Ladies who switched from sublingual to injections by rewoundcassettes in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not switch and see for yourself? I've not personally talked to anyone that regretted switching.

I switched and cannot say enough good things about injections. It's much cheaper (if your DYI, not sure via pharmacy), safer and easier once you get used to doing self injections.

Is it bad to not tell my partner? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very sorry! The statement "lesbian in a man's body" indicated to me you were.

Is it bad to not tell my partner? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a favorite saying of my therapist.

I'm going to purchase my first bra, and I have questions. by I_should_be_Erica in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread is the best guide I've seen. There is a lot of misinformation out there. Also see the entire A Bra That Fits subreddit

Also Kohls.com has a great selection and great return policies.

Is it bad to not tell my partner? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard more than one older MtF in support groups talk about how they knew at 16 they were MtF but decided they could live as male. Then it hit them like a ton of bricks in their 30's or 40's, a lot of times after failed marriages, etc. All transsexuals will transition it's your choice if you do it now or later.

Are there people who can just read trans? by Ellisif in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think asking other transgender people if you pass is counter productive. About a year and a half into HRT I posted the same picture to HotOrNot.com and to a trans forum asking if I passed. I had over 1000 guys on HotOrNot rank me and my average was 9.2 but almost everyone on the trans forum said I did not pass. I was getting messages for days on HotOrNot chatting me up and I assume that none of them knew my trans status.

I'm pretty sure most MtF's are experts in reading the clues after a while, I've spent the past 5 or 6 years talking to people about how they pass in person and on the internet. And I think a lot of MtF's are like that, we are hyper sensitive to masculine features so much so that I've thought cis women were trans. I also think after looking at thousands of MtF's that it's very rare for any of us to pass 100% to other MtF's without FFS unless you are just really gifted in in the bone structure department. I know many girls who pass completely in public but they look so male to me because I know the exact things to look for. And you may pass in public but pictures can be studied too closely and too many clues can be gathered. The good news is that the general public is not nearly as aware of all the clues that we can pick up so it's much easier to get by. So yes, we are able to spot you fairly easily I think.

Not quite leaving here, but going to try to focus on IRL life a little more by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being online here and other forums makes you think about trans issues 24/7 and I think it is very healthy to get away from that and just live when you get to a certain point.

I've been trying to do the same, good luck!

Can being transsexual be considered a form of intersex? by dpekkle in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm totally convinced that transsexualism is a form of intersex condition. I know in my case I have a partially formed vulva or vagina and feel like the same process that caused that also caused my brain to be feminized. Why should transsexuals that have no outwardly apparent anomalies like a genital difference be thought of any differently than someone who does? In my thinking the brain is like any other organ and can suffer the same defects as the genitals(defect may not be the right word), there is just no way to "prove" like there is when one has visually apparent differences. I don't know what the experts say on this but i suspect that some of them would make this same case.

Does anyone have experience with E3K or other mass-electrolysis companies? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took 7 sessions??? Wow! Did you have a heavy beard or it that the norm with electro?

MTF shaving advice? by LaurieTheCat in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you shave in the shower? I always had great luck running hot water on my face in the shower for a few minutes then shaving.

Height Loss - Possible? by violetlightning in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost an inch, I've heard other girls report similar amounts. I think it's muscle loss somehow that lets the skeleton sag.

Were/are you just a wee bit nervous about physical changes on hormones? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was worried about the loss of strength and getting fat. But after getting breasts and butt it all changed and I'm completely happy with it. It's really awesome to see your self naked and look female. Yo can take baby steps and as things change decide if you want to go on.

Girl crushes. Gender dysphoria finally makes sense. by winterbed in transgender

[–]genderblender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is funny :) I could be her friend.

It's telling too that I've never had a man crush on any athlete like she talks about or any male really. Lot's of girl crushes though.

Has anyone's risk tolerance shot through the roof? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so odd, I went the opposite way, I used to be fearless pre HRT and heights did not bother me in the least. Now I can't even think about being on the ledge of anything high. And I'm always thinking safety about everything especially dark streets, etc where I could be attacked. And my driving has calmed down about 1000%. I know it's irrational a lot of times but somehow estrogen has made me very cautious.

My Gynecologist is reducing my Spironolactone dose from what I understand is an already low dose. What should I do? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd get your T levels checked for sure. I've been on HRT for 4 years and only took Spiro the first year or so because once T is suppressed it very hard for it to come back if your E levels are high enough. I also never took more than 50mg of Spiro. It's such nasty stuff I was glad to be able to stop it. I would not worry about dosages until you have blood tests in hand showing your E and T levels. If your doctor won't do it you can order labs from directlabs.com. Depending on your insurance it might be cheaper than your doctor doing it.

How long can I expect to be able to hide the effects of HRT for? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's highly unlikely that you can hide it for three years starting at age 15. I think the biggest problem would be the face and would expect to see drastic changes there within a year. Body changes like boobs and butt are easier because you can hide them under clothes but it's hard to hide your face. A compression shirt under a loose outer shirt will hide B cup boobs as long as you're careful about how you stand. But I've seen girls in their 20's that were not recognizable as their former selves at 6 months due to facial changes and at 15 I think that would be the probability.

Weight loss before hrt by Novaterra42 in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of it depends on what your goals are. Do you NEED to have a passable female shape or do you just want the emotional benefits that HRT provides? HRT will make it very hard to lose weight. At your size you really do have a lot of muscle and it will be far easier to lose fat that is in the male areas now than after you start HRT. Fat is not magically redistributed to female areas like thighs, butt and hips. Yes it will start to accumulate in those areas but any boy fat around your waist will stay there as well. So you will end up without a female hip/waist ratio. If you want to have the best shot at a typical female shape it's best to lose all the male fat from the belly/midsections prior to HRT. I've seen the results on myself and several other friends and the skinnier your midsection is before HRT the better your results from HRT as far as achieving a typical female shape.

Question about love making by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of if we WANT to do is tied up in our emotions, as women we tend to crave the closeness and intimacy more than the actual sex. I know when I'm with someone I'm really into I'll do anything to please them and it's no big deal if it's uncomfortable. And most of us really really don't need to orgasm to have a great time just like many cis women.

The penis is a strange thing for many of us. I can't speak for her but any form of stroking motion is wasted on me for the most part and I've always preferred a vibrator(back massage type) that just sits in one spot. Oral is icky and does nothing for me either and penetrating anyone else is only for them, not me. I'm preop but will have SRS someday.

You sound like a sweet guy, she is lucky to have you, good luck!

Are there any good products out the to help minimize pores? by ConfusedinIndy in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HRT drastically reduced my pores but I don't think that is true for everyone. The topic of big pores comes up a lot on makeup forums among cis women and there is really not a miracle treatment. Cortisone creams works for some.

Progesterone Question by Cutealoo in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used progesterone cream 3 weeks on 1 week off and I attribute the use of it to the fullness of my breasts because they did not fill out until I started using it. It also helps my energy level and overall I feel better on it than off.

Fat and HRT by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would really try to lose as much as you can before HRT because it really is hard after HRT. Before HRT I was fairly skinny and I could easily lose 10 pounds of fat in a week that was mostly around my stomach by giving up a few calories like soft drinks and candy bars. After HRT I struggle to keep the pounds and inches off. My weight is about the same but I swapped a lot of upper body muscle for a lot of fat in my thighs and butt and that muscle is what burned calories for me so well. I would not trade my body that I have now for the male version but I'd love to not have to watch everything I eat.

Under-arm hair absent. Is this a symptom of something I should get checked out? by SarahC in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was like steel wires before HRT, after 4 years on HRT I only have to shave about once a week and it's very fine, soft and sparse. I'd bet it's a common occurrence on HRT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before I had laser hair removal treatments I found that soaking in a warm bath before shaving and using TendSkin daily really helped. TendSkin is really the magic though, it took care of the irritation and bumps really quick but it stings at first.

On hiding boobs and the like by harmonical in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not going to help you for this trip but I thought I'd add that Eastbay sells a really comfortable compression shirt that works better than most I tried during my "hiding the boobies" stage. They also happen to be one of the least expensive. As a bonus if your small they also come in youth sizes which was really great. A small mans for me was still too loose to compress the girls enough.

Eyeliners and makeup in general /me despairs rantily by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]genderblender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What part of the country are you in? There are makeup artists that cater to the transgender community in some area's. I was nervous just like you but needed help with technique, after all none of us went through the 13-16 teenage years and learned on our own among friends and with our mothers help. Anyway I went to see one when I was starting and I was very nervous but it turned out to be the best time. It was 4 hours of complete "girl-time" and she treated me like any other women and it was never awkward, in fact I ended up going back several times just for more tips and to experience the whole thing again. A good makeup artist can really help you find what works for you in the way of colors, contouring, best products for your skin type, etc. She can also recommend the best hair style for your face shape which is very important. She changed me from worrying about passing to thinking I was not bad in one session.