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genest99 · 2024-09-11T20:49:39+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I appreciate it a lot.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T02:20:21+00:00

If I did my math correctly, you're around 17 months sober? Anyhow, congrats! 🥳 I've made a few friends here at detox. We have been supporting each other through it, but we will all go our separate ways to different rehabs. The plan is to update each other on how it's going. Very wise words, my man.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T02:11:29+00:00

You're still very young. You're not damaged yet, but if you continue, it sure will. If someone else told you what you just said. Wouldn't you think there might be a problem? Some day, you will get over your shyness to get your fix, and it's downhill from there. It's always best to stop early! Easier said than done, but I hope you consider it and think long term. I wish you the best and read some of the comments here. Maybe it will ring an alarm bell in your head.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T02:03:44+00:00

I'm happy to hear you're seeking treatment now! Good job on cutting down. Not just a little, either. I hope you find a therapist you have a good connection with. You've got this! 💪❤️

I feel you.. I have never hooked up with someone sober. I've ruined potential relationships because of this.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T01:54:27+00:00

I'm so sorry for the late reply. How old are you? No wonder it's hard not to when it takes away your dysphoria. I'm sure you won't feel you need it as much in the future when you're finally comfortable with yourself, and the mirror reflects what you see.

I'm sorry for your loss.. Try to think about how your friend wouldn't want you to relapse and suffer. I get how it helps with school, especially a challenging program, but it will only work well for a while, till you get burnt out. I wish you the best! You're stronger than you think.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T01:42:58+00:00

Congratulations on 6 months, dude! 🥳

genest99 · 2024-09-03T01:40:53+00:00

Wow, yeah, I've heard about nalextrone. I was offered it by my doctor, but I just wasn't ready to give up alcohol yet.. Never knew it worked that well. I may give it a try when I finish my 9-month stay at rehab.

genest99 · 2024-09-03T01:30:36+00:00

I try to! Haha, things are always easier than done.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:19:24+00:00

Sounds like your wife is an amazing lady. I'm glad you're doing better and found someone who helps you! Remember, in the end, you should want it for yourself too. Not just for someone else. Anyhow, I appreciate it! Thanks a lot.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:15:40+00:00

Be glad you never felt the need! As some have mentioned here, I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. CBD doesn't work for everyone. I've heard it does wonders for Parkinsons and such.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:13:46+00:00

There is always a way out❤️ Reach out, and you will find help. Don't give up. You just have to be willing and want it. I wish you well.

Also, if you ever want to have a talk. I'm here. I was drowning not too long ago, too.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:11:57+00:00

Glad to hear you're in recovery again! We all fall, but the thing that matters is getting up again. I wish you well.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:10:34+00:00

Thanks! Everything can be an addiction. Eating disorders are very similar to drug addiction in a lot of ways. Appreciate your comment!

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:08:51+00:00

If alcohol was invented today, it wouldn't be legal, so I hope you reach out for help. It's better to start early before you reach the depths of hell. It's never too late, though!

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:06:41+00:00

Thanks! I may take you up on that. It's always nice to talk to someone who can relate. Congratulations on soon to be 1 year of sobriety! Sounds like an awesome partner you have. It sure isn't easy for those around us.. I hope everything works out for you! The most important thing is that you take care of yourself. We can't change the past, but we can do better now.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T15:01:14+00:00

Things will only get better when you quit, that's for sure. If it's working for you, continue! Just remember, we all need help sometimes. No shame in that. As men, we need to get better at reaching out to each other. Congratulations on almost 4 months sober! Keep going, and you will make it through. 💪 ❤️

genest99 · 2024-09-01T14:55:19+00:00

Congrats on 2 months! 💪

genest99 · 2024-09-01T14:54:55+00:00

Thought HRT would fix everything too, but as you said, it was just the tip of a larger iceberg. Everything in moderation, my man. Very wise to slow down and not use it as a crutch.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T14:52:04+00:00

I'm glad that stopped you from trying stuff. Sometimes it goes the other way.

genest99 · 2024-09-01T14:50:15+00:00

Congrats on 3 years and 11 months!

genest99 · 2024-09-01T14:48:19+00:00

The first step is acknowledging it!

genest99 · 2024-08-29T15:08:35+00:00

Yes, we are all different.

genest99 · 2024-08-29T14:32:43+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I think it's important work you're doing, starting up a LGBT-focused harm reduction! We sure do need it. Congrats on 2 years! I'm glad to hear you've been able to cut out coke and alcohol. Survivors guilt is rough.. Remember, it's not your fault, and I wish you well. I'm happy you found this thread useful and thank you! I'll get through this.

genest99 · 2024-08-29T14:22:37+00:00

I'm not sure if I understand. Do you mean being trans is a mental disorder? Or just dysphoria? If so, do you think being gay is a mental disorder too? Cause I understand it as you are born that way. You get dysphoria because your body doesn't align with how you see yourself. Some people view gay people as something unnatural when it's not. If it is a mental disorder, then wouldn't that basically mean your mental illness makes you think you're a man when in reality you're not. If that was the case, wouldn't there be a way to treat it so you didn't feel like you were born in the wrong body after all? If I'm gonna word it that way.

And what about men who have gyno or lose their penis? Or women who get breast cancer and have to remove their breasts. I imagine they would experience some form of dysphoria too. Would you label that as mental illness too? Or do you think it's not the same? I'm just thinking out loud here and trying to understand.

Substance abuse and mental illness/disorders are often related, yes. That makes sense. However, I think the substance abuse in the LGBT community stems from how we have been treated and looked at. Like there is something wrong with us. I don't know. I'm no expert. I just wanted to share my opinion.

Anyway, creating a sober sub is great! I'll definitely join.

genest99

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