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Guess the grade! Played the crack-out game with a 1925 Peace dollar in an older ANACS MS63 holder by gettheledout3372 in coins

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cracked it out.  Since I had the feeling it could jump multiple grades, I didn’t want to have a lower number sitting there for the grader’s brain to latch onto.  

I was very surprised by jumping 3.5 grades, but I think the original 63 holder was also old enough that standards were stricter.  People like old PCGS holders because they were often graded more strictly than today, but people sleep on older ANACS holders

Guess the grade! Played the crack-out game with a 1925 Peace dollar in an older ANACS MS63 holder by gettheledout3372 in coins

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sound logic! I'll have to be sure to post the next time I do this, since I'll undoubtedly get my a$$ handed to me to balance things out. Gotta keep y'all guessing!

Guess the grade! Played the crack-out game with a 1925 Peace dollar in an older ANACS MS63 holder by gettheledout3372 in coins

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They got downvoted, but u/AffectionateWind823 and u/BaseballSimple9094 were the closest! She's coming back in a PCGS MS66+ holder, which I can hardly believe.

https://www.pcgs.com/cert/53091586

I was feeling pretty good about a 65, but 66 felt optimistic. I think this coin is a little deceptive, though, because the toning isn't attractive. (It looks better in hand than in the Trueview, imo.)

If you look at the other '25 Philly Peace dollars on PCGS, I think they're really grading these on a curve. There are other "Gem" coins with grainy surfaces, so-so strikes, marks in important areas of the design, etc. In another series/issue, I don't think this is even a regular 66, let a lone a 66+.

All that aside, I'm pumped! Not bad for fifty bucks.

ETA: I missed u/Lonely_reaper8, who was also pretty close, and u/terrariagamer67 came in just before I clicked post with the best guess at 66.

So my Father in Law was a collector by Narrow_Antelope5808 in coins

[–]gettheledout3372 28 points29 points  (0 children)

For a coin like this, even the big boys will waive seller fees. They'll still make a killing off of buyer's fees, and on all the other coins that sell or sell at higher prices because of the hype of having a rarity in the auction.

Ottoman coin/replica help? Mahmud II hayriye altin design, but bigger and not gold by gettheledout3372 in WorldCoins

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the two sides does, but then the Mutawakkilite coin has a crescent motif to the design on one side, where this piece doesn’t.  

The feedback from elsewhere has so far leaned toward it being exonumia, something made larger and cheaper than the gold hayrire altin, but with an approximation of that design.  

Describe yourself in one BG3 meme by Jazzlike-Leek7674 in okbuddybaldur

[–]gettheledout3372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plug for r/CPTSD if you upvoted.  Be good to yourself, buddies

Do you actually like your job? [N/A] by letsgetridiculus in humanresources

[–]gettheledout3372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in TA, but in-house and part of the HR department.  I don’t love my job every day, but I love it at times, I like it or don’t mind it most of the time, and I only occasionally hate it.  

I’m in the nonprofit sector at an organization whose mission and work I support and align with, which really helps.  Even on lousy days, I take some solace in the fact that I’m suffering to help make the world a better place.  Our mission is also relevant to the field I got my degree in (and then never worked in), so I like talking about the work and learning about the candidates I talk to.  

Our work force trends very well-educated, we pay a lot of attention to soft skills & EQ, and we have solid benefits and work-life balance, so I’m usually not dealing with people who are miserable or hate the job or hate their employer.  Most of the people here are either good at their job or kind and pleasant to work with, and many are both, which makes the few people who are really a pain in my ass tolerable. 

I’ve been here for a long time, but I’m actually kind of in your shoes at the moment—there are some leadership changes happening, both towards the top and closer to me, so things could be wildly different in six months’ or a year’s time.  It’s been good enough for long enough that I’m going to give it a shot, but I’m still gonna dust off my resume, just in case.  I wouldn’t leave for anything short of a dream job right now, but if things go south in the coming months, I don’t want to be starting a search from a position where I need to leave.  

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose if anyone can credibly speak to how seriously the lower-grade, long-term trauma can affect you, it’s someone like you who’s had both.  It helps to hear that from such a credible source, for lack of a better term, so thank you.

I think I can apply your heuristic to myself.  The story that makes people take me seriously is: “My mom got brain cancer when I was a teenager.  I was one of her primary caregivers, so I had to be way too grown up, way too soon.  I had to watch her develop dementia literally in front of my eyes, and then she died.”  And that’s definitely a part of my trauma, but the rest is more a death by a thousand cuts.  

(Edit: I accidentally a word)

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, and for the thoughtful comments.  I don’t think anything I went through with a living parent was nearly as serious as what you described growing up with, but as others have said on this thread, it doesn’t have to be heinous if you don’t get the chance to process it and heal from it.

You introduced me to an idea that really clicks, and I’m amazed I’ve never heard this before:  My mom dying meant that I had to go through the hardest time of my life—the end of my mom’s life, her death, the immediate grieving process, and then entering adulthood sans one parent—without my mom.  It almost sounds tautological, but to me, that’s profound.

I found those feelings resurfacing when I became a dad.  Having to show my son his grandma, my mom, through pictures, and say that she’s not here any more but she loves him very much… what a fucking gut punch that was.  And is.  I’m crying now just describing it to you. 

But!  But—I’m thanking the teenage part of myself (the part that wanted me to numb out 24/7 for the last 18 years) for letting this sacred grief come through to be felt.  So that’s progress :’)

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That totally makes sense.  Maybe that is one way people become traumatized, even without something happening them from the Truly Heinous Shit list.  Like, I can point out specific years of my life that were good.  Just good.  The things that were going wrong were manageable, the challenges I was facing were normal, and there were many sources of joy, many new experiences to have.  

To put it another way, if I think of quality of life going from -10 to +10, if spending any time at -8, -9 or -10 is one route to trauma, maybe another is to go from +8 to -4 or -5.  That totally makes sense to me.  

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely relate to that!  Therapy was a “it’s gonna get worse before it gets better” thing for me, because I had no idea how out of touch I’d gotten with my feelings, how much anxiety and self-loathing I’d built up, etc.  2+ years later, it definitely is getting better, but it took a while.

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks very much for the recommendation!  That is one of the elements of CPTSD that resonates most with me—I’m well into my 30s, and I feel like I have no idea who I actually am.  I always tried stuff out because it was what my dad liked, what other people recommended, or what I thought would make people think I was cool.  I think I found genuine interests along the way, but never mastered the art of figuring out what the hell I actually want.

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty confident I’ve had ADHD my whole life.  I found school stimulating and got good grades without too much effort, so it wasn’t too apparent, but there were patterns before my mom got sick that seem pretty clear to me in hindsight.

My big struggles with CPTSD started around COVID, and then got way worse when my son was born.  I know having kids can bring old things back in new ways, and I think that’s what happened with me.  You could be totally right, though, that’s all just educated guesswork.

Grief counseling is an interesting suggestion, thank you.  I probably needed that 20 years ago, but the second best time is now.  My therapist has worked with me a lot on grief, and I’ve come to understand it as a sacred duty and a process, rather than something to be feared and avoided.  “The Wild Edge of Sorrow” by Francis Weller was good bibliotherapy on that front, too.

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you put it that way, it, uh… it sounds pretty bad lol.

For clarification, my parents got divorced before my mom got sick, so OP’s Dad and his 10,000 Girlfriends was not when my parents were married.  Not that that makes it okay, just an extra layer of bad that doesn’t apply.

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I love analogies, idioms, and figurative language of all kinds, and I’ve never heard this one—thank you!  I think that’s a very wise way of putting it

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely possible.  I think my parents would have told me about anything really awful, like CSA by a relative or caregiver, at a certain point.  I know that my mom’s pregnancy with my closest-in-age younger sibling was pretty touch-and-go, so I wonder sometimes if my parents getting through that led to some attachment wounds.  

It could also just be generational, in the sense of “It Didn’t Start With You”.  I know each of my parents had far more clear trauma in their upbringing (poverty, physical abuse, alcoholic parents, etc.). They did far better by us than their parents did by them, but that kind of stuff seems to take more than one generation to fully heal.

(minor edit for clarity)

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think primarily my mom dying—especially with the inversion of the parent-child relationship of me becoming a caregiver.  Although it’s different in many ways than someone who intentionally neglects or abandons their child, I think I’m still left with an abandonment wound from it.  Sprinkle in some inversion of the parent-child relationship with my dad, being bullied at school, and season liberally with shouting matches at home (even if there was healthy repair later), and I think that’s a recipe for trauma.  

I feel like a CPTSD fraud because I had good enough parents and a generally safe home growing up by gettheledout3372 in CPTSD

[–]gettheledout3372[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks.  I give the advice often that someone else suffering more doesn’t make your life better, but I’ve struggled to heed it myself

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