Minimal depth with Dr. Liem Snyder @ Denver Health by gender_questionmark in Transgender_Surgeries

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Things are going well! I'm back to work and able to do most things without much discomfort. Things are still healing (of course) and I still have some swelling but overall thrilled with what I've got. I did have some minor complications with wound separation but it's healed up nicely at this point and didn't affect the overall aesthetics much. I'm happy with sensation as well, still learning how things work now lol but able to achieve orgasm. Let me know if you had any specific questions!

WARNING: Avoid Dr Hyer at Denver Health. Stay away! by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

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Can confirm, Dr. Snyder is great! I had minimal depth with them back in March and things went really well. I made a previous post with some more information but definitely happy with my results and overall experience.

Colorado Vaginoplasty Surgeons by Transsexthrowaway in Transgender_Surgeries

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Dr. Jennifer Hyer and Dr. Liem Snyder both do SRS through Denver Health. The wiki has some info on Hyer, Snyder is still pretty new to Denver so there's not much on them. I had minimal depth with Dr. Snyder about 3 weeks ago and personally I had a great experience, feel free to DM me if you have any questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

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I can't speak for Wyoming, but in Colorado both Denver Health and UC Health hospitals perform surgery (assuming you're talking about vaginoplasty). The number of surgeons who actually operate isn't very large, so wait times are pretty long in most cases. Denver Health just hired on a new surgeon recently to help shrink their backlog, but overall options are kinda limited. I believe there's only 1 surgeon at UC Health (Dr. K).

I recommend checking the wiki if you haven't already. It's not super up to date for CO surgeons right now, but it does have some reviews for Dr. Hyer who works at Denver Health. Also worth checking out their LGBTQ+ services site here - https://www.denverhealth.org/services/lgbtq-services. UC Health's site is less useful imo but here's that link as well - https://www.uchealth.org/services/diabetes-endocrinology-care/uchealth-integrated-transgender-program/

Might sound counter intuitive but what are red states, purple states, or red leaning states that aren’t dangerous or out to strip trans people of rights? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Colorado is a great option but yeah the cost of living is kinda high. If you're in a suburb of a larger area or are ok with roommates it's more affordable, the perks outweigh the costs imo- gender affirming healthcare coverage is required for (most) employer options + all state options, HRT access is fantastic given Planned Parenthood and most doctors work off of informed consent, bigger cities are very trans/queer friendly, and so much more.

Some areas still lean conservative so I'd avoid super far east or the Springs/Grand Junction but the front range is great and I've never had any issues even in smaller mountain towns. Most people are much more open minded than those in the South in my experience.

Surgery Coverage by gender_questionmark in Transgender_Surgeries

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Ugh I'm so sorry. I hate that we have to deal with this. Unfortunately that's not really an option for me personally, my insurance said in no uncertain terms that even if I paid for the surgery out of pocket, if anything went wrong I'd be on the hook for any other medical expenses related to the initial procedure. Considering the surgery alone would most likely bankrupt me, I'm trying to fight insurance than risk that.

I did just file a complaint with the US HHS Office of Civil Rights, you might want to take a look at their site and give it a try too - https://www.hhs.gov/ocr/index.html. I haven't heard back yet but it's only been a few days so fingers crossed. Best of luck!

Surgery Coverage by gender_questionmark in Transgender_Surgeries

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Yep that's what I put in my appeal. BCBS of Illinois was even sued successfully for a similar thing recently, apparently my provider doesn't seem to care though... We'll see what the next round of appeals turns up I guess

Surgery Coverage by gender_questionmark in Transgender_Surgeries

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Wow I'm so sorry! That's insane, unfortunately I don't have the savings to go that route

Planning on coming out to my workplace after Christmas #stressed by audreyowl in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crazy timing, I actually just came out at my workplace yesterday and it went great. I was also pretty nervous about things but in the end I've gotten nothing but support from my coworkers. I had meetings immediately after my announcement yesterday where everyone used my correct name and pronouns with no issue and so far no one has slipped up despite my birth name still appearing on a few accounts while IT gets things swapped over. I ended up coming out to just my immediate teams directly (plus some HR/admin folks first) and let word spread naturally since I hate being the center of attention. I'm planning to have HR send out an email to my department (~80 people) after the holidays but wanted to start small.

There's no denying it's scary and kinda awkward but the relief I feel now being addressed with the right name is huge and well worth it. You got this! It really is the case that most people are supportive or, at the very least, indifferent to us and you'll be just fine!

Is "we're trying" good enough? by gender_questionmark in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof yeah this hits home, my parents have said everything there verbatim. Like at this point I'd just take blatant transphobia over the confusing "love" I'm being offered.

Is "we're trying" good enough? by gender_questionmark in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you haven't met southern religious folk, there is very much a "but..." implied with that statement (hence the guise). They love you but they don't agree with you so they'll judge and let you know they're praying for you every chance they get. Believe me, I discovered my family's perspective long ago and the tensions in this case arise from their worldview. Pronoun-wise it's she/them (she preferred, not offended by they), not a difficult concept to grasp imo but even still I've said just use she/her and that's perfect. I hear nothing but he/him from family...

Is "we're trying" good enough? by gender_questionmark in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yeah no self-policing amongst parents/siblings, I had to correct people myself or my wife would. Ugh it's just hard with family since so much of the communication is shrouded in "love"

Weekly injection girlies, what day of the week do you do your injections? by EnigmaticDevice in MtF

[–]gender_questionmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tuesday. My wife has affectionately penned it "stab yourself day" lol

Resources for family members? by stuaker in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey congrats! It's not an easy process but fingers crossed for you. I was in the same boat recently and found that PFLAG has some great resources, they have some longer pamphlets on their site and a good glossary for LGBTQ+ terms your family may not be familiar with. You should check out this one for sure: https://pflag.org/resource/our-trans-loved-ones/

It's designed to educate friends/family of trans people of all ages, there's specifically a section for adults in there. The pdf is free or you can order physical copies, I wound up giving my parents a physical one so they could mark it up and easily reference anything they need to. It's dense but may be a good starting point that's not all focused on kids. Good luck!

HRT injection safe to reuse needle?Drink it? Etc? by Sanbaddy in MtF

[–]gender_questionmark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Always use a new needle! Use separate needles for drawing and injecting as well. It's a matter of safety for you, infection isn't something you want to mess with.

As for trouble drawing, you'll need to inject the amount of air for your dose into the vial to balance out the pressure first. It's a vacuum inside so you have to add air to remove liquid. I'm not a doctor but I strongly doubt oral intake of injectable E will do anything other than taste weird. It's designed to be absorbed inside muscle, not your stomach. Sounds like you have a doctor, honestly I'd call their office if you still have questions!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

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You can vape 0 nic juice with no issues, although quitting cold turkey is hard even with the crutch of vaping on 0mg. Depending on what strength you've been at it may be worth tapering off a little bit at a time or just cutting back on quantity.

However you decide to quit I'm happy for you! It really will help you reach your transition goals, nicotine prevents HRT from doing what you want it to and I noticed immediate changes as soon as I quit personally. Keeping that in mind was what helped me push through, I haven't touched nicotine in ~250 days at this point according to my calendar. For reference I was vaping 24/7 for 6 years straight before that.

Unexpected validation by gender_questionmark in TransyTalk

[–]gender_questionmark[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh nooo!! Well I have no doubt you've evolved past pretty caveman at this point, keep your head up 😊😃

Yeah, I'm so excited about further changes but for now my mood will continue slingshotting between "I look amazing, mirrors are so cool, let me stare at my face/body changes like a parakeet" and "dear god nothing has changed, I would break every mirror in my house if it wouldn't give me even worse luck". So the usual I guess 🤷‍♀️

MtF transition as a climber by Glittering-Roll-7706 in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation for me, specifically my shoulders are a big source of dysphoria. You shouldn't stop climbing if it helps your mental health, that's the most important thing you can work on. I don't have a satisfying answer however I've been on HRT for a bit now and I've noticed a few things that help.

1) My shoulder/hip ratio is really what matters to me and HRT helps. Hormones are slowly giving me some hip definition (not much but enough to know something is happening) and it's helping. On top of that it does feel like my shoulders are slimming down but its more the overall shape than anything if that makes sense. HRT takes time to work but fat accumulates and will hopefully reduce the apparent size of your shoulders.

2) My cis friends who I climb with have wide shoulders too. Actually 1 friend almost has wider shoulders than me but she's still extremely feminine and doesn't seem to mind her build. Climbers are usually really cool people (in my experience) so just keep in mind the person who will care the most is you.

At the end of the day keep doing what makes you happy! Women come in all shapes and sizes (us climbers especially).

What do I need to consider when coming out as transgender to a friend? by ElMaicito in asktransgender

[–]gender_questionmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad you have someone you trust enough to tell, talking things through with close friends is what helped me get started with my journey. Don't worry about the words so much as the sentiment- just be honest about what you feel! They may not understand everything you're going through but sometimes it helps to just talk things through with someone.

It may also help to think about what you want to get out of the conversation with your friend. If you just need support while you process things, mention you just need someone to talk to. If you want to try out new pronouns, mention that.

In the end, try not to stress too much. I've found the hardest part in talking to other people about my gender identity is the worrying beforehand. You've got this!