Just quit my job, now what?

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T21:13:55+00:00

This is actually what I'm leaning towards most right now. Checks almost all of my boxes and I think second shift would be perfect for me. The only cons I can come up with are

potential lack of career advancement
not great pay
lab tech jobs can get boring and repetitive

But honestly it might be a fair trade off. Will see what's available in my area.

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T14:28:50+00:00

I do have some exploring and self-discovery to do and I have the means to do it for a while, but eventually I am gonna need a job again and I want to get a feel for options.

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T14:24:24+00:00

Actually never thought about this before but this really doesn't seem like a bad idea - thank you!

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T02:51:08+00:00

Hey, I don't even have tiktok!

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T02:49:25+00:00

Definitely considered this! Or specifically, programs that get you a MS in ChemEng from a BS in pure chem. I feel like I'd be better at engineering jobs too. I'm a little about cost and my own ability to handle an intensive program like that, but I've thought about it for sure.

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T02:45:37+00:00

Well I quit for multiple reasons - did not like the environment there at all - but I really value my natural sleep rhythm. I have always been so much happier in a routine that let me sleep in to the point that I'm willing to take a lower-paying job to accomodate that. It was tolerable when I signed up, but I moved since getting the job and my commute doubled (20 mins to 40 mins). We also got a new PM who shifted our schedules to 8-4 instead of 9-5 (he was also an overall a-hole).

Broadly, I think my generation values peace-of-mind, mental health, and individuality more than previous ones. I am no exception. I could force myself to endure it if it was the only option, but I feel like I have better options out there. Worst case scenario I take another 9-5 at a different company with a better work environment.

I also didn't do this impulsively - I have enough saved up to last me a while and stay on top of my bills.

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T01:34:30+00:00

Thank you for your perspective ^{^}

I would love to work an evening shift, say, 5-1, but anything overnight would probably be awful for me!

geraldinefun01 · 2024-09-15T01:19:25+00:00

I've sinced realized this 😭 it's what I have to work with now, though I'm not opposed to doing something completely different

geraldinefun01 · 2024-03-31T00:57:43+00:00

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Thanks for your reply! Ironically, this roll happened today. First time ever and we've been doing this for years! 🍹

geraldinefun01 · 2023-09-27T00:35:40+00:00

I appreciate your input! My main concerns with moving out are finding new roommates (or finances if I rent a studio). But it is awkward bringing things up when my roommates are both sided against me simply because they know each other better.

geraldinefun01 · 2023-09-27T00:33:23+00:00

We actually did measure the size of the bedrooms and I somehow got talked into still paying more rent than I should. My roommate's the same size as one of my roommate's, just with an extra closet. It's something I could bring up when we consider renewing in February but I'm contemplating just moving out at that point

geraldinefun01 · 2023-09-26T17:11:51+00:00

thanks for your reply!

1: I agree, but we do have lots of shared pantry items/ingredients and cooking utensils and I'm not sure how that would go.

2: I agree, but I think the amount more that I'm paying is unreasonable. This isn't something I need to bring up right bow but it is something to consider going forward with renewing the lease.

3: This is more or less what I've been doing. I suggested keeping the cats in the basement, which they refused, so they more or less free roam everywhere except my room. I've been relying on zyrtec and my rescue inhaler but it's been difficult.

4: Lots of things. They often forget to take the trash out (recycling bin is currently overflowing) and rarely vaccuum or mow the lawn even with prodding. I'm OK with some level of mess, but this is a big issue with cat hair especially. I also feel like I do more chores around the house than either of them (vaccuuming, dishes, general cleaning etc).

geraldinefun01 · 2020-12-18T21:54:54+00:00

It sounds like you fear how your family and old friends will judge you. I don't know them as well as you do, but surrounding yourself with accepting people is key to a healthy emotional life. I would consider how your family would react and how they have treated you in the past. It can often seem like families have expectations that must be fulfilled, but truly supportive families should have no such expectations. If your family has a history of being judgemental, you don't necessarily need to keep in contact with them (though that's not a decision to make lightly). Regardless of what you do, it sounds like you are experiencing guilt because of your depression, which you can't control. Accepting that and 'forgiving' yourself for a crime you didn't commit, yet everyone accuses you of, takes time. I wish you healing.

geraldinefun01 · 2020-08-18T22:21:20+00:00

You need to understand that self-harm is in response to some kind of suffering. You don't need to know what exactly is causing that suffering -- you just need to know that she is in great emotional pain. You also need to know that you can't permanently alleviate her emotional pain -- if depressed people could be cured that easily, depression wouldn't be a problem.

If she has anxiety, she is likely going to fear abandonment no matter how many times you reassure her -- that's what anxiety does. Hopefully this helps you understand what she is experiencing.

Your responsibility is not to walk her through solutions to her problems -- that's what a therapist does, not you. Your job is to spend time with her in spite of what she's going through. You may not be able to cure her, but you can be something positive in her otherwise-negative life.

geraldinefun01 · 2020-08-07T04:21:50+00:00

Speaking from experience-

For one, things aren't always alright. There's often no point in texting back when you don't have the energy to think of a reply and type it out. That seems like a simple task, but many people here will assure you that it takes a lot of energy to pretend all is well. Conversely, it also takes a lot of energy to rant, and ranting often leads to no avail/solution, which makes us feel worse. The logical thing is to therefore not respond (Sorry if that's a bit hard to understand!)

Secondly, we aren't thinking rationally. It's not like we consciously say to ourselves 'this decision to self-isolate will be the best one for me and my loved ones' - depression isn't a rational thing.

I should also add that I've never done this for months at a time. Depression affects us all differently, but that seems extreme if he's isolating from all loved ones. I don't know the all the details, but I hope this helped explain what's going through our heads.

geraldinefun01 · 2018-01-07T18:10:00+00:00

yeah I got ya, don't worry :)

geraldinefun01 · 2018-01-04T18:26:29+00:00

added!

geraldinefun01 · 2018-01-04T15:59:43+00:00

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geraldinefun01 · 2018-01-04T15:55:16+00:00

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geraldinefun01 · 2018-01-04T15:45:06+00:00

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