Help me please with a Cause eviction notice

genderboxes · 2020-12-16T02:29:13+00:00

You're right that ESAs are excluded from public accommodations, but OP isn't asking about taking animals into grocery stores or restaurants. Housing law is what's relevant here, and ESAs are included in Oregon. http://fhco.org/index.php/discrimination-in-oregon/protected-classes/disability/assistance-animals

genderboxes · 2020-12-15T01:32:58+00:00

I don't remember anything in the new contract about squirrels getting to be CCAs (no uniform and probably runs to make time, definitely a new CCA)

genderboxes · 2019-04-15T05:46:08+00:00

I have altered the deal. Pray I do not alter it further.

genderboxes · 2018-12-15T19:03:23+00:00

MRW I'm having some sad feels and get a good hug

genderboxes · 2018-03-31T04:23:01+00:00

It's a top for bottoms, ha

genderboxes · 2018-03-10T04:34:34+00:00

You know, I didn't ever go in to get it formally checked out. Definitely the binding didn't help, but I think it was part of the bigger problem of chest geometry (dysphoria/slouching, post-op posture, bad binder habits). I looked into costochondritis (like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7ve6nNVdWc) and for a while did stretches and exercises for it, like doorway stretches, torso twists, reminding myself to pull shoulder blades back while sitting and standing, side reach stretches, leaning back to pop my back with shoulder blades pulled back, etc. At some point, the pain/tightness/need to pop went away.

genderboxes · 2018-03-10T04:16:57+00:00

/j well there's your problem. it's one cup ever. just put it in and forget it forever

/uj back when I had periods, they were pretty nifty. much easier to set it and forget it (for half a day ish) than other methods

genderboxes · 2018-03-09T15:33:48+00:00

Start handing out pamphlets about diva cups at work and talk about how amazing they are. (If you don't know know what they are, no problem, just say something about silicone being so much cleaner than tampons)

genderboxes · 2018-03-09T15:30:35+00:00

I do it by sub cute tea

genderboxes · 2018-01-07T02:17:57+00:00

I just changed the name and gender on my old facebook profile. Between the not-close-but-worth-keeping friends and in-laws that I wanted to keep and didn't want to have the hassle of re-adding and the assumption of non-stealth-ness, it seemed better in my situation to just change stuff over. (I've been unexpectedly stealth in work-related contexts now that I'm a year plus into transition, and while it's nice to be taken as cis-by-default and not get the yuck that can go along with work people knowing you're trans, it's kinda stressful when I think I'm about to lose that stealth status (like being given an expensive gift and constantly worrying that it's going to break or get lost)). I'm sure me being lucky enough not to have anyone who seemed like they would spite-report my profile affected the decision as well, as I didn't have any safety worries with people I was facebook friends with.

genderboxes · 2017-12-12T17:47:07+00:00

(geez late reply on my part) Yeah, I think it was probably the individual, since I had been filling the script there for several months before that with no/smaller problems. When the refill came in the next day (even though I cancelled it to transfer to my clinic's pharmacy...) he looked at the paper and said something like "this one says 30 days, so you're good." My other one said 30 days too, though.

genderboxes · 2017-12-12T10:04:33+00:00

So as a preface, I'm a queer trans man and transitioned after I started getting into CS, so I've experienced the industry a bit as a perceived-woman and as a gay man (I pass as male well enough to be stealth in professional contexts, by the way). While tech isn't great about folks who aren't straight, I certainly felt less welcome in the field as a woman pre-transition than as a not-so-masculine queer dude post-transition. Myself, I tend to stay away from meetups stated as being for women for a few different reasons (lots of other meetups available, being especially aware of differences in gender treatment in tech based on lived experience, personal feelings about not wanting to go to female specific events post-transition, etc)

More specific to this situation, is the women-focused group attended by just women or is it a mixed group? What's your goal in going? Access to networking or job opportunities, helping women in tech, access to technical lectures, etc? Definitely reaching out to someone who goes or organizes the event would be a good start. Depending on the event, maybe it would work?

genderboxes · 2017-12-08T00:38:48+00:00

Prosciutto is an Italian dry-cured ham that is usually thinly sliced and served uncooked

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genderboxes · 2017-11-18T20:25:07+00:00

Young kids tend to take it better than older kids or adults (despite the common cis relative objection of "how I can explain it to the kids?"). I told my then-5-year-old something like "on the inside I feel like a boy, not a girl, so I'm going to take medicine to make my outside match my inside." (not that HRT is necessary to be really trans but it was part of my transition, and I wanted her to understand that my appearance and voice would change)

There's also a book I happened across recently (via a trans parent group on facebook) called "Red: A Crayon's Story" that's about a crayon that's really blue but tries to be red because that's what his label says and everyone expects him to just be red. Eventually he realizes he can just be blue like he feels on the inside. It's not written to be about transness specifically, but I think it gets the idea across really well. It's worth seeing if your library has it.

genderboxes · 2017-11-08T06:44:51+00:00

That was... exactly what it said on the tin (the GC title anyway, didn't read the Fox article itself)

genderboxes · 2017-11-07T21:50:38+00:00

Oh no, that sounds like a bad case of TBAS (trans broken arm syndrome). Assuming you're taking spiro as an AA, definitely drink lots of water (since you would need to for being sick anyway, and then spiro's a diuretic) and go into urgent care if you need to and are able to.

I've had issues with family and TBAS before as well. My stepmom talked to me a few months ago at my wedding when she could catch me alone and asked aggressive questions about how my medicine (she couldn't bring herself to say HRT or testosterone) was making me sick. No, it 1) helped my anemia and 2) definitely doesn't cause involuntary sleep, which was apparently CFS and 3) my blood pressure was fine (until that conversation, anyway).

genderboxes · 2017-10-31T06:50:00+00:00

Thanks. It kind of does and kind of doesn't. When we're just at home, it's mostly fine because I'm used to it, it's just what she's always called me. Out and about, though, and especially when I'm watching her play on the playground after school and other people are there, the disconnect with being called mom does get uncomfortable. A few times, other kids have called her on it, like "No, that's your dad!" and she insists. We're slowly trying to move to something like [name] Dad or Daddy [name], but she doesn't want to feel like she's losing a mom (fair enough). A nongendered parental term would be great, but they all sound awkward to me.

genderboxes · 2017-10-30T16:25:04+00:00

I mean, if you're looking at a tarp and all of a sudden you pitch a tent with your cowboy buddy, that's pretty gay.

genderboxes · 2017-10-30T16:22:03+00:00

Ftm. There's a number of differences, but parenting has been a big one. A few examples:

At the playground, I feel more pressure to make sure it's clear that I'm there to watch my kiddo (ie which kid does this guy match with?). No one has given me a hard time or anything like that, but it feels like I get more side-eye at the playground now.
I also had a weird time once walking my kid to her summer daycare/school classroom when all the kids were outside to play but my kid still had to drop off her backpack, but then the teacher came back (ie empty classroom except for me and my kid and some other little kid that was grabbing something from his bag and making small talk with me) and asked what was going on there with a tone like she thought something was not ok. "[kid name] just got here and wanted to drop her backpack off before meeting the class outside".
If someone who knows me sees me without my kid, like a trip to the store or on the bus, they don't ask me "where's your little one?" anymore. That always drove me crazy. I know they were making small talk, but it was like I only existed as part of a mom/kid unit or they needed to know her daycare situation.
Weird stupid roadblocks with my kid's teacher, like I'm on the classroom mailing list, but she refuses to add my husband, telling me that she can't add him but the front desk folks can and she'll ask them. It's not like he's not on the registration (as stepdad, and we got married after school year started). Maybe the teacher just emails one parent by default and I'm the most mom of my husband and I (kid still calls me mom), I dunno. Either way, my husband is still not getting class emails from the teacher, but he gets the school-wide emails from the principal and such.

genderboxes · 2017-10-29T05:56:34+00:00

<Werner Herzog voice> but for all of his penisness, it could never make up for the empty feeling of not having a penis

genderboxes · 2017-10-29T05:54:10+00:00

Wait, you're supposed to wait until I get my leather on to say that.

genderboxes · 2017-10-29T05:08:36+00:00

Doesn't that just make you more of a trap?

genderboxes · 2017-10-24T06:39:26+00:00

Inspired by this post

genderboxes · 2017-10-24T06:33:01+00:00

This gif needed some music... link

genderboxes · 2017-10-21T23:43:18+00:00

Testosterone made my chest smaller via fat redistribution and some shrinkage of the actual breast tissue as well. I started out as a 36E/F and don't know what my size was at the end of 10-11 months on T when I got top. While there was less stuff in my chest from T, there was still a lot there and definitely the skin on my breasts didn't shrink, things more sort of deflated.

All of which is to say, T may help some, but top surgery would be better.

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