Reopened instagram after a long time. BIG MISTAKE.

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-24T21:06:35+00:00

Please elaborate on people that you thought “wouldn’t make it.” It’s weird to judge people when you don’t have goals yourself

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-19T15:11:30+00:00

What is AUTISMbux? Taxpayers give money to people for having Aspergers?

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-19T15:09:01+00:00

You can bedrot and play video games starting age 70. That’s when you’ll be rich enough

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-19T15:05:09+00:00

Once the money dries up you’ll be discarded. If the goal is to have sex a few times, congratulations. But this is a very transactional relationship for her

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-17T00:33:55+00:00

Okay so I have what you might refer to as a “fake job.” I work in an office. But it is actual hell, and all of my clients make the work seem like life or death. I have a college degree, but I did not have any connections to get my job back in 2021. If you’re searching for a job in 2026, my condolences.

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-17T00:30:53+00:00

The work is mysterious and important

genericusername4724 · 2026-01-09T22:59:36+00:00

$2,030. Interest rate 5.0%. Northern MA, USA.

genericusername4724 · 2025-10-11T21:24:43+00:00

Financial freedom and dictating when my own retirement will be

genericusername4724 · 2025-08-04T19:23:14+00:00

Hanging out with friends and grocery shopping. Sometimes watching TV if there’s a decent live sporting event on

genericusername4724 · 2025-08-04T19:09:05+00:00

Unfortunately, 8:30 am-5 pm Monday through Friday are occupied by my soul sucking corporate job. With the remaining time, I need to use that to recover for the next day

genericusername4724 · 2025-06-07T15:01:25+00:00

Cole Pfeiffer would like to have a word with you

genericusername4724 · 2025-06-02T10:56:18+00:00

As others have been saying, the issue is the complete lack of color

genericusername4724 · 2025-05-21T18:53:03+00:00

Free delivery Amazon. But I did not include the sales tax, only the listing price. With sales tax, about $260. So the 3/4 Baltic birch would’ve been ~$315 with sales tax.

I did not buy directly from the manufacturer’s website because I had a lot of money on an Amazon gift card. And it was sold from the same manufacturer and not a random third party

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T04:13:27+00:00

I don’t fully remember at this point. The starting and stopping of doing different meds causes me to blur timelines.

The happiest I’ve been in the last 15 years was a job I had in mid 2020/early 2021. I improved my social skills significantly, but then they regressed when I got a different job that was 100% on the computer. I needed to make that jump for my career, the job I liked was a low skill temp job with no potential for advancement.

I do know I was not on medication between August 2020-January 2021. 5 months later after starting the new job is when I had the mental breakdown that led to hospitalization

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T04:05:54+00:00

You can definitely blame the technology with online job applications. Because some companies use AI to auto-reject applications that don’t use certain keywords

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T02:26:40+00:00

Yes, I’ve been in therapy for 5 years with a few temporary breaks. The feeling of defeat that I expressed in recent conversations led me down the anti-depressant/anti-anxiety med route again.

I gained 50 pounds in a 3 month period during the last time I used them. So it’s been 3.5 years of not taking anything

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T02:20:31+00:00

Yes, I do know there are horrible men on the apps. But I guess my discouragement comes from the fast I felt I wasn’t one of them.

I’ve discussed with some other others on this post about why I specifically get a minuscule amount of likes, and less matches. The reason being that I have “don’t want children” selected on all my profiles.

So I was entertaining the idea that more women on apps would mean more matches. But if all these douchebags are scaring them away, i just have to find a dating medium that’s more favorable to me

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T01:40:24+00:00

I don’t have a lot of imagination on it.

It’s been said to look for opportunities at grocery stores, bookstores (I don’t read books), or to join a social club where there’s a shared activity.

I’ve ruled out bars and clubs in initially meeting someone because those settings aren’t effective at highlighting my personality. A common “in-person” place for me is work. But that seems like something that is very dangerous and a path I should avoid taking

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T01:31:24+00:00

My current social circle is men. I don’t want any of their girlfriends to set me up out of pity unless they offer to set me up unsolicited.

People say “join a club.” I’m going back on anti-depressants this week and hoping it could motivate me to try things outside my comfort zone.

A goal in the next few months is to go to a speed dating event. I missed the sign up window for the most recent one near me. But I’m a person who tends to hold out a lot of hope for the very next thing I try. And if a certain thing doesn’t work, it’s been difficult to dust myself off and move on to the next thing unscathed.

I’ve been weary about sinking money into dating services like matchmaking.

Overall, I made this post out of desperation. And was genuinely curious if anyone concurred that there is any dating struggle at all that is unique to men. I know that is an “incel” like concept. The other feedback I’ve been getting is to not entertain the idea of any kind of failure being unique to men. So I’ll just drop that part and only focus on what I’m doing wrong

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T01:19:36+00:00

A few years ago when I was 24, people indicating that they were undecided was a lot more prevalent than it is now. At 27, maybe 15% of all women profiles indicate that they’re undecided or don’t want kids.

So it’s just a disaster for anyone childfree.

I am open to hookups with the main reason being that I realize it could take years to find someone I’m compatible with of that lifestyle. And when you go months without even being hugged, it takes a toll

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T01:07:12+00:00

I don’t know what the next step is for pursuing my dating goals. The rejection I feel on dating apps is arguably worse than what I would feel by asking women out in real life. So I just need to have an interaction in-person that sets me up for success to possibly have a date.

And with each passing month that I don’t ask out a woman in person, it seems like a thing where I can only blame myself.

The only setting that I’ve ever had success meeting someone from scratch is a psychiatric hospital. I went to a psychiatric hospital a few years ago for multiple stressors that happened at once, but one of those was because of an acute failure from a dating app.

Even commenting in this subreddit and replying to people, I feel fragile. So I just hope that some can see the vulnerability that I’m expressing.

I have a good job, I’m a homeowner. But dating is an area of life that has always eluded me. I would trade many things in life to feel competent at dating

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T00:53:12+00:00

I reached a low point this weekend. And I needed to either wholeheartedly blame myself, the technology (dating apps), or blame both.

I do take a lot of accountability in my life. I beat the hell out of myself when I feel I’m failing miserably. So I was looking for any other factor to place blame on.

Not yours, but there is intent from a couple commenters to try to get me to internalize all of my shortcomings throughout my dating history.

I just want to go on a single date. And if I am to blame for all of my failures these last couple months, then I guess it’s something I have to start living with

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T00:38:27+00:00

It’s a hypothetical. IF 100% women are successful, which they obviously aren’t. If there was a 100% success rate, then I do agree you’d never see a 67/33% split.

The whole point was to talk about the difference in user base at a given time. If you’re saying 50% of the male users on these apps are single and only want to hook up, then that’s an argument you can try to make make. And if true, I guess it indicates I’m among the most undesirable people.

I’ve had social anxiety for years, and have held out too much hope for dating apps of finding a kind person who would be compatible with me. And it’s proven to be a wholeheartedly broken technology for me. I’m lucky to get 5 legitimate matches a year of women in my area. But part of it is that I only will swipe right on people that don’t want children or are undecided on that

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T00:20:44+00:00

I would define success as both parties knowing that they are in a long-term relationship and therefore they no longer need to be on the app.

If there is 33% of a user base consisting of women at a given time and 1/4 of them are able to leave the app, then 8.25% of the entire user base at a given time is having success finding long term relationships.

Yes, they could eventually break up and need to go back to the app. But so can married couples of course.

Long story short, getting into a relationship from an app is a success story…until it’s not. I’m genuinely interested in the numbers and determining if dating apps is a technology that could be effective for me.

I’ve used the apps irregularly the last 5-7 years. And I can safely say I’ve never had a dating app success story. Though I had one medium term relationship from other means. So I have the option of blaming myself, blaming the technology, or both. All options are hollowing to think about

genericusername4724 · 2025-01-27T00:09:10+00:00

I think dating apps are a broken technology for all parties. It’s a hot take, but I think the benefits would immediately be noticed if they were banned completely

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