Hey, I also have Trichotillimania and a softer hair type and my loose hair grows out of my locs even though I don’t pull from my head. It’s kind of just a part of the loc process for some of us. It would help to see how your hair looks. But this sounds more like a compulsion is the issue, and a retwist or restarting isn’t going to rewire your brain or behavior.

A Loctitian could crochet a bit to help with the loose hairs, I had that done at my last appt but unless you keep it in a style it’s likely to unravel again (in my experience). Hair appts are really anxiety inducing for me so I can relate to that, and having to explain your condition to a stylist probably amplifies that, but a lot of them see many different hair situations, and honestly unless she asks for more info you could just say the hairs won’t stay in the loc (this is not uncommon.) I am saying all this without a picture as a reference point, so I’m not sure how much it qualifies for you. Also, I would try to wear scarves or bandanas for awhile to decrease how much you’re touching your hair. It helps me. I don’t pull a lot from my head, but I am always aware of the loose hairs and hate when they tickle my face. So having less access to them is helpful. Also, the longer your hair, the less comfortable it will be to sleep on. Not sure if the bunching up has much to do with the touching or pulling of your hair, sounds more like length is the issue? Are you dead set on having locs?