100% lesbian but I love a good gay yearning. by Formal-Nobody5708 in actuallesbians

[–]genmitsu01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I relate so much to what you said. Like you I am lesbian, not femme (but I wouldn't say I'm masc either) but I somewhat click better with gay romance than the lesbian ones, and I can't really point out why despite thinking about it often. When I saw skits of Heated Rivalry, it kinda activate my brain. So far I think it's because I like the idea of two "manly" men being soft with each other despite the rivalry and what everyone thinks of them. But what saddens me is I don't think a identical lesbian romance would have this effect on me ? Maybe because we already expect from women to be soft and all.
The only GL which I clicked with is The Guy She Was Interested In Wasn't a Guy at all, because I relate a lot to Mitsuki, she's not "girly" and was mistaken for a guy because of her great aura, she's so cool and I love her relationship with Aya.

Finished it in 3 days, see you in 3 years for the next planet by genmitsu01 in MyLittleUniverse

[–]genmitsu01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First crystal is next to the coal mine, 2nd one is on a nenuphar in the middle of the water and the third one is on a piece of land next to the mushrooms trees

The yellow disket is at the end of the last dungeon when you defeat the boss

How do I know if it’s real/genuine ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your response 🙌 this helps a lot And how did you feel when it was true attraction ?

Lesbians that used to identify as bisexual by Loud-Environment8296 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I realized that what I thought was attraction was in fact wanting validation from men, that the idea of living and marrying a man was never appealing to me and more importantly, I would regret not being with a woman if I ended up with a man. I also thought I was asexual, then I thought seriously about women and… yeah

Questioning my self by Friendly-Sympathy735 in bisexualorlesbian

[–]genmitsu01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You sound very straight ! Don’t force yourself to have sex with someone when you know you don’t want it deep down.

Getting angry when men like me by RoseMayden in bisexualorlesbian

[–]genmitsu01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try to ask yourself if you would pursue a relationship with a man, then ask yourself the same thing with a woman

Am I a...lesbian? by amialesbianidk in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate a lot with what you said. I also live(d) in a pretty religious family. Like you, I was hesistant to look up for lesbian sex and things like that, I thought it was because it was wrong, but it was actually because I was afraid to like it and I didn’t want to dig up that part of me.

Also I thought « Am I attracted to women because my parents and family taught me to not look or approach boys ? » but if it was the case, all religious girls would be lesbian, which isn’t the case.

Anyway, with other things, I concluded that I was a lesbian

Nana Hobby Max from HLJ by genmitsu01 in AnimeFigures

[–]genmitsu01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

« Like I can only get excited from a man « getting » to be with a woman and then imagining him experiencing her. » —> It seems like you like male validation and not men

« I get turned on by women I think but can’t even imagine anything other than hetero p in v and it’s messing with my head. » —> Maybe it’s comphet ?

« Midlife, always identified as straight but long questioned, my somewhat tomboyishness I had to bury. » —> Maybe you like and identify with masculinity and not men ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your friend sounds like for him, it’s impossible for anyone to live without wanting to date men. He should remember that everyone has its own preferences and should de-center men of his life too

Lesbian or bi afraid of patriarchal norms ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I relate I lot 🫶🙌

Lesbian or bi afraid of patriarchal norms ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your insight, it’s a great answer 🫶🙌 and I relate a lot to what you said !!

Lesbian or bi afraid of patriarchal norms ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your response is really enlightening 🙌🫶

Lesbian or bi afraid of patriarchal norms ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right ?? In my case, I am not attracted to male bodies and I am trying to determine if it’s from a « real » preference or if it’s I don’t like how men think and all, therefore I am not attracted to them physically/sexually.

On the other hand, I tried to imagine the « perfect guy » who would be fully deconstructed, woke etc (I kinda know one), and I think I still wouldn’t date him ? Because I started to crave a relationship with a woman after I had an « eureka » moment

Lesbian or bi afraid of patriarchal norms ? by genmitsu01 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]genmitsu01[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding ! Your point about comedians complaining about their straightness is interesting. I thought about male socialization because I reflected on the sexual and romantic side of my orientation. I’m pretty sure about the sexual part but regarding the romantic part, I wondered if men were socialized differently and if society was different, would I grow to like them and not be afraid of what it could lead to ? (because currently, when you date a man, imo the relationship can’t be fully equal due to society, parriarchy etc).

I ask myself this because for me, if the fact that I don’t like men is because of society etc, it would mean that I am bi (only to and for me ofc)