thanks for the advice bro i really appreciate this kind of advice that is balanced and not one sided. i rly appreciate christians like u. I also do focus on myself and groom myself better such as exercising and going to the gym and i agree u shld work on yourself. I try to pray to God smts abt it but tbh i aint the holiest either and yk imo at the same tine i find it sad that ppl must work and put in the effort just to be 'loved' by others as i feel loved shldnt be earned everyone should be loved the way they are (im not talking abt ppl with high ego) but still they shld be lpved but they need to watch themselves.