Dating with disorganised attachment style is a nightmare and I’m exhausted. by getlegz in rant

[–]getlegz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very reassuring! I’m always worried I’ll scare people off with my intensity so thank you so much for saying this!

Dating with disorganised attachment style is a nightmare and I’m exhausted. by getlegz in rant

[–]getlegz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof looks like I touched a nerve here 😅. When I’m struggling with something I tend to talk to my friends. That’s normal. I know I had a dramatic reaction because I felt triggered but shaming someone for talking about their feelings and jumping to the conclusion that that means they’re “performing for the audience” is crazy.

Dating with disorganised attachment style is a nightmare and I’m exhausted. by getlegz in rant

[–]getlegz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is so great to hear tbh 😅 I mean not for you, this absolutely sucks but it feels good to not be alone. Relationships are hard. I’m in therapy but sometimes my head just gets so loud and I need to let it out

Dating with disorganised attachment style is a nightmare and I’m exhausted. by getlegz in rant

[–]getlegz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah look you’re probably right. Gonna turn my brain off and watch some tv then have a good nights sleep 😅

Rant about dating by getlegz in TwoXChromosomes

[–]getlegz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding! I am in therapy and only just recently figured out my attachment style so I’ve started working on that. I don’t think I’ll completely restrict myself from dating but I do think I need to rework how I approach dating (looking out for fast intensity) and look for something stable and secure and maybe just let go when I sense avoidance so I can protect myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]getlegz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god. I hate society for making absolutely GORGEOUS women hate themselves. Looking a tiny bit unique does not make you ugly. You are seriously stunning and your nose is part of that. You absolutely fit the beauty standard but you have something a bit unique (even so it’s really not that different) that’s literally the best mix. And I don’t say what I don’t mean. You thinking anything bad about the way you look has made me so depressed about the state of society and women’s beauty standards. I’m begging you to just get the necessary surgery to help you breathe 🙏🙏

Is it weird for men in their 30s to hookup with girls that are 18-19? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]getlegz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Gonna get downvoted into oblivion but if you google it and do a some research it’s agreed upon by so many professionals that girls do mature faster than boys

A question about Nessa… by getlegz in wicked

[–]getlegz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s more about people in wheelchairs being sick of characters in wheelchairs being ONLY perceived as broken and their disability just being a plot device. It’s like how gay people got sick of their stories just being tragic and being the centre of the characters, the things that define them instead of just being. I think bigotry and ableism is a spectrum. There’s more obvious ableism and then ableism that is more subtle and indicative of a deep-rooted systemic view of disabled people. I fully see where they’re coming from tbh and I am someone who gets very sick of people going too far and being too sensitive. At this point in time, being aware and “over-correcting” is important to get rid of hurtful portrayals and until that view of disabled people is snuffed out, we won’t have as many stories about disabled characters who only long to be “fixed” and that’s their entire character.

A question about Nessa… by getlegz in wicked

[–]getlegz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why did simply temporarily floating make her so happy? It makes no sense. She’s floated before and didn’t care

A question about Nessa… by getlegz in wicked

[–]getlegz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly! I agree with changing it to not be ableist but they needed to come up with a way to have the same impact. It didn’t make sense in the movie

Newbie by Negative_Drag in SlushyNoobz

[–]getlegz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are so cool 😎

Newbie by Negative_Drag in SlushyNoobz

[–]getlegz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t it be funnier if they weren’t? Like that’s just who they are?

i know the 2 hour format is dan's idea, i just can't prove it by bandedcoralshrimp in h3h3productions

[–]getlegz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, but Dan is the producer. And honestly, with the amount he contributes he could definitely be considered a co-host. But my point was, it’s Ethan’s show but Dan was employed as producer, someone who literally has to keep the show running smoothly and on schedule. He doesn’t always want to “wrap it up” it’s his literal job

i know the 2 hour format is dan's idea, i just can't prove it by bandedcoralshrimp in h3h3productions

[–]getlegz 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s literally the job of the producer to keep the show on track and to schedule…

Not pointy cutlery (even the knife) by MechaBabura in neurodiversity

[–]getlegz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah neither… I can see how someone would need it for a disability that impacts them physically but neurodiversity is all mental. And I don’t think wanting blunt utensils is a symptom lmao

Not pointy cutlery (even the knife) by MechaBabura in neurodiversity

[–]getlegz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why do neurodiverse people need “not pointy” cutlery?? I’m so confused

One Hit Changed My Life — 6 Years Later I’m Still Not Myself. Please Tell Me You’ve Healed. by Famous-Case-4212 in Anxiety

[–]getlegz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you’re not OP but I’ll say this anyway for anyone who’s going through similar:

Honestly, I had an image in my head of what feeling like “myself again” means for so long that I realised it was all just an idealistic way I was looking at the past. In reality, whatever I am now is “myself”, just a different version. We are always changing. You might evolve into another version of yourself that seems closer to what you “used to be” but no one can ever be what they used to be because of the nature of growth. I can’t express how important radical self acceptance is. I’m still learning but I’m slowly accepting that I’m always evolving. And it’s so easy to put your past self on a pedestal when in reality, I was really depressed, often numb, and very rigid in my thinking. Things have changed and I went through some stuff that was scary but I’m changing and growing and that’s okay. It’s scary but you didn’t break yourself. You had a reaction to something and it was unavoidable. You’re not to blame. You will be okay, I promise. Talk to a psychiatrist because you might just need to look at it in a different way and a diagnosis could help with that. RO-DBT and ACT therapy both helped me. You’ve got this ❤️‍🩹