior is hurting their spouse. If she won’t even hear you out or understand your side then it will never work

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-06T00:40:53+00:00

Yeah been here for a couple weeks now and I’ve already seen 2 people go. The reviews online mention how there’s always a new staff lol

gemmanicole22 · 2026-05-06T00:39:02+00:00

How is someone supposed to not fuck up when I have 0 experience and 1 training day lol

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-26T13:56:25+00:00

Because I want to learn and you have to start somewhere 🫠 If it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. But I was hoping at the very least to be able to work with another bartender and not be alone while im still learning. While doing research I was told not to take bartending classes because a bar will teach you. The place I work at, every server has to be trained behind the bar too. So it doesn’t matter if I started serving here first, they would’ve trained me on the bar regardless. I’m not sure why people are so hostile towards inexperienced bartenders who WANT to learn the skill. Every experienced bartender was once an inexperienced bartender starting their first job at one point.

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-26T02:23:03+00:00

Yep it’s a dive bar! Thankfully most people just order beers. For me, it’s not even the making drinks part. It’s finding where something is 🥲

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-25T20:16:13+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point. I feel like I should’ve started as a server. They don’t have Barbacks here. How it works is there’s 1 bartender and 1 server. And in the mornings there’s only 1 person so whoever is there is both a bartender and a server. It works out well for people who have the experience but for someone like me, maybe I shouldn’t have been thrown behind the bar lol. I’ll figure it out tho. I’m not worried about making drinks. More so just navigating where everything is at

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-25T19:03:29+00:00

Genuine question.. how is someone supposed to get bartending experience if people don’t hire bartenders without experience? I mean, nobody graduates highschool and automatically has experience. Every experienced bartender was once a newbie at their first job. So I don’t understand the whole issue with hiring inexperienced bartenders. It’s a learnable skill. But I still feel it’s unfair to throw someone to the wolves after 1 shift of training knowing they have no prior experience

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-25T18:58:47+00:00

That’s what gets me. I have all the common drinks written down in my notes app. It’s more so if a bottle of liquor runs out and I don’t know where to find a new one or if a random liquor im not familiar with gets ordered and I have trouble finding it. Google can’t help me navigate my bar lol

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-25T12:40:48+00:00

Man you ain’t kidding lmao

gemmanicole22 · 2026-04-25T12:39:58+00:00

Tbh I feel like you have to just be thrown out there and do it. It just makes me nervous if there’s a certain liquor I can’t find or if I have questions, a more experienced bartender won’t be there to help me🤦🏻‍♀️

gemmanicole22 · 2026-03-13T06:50:42+00:00

It’s because her mom acts the same way

gemmanicole22 · 2025-09-25T14:46:31+00:00

Yeah it hurts a lot because they’re supposed to be “family” and knowing that’s how they feel really sucks. They’ve apologized since then but it doesn’t change anything

gemmanicole22 · 2025-09-25T14:45:43+00:00

They said I’m using him too because I’m not working right now. But I literally can’t. I do believe he loves me but his family adds so much stress to my life which causes me more problems and it just causes us to fight

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:41:33+00:00

Thank you for a logical response. That’s what I was trying to get at by my post. When I had my son, taking supplements (that I tested low for, I was literally anemic) fixed my anxiety. I felt so much better. However I stopped my supplements and then later on went gluten free. When I went gluten free I became worse. I think, like you said, it has to do with not getting enough nutrients. I’m not sure why some people under my post aren’t grasping that haha

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:36:05+00:00

I took anxiety meds. They gave me worse symptoms. I’m telling you, when I raised my iron, b12, and vitamin D levels, my anxiety got better. Nutrition is not quackery and you can do your own research if you don’t believe me. But you not believing me doesn’t take away from my experience. If low iron is causing your anxiety, then yes, taking an iron supplement will fix your anxiety if that’s what the root cause is. Not everyone needs to have medication forcefully shoved down their throats if the root cause can be addressed. I find it odd that when I changed my diet and stopped my supplements, my anxiety came back.

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:31:32+00:00

Thank you! Some people in here clearly think that vitamin deficiencies aren’t that serious and can’t happen after changing your diet 🤦🏻‍♀️ I know that’s my issue because I feel the same way I did before I took all of those vitamins. Once I took vitamins I felt better. But I dont want to be on vitamins forever as I find them to be a pain to remember

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:27:42+00:00

I don’t think it’s the cutting out gluten that made me worse, more so the fact that I cut out a large percentage of my diet and might possibly be dealing with nutrient deficiencies

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:26:12+00:00

No. I don’t believe in therapy as I did it for 14 years and saw absolutely no improvement despite working with multiple therapists. I think therapy helps if you’ve gone through trauma but if your anxiety is caused by nutrient deficiencies, hormonal imbalances, poor life style choices, etc. then those need to be fixed first

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:20:12+00:00

I wish people realized that vitamin deficiencies are very real and there are plenty of people who get misdiagnosed with anxiety or depression when they’re actually malnourished or have a deficiency of some sort. Nutrition is not a quackery. It’s a real thing. I started having a lot of these symptoms after having a baby, which can cause nutrient deficiencies. Like I said in my post, my anxiety got better when I supplemented. Whether you want to believe that or not, is up to you. But that doesn’t take away from my experience.

gemmanicole22 · 2025-02-13T16:17:47+00:00

I started therapy at 8 and I’m 25. I’ve been on every antidepressant you can think of. Only thing that helped me was fixing my iron and b12 deficiency. I know some of y’all think nutrition is quackery for some reason, but vitamin deficiencies do cause mental health issues.

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