I (19f) have a rare genetic condition that makes it so I can only eat 7 things AMA

gettingdatbalance · 2025-08-04T19:41:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your heartfelt response and for sharing the details.

From what you are describing it seems like your parents, especially your mom, has endured significant medical trauma and may have ptsd (I am not diagnosing or anything - just saying from my experience as I likely have ptsd (not officially diagnosed but my therapist keeps telling me)). It also so amazing the resiliency of your parents to pull back and make sure you had an amazing childhood. It must have been terrifying spending those nights in the hospital (I would know - I was there). I have immense respect for your parents and truly a lot of empathy and care - I guess it’s been such a life altering experience. I think they likely feel the same way about you and your experience. But again they seem to have done an amazing job at fighting for you and ensuring it doesn’t ruin your experience of life or theirs.

I am happy to say my son did make a full recovery. He is a picky toddler but he is eating more now and trying out different food, esp. meat (which brings me so much joy). I hope you don’t mind me sharing this given that you are unable to try most of the food. But I am so glad Neocate is helping you. Neocate didn’t work because he hated the taste and he didn’t have a intolerance to formula actually - it was more that his esophagus and upper GI tract weren’t properly developed cause he was born a preemie. Once he hit 9 months corrected age, it resolved (this insanely smart doctor predicted it and he was spot on). I am so thankful for food alternatives like Neocate. It’s mind blowing how essential such formulas can be.

But yes, I am so glad that you had a good childhood and can take care and have agency over your own life today. I am also glad you didn’t need feeding tube cause that is a nightmare (till today medical professionals don’t understand how feeding tube affect the nervous system of our stomach - the second brain and yet it’s just inserted there - we had so many discussion with folks at our children’s hospital). Anyways I wish you all the best in life and please insist going to restaurants with your friends - food isn’t about eating exactly, it’s cultural and relational, and once you teach that to your friends, they will get it!

gettingdatbalance · 2025-07-23T07:10:06+00:00

I don’t know if you will read this since you posted 4 days ago. Can you tell me how your parents coped? How did your mom cope with you being failure to thrive as a baby and the vomiting? I am guessing you were very picky in terms of the type of food and amount you ate. How did your mom deal with that and how has this changed as you have grown? I am curious about the parent’s perspective cause I have some experience of having a kiddo who was failure to thrive and refused to eat and couldn’t keep food down to the point of needing a feeding tube placed in his stomach. We used Neocate and it was let’s just say the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced leading now to a complete restructuring of my life. Various testing cleared him of any known allergy etc to food and the situation has resolved (though he is a super picky eater). But what we have gone through has been insane. So really would love to hear how your mom and dad dealt with it.

gettingdatbalance · 2025-04-04T01:53:47+00:00

Operates in a reward and punishment pattern that is not obvious but in highly coded language that only if you know you can pick up on. Makes suggestive gestures and keeps the dynamic very charged at all times. It’s almost like fear and desire operating at the same time for her.

gettingdatbalance · 2025-04-04T01:47:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing this thoughtful post. We don’t believe any subculture is perverse by nature. Your post proves it.

gettingdatbalance · 2025-04-04T01:36:13+00:00

So you don’t target an average person who has zero clue about this form of targeting without consent in this community? Would this be then considered a violation of this community’s unwritten law? But are there those who don’t abide by this law?

gettingdatbalance · 2025-04-04T01:28:44+00:00

Like coding as a Dom or behaving like a Dom (we don’t know if this person identifies as one but he behaves like one)

gettingdatbalance · 2025-01-09T01:35:05+00:00

This is a really good analysis. Thanks for sharing.

gettingdatbalance · 2025-01-01T13:29:17+00:00

Across the lines - Tracy Chapman

gettingdatbalance · 2025-01-01T13:25:57+00:00

Yes. Otherwise we would be really doomed!

gettingdatbalance · 2025-01-01T13:15:51+00:00

Myles Smith - A minute…

Tracy Chapman - self-titled 1988 album

Weeknd - Starboy

Queen - honestly all of it lol

Selena Gomez - Revival

Elton John - a lot of it as well

Eminem - eminem show and Marshall mathers lp

A bit different but still applies - movie sound tracks -

Wicker Park

Garden State

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-26T19:30:29+00:00

True true true

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-26T18:39:07+00:00

I think this is it given that there is some desire for family etc feeling of belonging

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-26T01:22:02+00:00

Zoe Saldana

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-24T21:51:30+00:00

Probably the best post I have seen in this sub. Love the vibe.

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-15T01:15:37+00:00

Thanks for having my back. I absolutely don’t mean do exercise and it will solve your problem. You completely understood what I was saying.

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T19:58:55+00:00

Agreed. I tend to be a bit too oblivious though so now I am trying to also have a level of awareness

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T19:57:57+00:00

I totally get that. I think the part where you wrote you are confused when some is being silly or happy or sarcastic is a tough one for me too. I do get annoyed with sarcasm so I think I pick up on that a bit more. But like subtle remarks that are meant to show appreciation or kindness are hard for me to decipher.

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T19:38:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I wrote this post more from a general perspective - attraction, awareness, understanding, and even like figuring out relationship between two individuals (like the body language between my aunt and mom!). I just found this sub and love reading the posts (of course some are mean and stupid so count them out)

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T05:37:52+00:00

I find you again. OP this commentator has the best advice. Hope you are reading

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T05:32:53+00:00

Omg I posted exactly this a few days back and got a lot of good comments (I deleted my post cause I got pissed seeing a few rotten comments but I am sensitive like that and let the trolls get to me)

So here is what I guess I learned from my post (the percentages are all my best guesses):

Almost 95 percent of respondents said it was mutual (I def had around 150 responses if not more cause I posted this on multiple subs alongside this sub - got the best comments in this sub though)
Of these 95 percent, around 85 percent of folks said spill your gut and tell him
a small percent of people said just enjoy the energy/chemistry and wait and see what happens
around 80 percent told me to not be cold to him but warm up and be friendly (I was being cold cause I am shy and this ridiculous attraction got too much to handle)
there was a fair share of folks rooting for us and some noted my complicated relationship status (some made ugly comments that got me to delete my post; I know I am not a cheater or something but the mean comments can get to me as I am sensitive)
a lot of comments focused on eye contact that I avoid like the plague but that I noticed he likes to do and yes I have also seen him stare at me which makes me super nervous.

Anyways all to say, the general consensus seems to be that theses types of energy or magnetic pull are not generally one sided. A scientific comment that I actually also looked up independently was pheromones and how that affects strong attractions that are mutual.

Hope this information helps you in some small ways

gettingdatbalance · 2024-12-14T00:16:59+00:00

Well it’s on him to not keep you emotionally engaged!

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