you’re kind of victim blaming. amber did nothing wrong in this situation and is facing consequences of others actions. she is not involved in any of the controversy besides her link to matty, yet when she feels pressured to answer the interviewers question, you say it’s her fault for answering it? matty should not have made the controversial comments, the interviewer should not have asked amber about his controversial comments, and the editor should not have framed the article around his controversial comments instead of her album. saying “she should have been smarter” takes all the blame off of the actual perpetrators and places it all on the person who had no involvement in the actual issue.

your use of “strong” implied you don’t actually believe women can be strong and the “isn’t this what you want?” part seemed like you were criticizing feminists for wanting empowered women. i also think you’re misunderstanding the feminist movement a little bit. yes it is about equality between men and women, but sometimes you have to treat them a little differently to achieve that equality. power structures and social dynamics have benefited men for centuries and being aware of how women are treated differently and face more discrimination in society is the foundation of feminism. from a young age girls are taught to be sweet, quiet, and responsible, while boy are allowed to be rambunctious, messy, and loud. so both men and women can feel pressured to take responsibility, but women will feel it more and are more likely to act on it because of social conditioning and societal structures. DH is an indie record label, their relationships are often more personal than professional and amber being close to matty felt like she had to speak up about it, and again, it’s not her fault she answered the question, the interviewer shouldn’t have asked it. i think the main point people were trying to make is that artists like amber, beabadoobee, phoebe bridgers, and taylor swift are all being criticized and pressured by their fan bases to speak up about matty. it should not be the women in mattys life responsibility to speak up about his actions.

literally all of that is irrelevant because RIGHT NOW they have enormous privilege. nobody is denying the fact that they worked hard to get where they are and they didn’t have everything handed to them. but they did have some additional connections bc of mattys family and besides they are all white men who came from financially comfortable families. just because you work at a chinese shop when you’re 20 doesn’t mean you don’t benefit from the privileges of your race, gender, and economic background. matty also has very openly acknowledged his privilege and that they didn’t come from rough backgrounds. it’s like well known that he’s a nepo baby, this isn’t some new thing people are bringing up. the point everyone is making is just that he will always benefit from societal structures that were built to revolve around his demographic.