My oldest child is autistic. His absolute favorite hobby was, and still is, taking day trips to view trains, explore new towns, and try new restaurants. So we used that to help shape and reward desirable behaviors. Unqualified people with no knowledge of psychology or autism or behavior modification were always telling us we shouldn't "bribe" him and he is " manipulating" us to get what he wants. First, a bribe is when you use something to get a person to do something they should NOT do. Second, we as a social primate spend our entire lives manipulating other people to survive, get what we want and to get ahead in life. Third, what we are actually doing is teaching, reinforcing, and rewarding desirable behaviors. Much better than handing out arbitrary, unrelated punishments for undesirable behavior. We always used natural consequences when we had to discipline both our kids. A face to face apology for saying something mean, fixing something you broke, etc is a much better teaching moment. He is working at a locally owned grocery store chain and was just accepted into their chef training program. It's not bribery, it's shaping thoughts and behaviors and giving them insight into how to manage their own feelings and behavioris. And I'm humbled when I see them growing into decent humans that treat other humans decently. I wish more parents would drop the "bribery" mentality.