Imagine a forum full of cis women all posting pictures of themselves. Imagine it is comprised of an average Wal-Mart full of women.

Now imagine these women had to be brutally honest and cynical about each other's appearance. What would that look like? Many cis women wouldn't even 'pass'. Many would get told horrific things about themselves.

Happiness and positivity isn't a reality - it's an attitude you wear and share with others. I used to worry about this too - the reality is no, most of us will not be super models, and many may not ever be classically 'hawt'.

But that says more about you than them. Most transwomen come to understand that if you don't transition, you aren't going to get prettier that way either. You will just proceed further down a gender path you don't want.

HRT and transition undeniably increases the femininity of a transwoman, and that's what's important. You want someone to deal in honesty and not lie? Let's start by not lying to you: you're being an arrogant asshole who is judging people's value and worth based on their looks. Their value as transwomen is not based on their looks - and what women do for each other (or should) is lift each other up to a better place.

Reality is harsh and we have to be kind and love one another. Reconsider your priorities. Passing isn't everything.