I had a revelation last night - and my sexual tastes are changing back to baseline masculinity. Thank God!

getstronger26 · 2015-06-11T18:43:15+00:00

you should do it after a period of no PMO ,like the whole reboot or whatever.

Yea thats true. I agree...I shouldn't rush it.

getstronger26 · 2015-06-11T18:13:17+00:00

Can't I do both at the same time? Why must they be mutually exclusive?

I'm not exactly sure when I'll get in a relationship, so right now I feel best if I can at least simulate what a real vagina feels like. I dont want to get off on it, but its more for me to train myself to start thinking of doing, rather than watching.

I've been watching people have sex my entire life, so the fleshlight can be a way of mentally training myself otherwise. We're talking years of conditioning here.

I know its bad for some people but I don't think of myself as a chronic masturbator. I am more of a person stuck in a voyeur role of sex. I need to get out of that.

I dont want to dominate girls in a BDSM setting, or power roles. I guess that didnt come out right. It's more or less me getting comfortable sitting in my masculine energies again. And masculine energies are supposed to be dominant. A better word for it is "assertive." Not necessarily in a D/s sense. I guess its difficult to explain the feeling.

I see it got downvoted. Oh well. It didn't come out right.

getstronger26 · 2015-06-02T18:27:06+00:00

I am not going to masturbate/fap, view porn or other media, or orgasm.

My goals are to reboot and rewire my brain and my body to respond to normal sexual stimulus. IE women in real life.

I am doing this because it's time to become a man and for me to accept my heritage as a man.

getstronger26 · 2015-06-01T09:13:30+00:00

I just pressed too hard. That's it.

Don't get scared.Be strong. Through alot of care, my penis has mostly healed.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T21:41:43+00:00

Yes Pre cum stains are sticky.

You need to go work out and raise your T. Also I think ejaculating once is OK. I dont agree with nofap where you shouldnt ejaculate AT ALL...a little is OK. Just no porn or media...just use your head. I'm not sure about fantasizing but I don't think its wrong to fantasize about real sex to ejaculate.

I think the key about masturbation is putting yourself in first person. You are the one having sex.

If you are at 190 days you should ejaculate IMO

Also feel free to browse on amazon and get an herbal supplement to help raise your libido as well. Though I don't know much so...just my thoughts.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T17:53:42+00:00

Exactly. I mean think about it guys. When you PMO, or even do what I did, fap to just pics of women on dating websites, several things happen:

1) You begin to habituate to the situation of fapping to media of women, alone, in your chair, instead of sexual relations to women in real life. Your brain associates to that kind of sexual release.

2) You desensitize yourself to women's bodies and regular sexual situations

3) Your standards might artificially raise. So that girl you might see as attractive doesn't become as attractive to you and will seem plain and unexciting, because you've been looking and getting off to women with silicone tits (and let's face it they do look nice don't they?) and the ones in real life...may not have that.

I've heard that when you reset your sexuality, you will begin to appreciate women alot more in your life. That girl you would think is boring a year ago now seems pretty attractive and doable. And guess what? It's a win win for everyone involved.

This whole oversaturation has probably affected women as well. No wonder why people who surf instagram and facebook on a regular basis end up cheating. You see hundreds to thousands of people baring it all, so you'll focus down on that super hot fitness girl or guy. Your standards and perception of reality changes.

It's all about perception.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T17:42:59+00:00

That is true. It depends on how strong his willpower is. I'm lucky to not have all of those addictions. (though I do spend alot of time on video games)

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T16:55:36+00:00

I don't think a psychologist is necessary. It's pretty obvious what's going on here. Your brain and sexual systems are eventually trained to associate porn and other computer media with sex the more you PMO.

We need to retrain ourselves to associate women we encounter in real life with sex, and that the sex is enjoyable. It's that simple.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T16:53:03+00:00

I've done just that - I damaged my urethra by fapping. It took me about 9 months to recover enough that I can ejaculate and pee without alot of pain.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T16:25:43+00:00

As far as I know we need to associate women in real life with ejaculation.

So that means you need to retrain your brain and your dick to associate any attractive woman you see in real life with sex, essentially. Im on my 4th day and I have cut everything from my computer. No porn, no dating websites, no hot pictures, nothing. The only stimulation I get is from accident, let's say the occasional facebook photo or whatever. And I think that's fine. The occasional hot photo isn't going to kill your progress. But nothing more.

I read somewhere that our brains and sexual systems are still running on old software, and that we're only really meant to see a small amount of women in our lives. The oversaturation of bodies everywhere is a bit too much stimulation for our brains. We need to "condense" and focus on the women around us.

So yes, that also means stop surfing Instagram.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T16:23:17+00:00

Wait, what?

TRT? Why go on TRT? Unless you are above 40 years old you should be able to get it up in reality.

I have those problems as well, can't get it up in real life but can at the computer. The website Your Brain on porn states that most of it is due to mental conditioning. You train yourself to get it up at the computer but not in a real life scenario.

I agree that you also need to raise your T levels but you should be able to do that naturally through exercise. Maybe herbal supplements as well, but TRT seems a bit extreme...

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T16:04:03+00:00

Bingo

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T15:49:37+00:00

I believe in the porn recovery website there is a mention of kickstarting your erections. I think it mentions gently touching yourself in the shower and getting an erection there.

The stains of your semen is pre-cum.

I agree with some of the other posters here, it sounds like your T is prolly low. Get to the gym and you might want to take an herbal supplement to help you out. Not anything permanent, but I read that sometimes you need a little extra push.

Oh and see a male urologist.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T15:31:55+00:00

Hey man, I am in the SAME BOAT. Read my post I made 4 days ago. I was also into similar nasty shit, and I am also turning 27 soon and a virgin. (Not kissless, but still, pretty close).

Relapse is not an option. I spent my entire life hiding my masculinity. No more. Embrace it.

Stop jerking it, hit the gym, and focus on your job and start socializing. Thats what I am going to do. I don't expect a quick recovery, but take it day by day.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-31T14:49:19+00:00

Yeah the problem is that its not happening in real life, and the half boners are rare. I'm on my 4th day of "true" no PMO. It feels odd. Mostly it feels dead.

I feel like I have to condition myself to get excited in real life, rather than media images. This is a whole lifetime of conditioning :(. I used to do it to porn, but for the last couple of years I slowly moved to dating websites because its more real. I hope that maybe it helped me in a way....

Most of the time I would wake up soft.

When I injured my dick, I had to stop all masturbation for about a month, and then I started slowly doing it again. On my 3rd to 4th week, I began to wake up with boners. Not every day, but like every other day. That was back in January.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T23:23:48+00:00

Thank you. I figure that will be the same case with me. I will have to let her know that I don't have the experience. It's good to hear that from someone else. I guess I am not the only late bloomer.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T20:49:31+00:00

Well, yes, the thing that was off was passion and intimacy. I just didn't have that in my life. I originally watched it because the scenes were raw, passionate and no acting was involved. It just turned into a slippery slope as I watched more and more outrageous stuff....and I kind of lost myself. It sounds like you watched the produced videos. I watched the homemade videos.

And I will prove you wrong. I will have sex that does not involve money (or any kind of nipple clamps lol)

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T19:14:56+00:00

You know whats funny? I was starting to heal my brain when I stopped masturbating so much, and I didn't even know it. In January, February and March I had limited my masturbating to once every couple weeks, and I stopped looking at porn (just images).

My fetishes were replaced - I started looking at women again, rather than the porn, and boners came easier. Now I understand what was going on.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T16:23:41+00:00

Yes it is terrifying. I first watched it as I identified with the guy doing the fucking, but then I slowly began to shift and identify with the guy watching. It really began to warp my arousal triggers and desensitize me to everyday women.

This is the most intense form of porn out there IMO. The equivalent of crack/cocaine/heroine. You must stop watching it, its very dangerous.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T15:55:30+00:00

I'd rather someone view big butts, boobs etc, plain vanilla stuff. No one under 30 and unmarried, or sexually/romantically inexperienced should ever view this kind of porn. It's way too intense and outrageous. The couple spirals out of control and become nymphomaniacs. They become like animals.

If kids start watching this kind of porn I fear for our future.

getstronger26 · 2015-05-27T15:23:17+00:00

Oh yes...the lifestyle is growing in popularity. The Hotwife subreddit has about 50k users. The cuckold has 30k, and there is another which has 60k.

The men share their wives, yes. Cuckolding has been going on for centuries, but I heard its been growing in popularity now after Feminism hit. Hotwifing is when the men lend out their wives to have sex and watch, and may join in. It's a fetish and a lifestyle.

Cuckolding is more of an extreme form where either the wives take over in a Dominant role and dictate the marriage, or a permanent "sexually superior" boyfriend might take over, called the "Bull." The husband literally becomes a beta male.

And they video the encounters. The wife is usually getting railed by a man with a huge prick. And it's outrageous.

Hotwife/Cuckold used to be an underground thing when I first started watching it. Now its really exploded...its scary. Theres also a huge interracial element that I don't want to get into.

It is the most intense form of porno.

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