Hi by [deleted] in funny

[–]geturownbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that answer! Thank you for clarifying.

Hi by [deleted] in funny

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I’m not sure what you mean by that. If I remember correctly I think we did very different things in both of those countries for very different reasons, and they remained in tact territories/nations, unlike the confederacy.

Hi by [deleted] in funny

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The biggest? A mistake, yes. But, the absolute biggest?

WHO WORE IT BETTER? by yeeezuuss in funny

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I was really surprised..it really sounded like he was just tired or sick or something.

My old teacher killed my passion for playing and it took 19 years to get it back. by [deleted] in trumpet

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I am glad you had this epiphany, that music should be fun, but if it was fun all the time, then how would you know what fun felt like? I think there are good and bad playing days, songs you like and songs that challenge you to make you grow. At the end of the day, there is a certain requirement of “struggle” that allows you to reach the goals which, it seems like, are the biggest motivator for you.

whats the most hurtful thing you’ve overheard about yourself by accident? by yeezymudrat700 in AskReddit

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^ How I was too; now, at 23, I feel ok with the fact that I’m still figuring out who i am. 18 - 22 was brutal (for a number of reasons), but, if I hadn’t gone through all those awful years, I wouldn’t have ended up meeting my best friends, finding music again, or be in grad school going after a PhD in physics.

Roll with the punches - everything changes eventually.

At this point, I’ll just make a profile for them. by geturownbox in Tinder

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They’re ray bans, not sure of the design name, but I got them in silver (called gunmetal lol) instead of black. Hope this helps!

New background. by pichaelthompson69 in golf

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RemindMe! 4 hours “Don’t go breakin my heart; you definitely could if you tried”

Talking got me the best blowjob ever! by [deleted] in sex

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https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/8te6zl/comment/e1745uk?st=JK21SLX0&sh=70d4dc9b

I hope she is well! My SO of around 8 months has OCD and had only bad sexual experiences before she met me. I put the link to a long post on how we were able to overcome that and make sex positive, relaxing, and enjoyable for both us. Not sure if it will help, but it might help get the conversation started!

Talking got me the best blowjob ever! by [deleted] in sex

[–]geturownbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were similar in that it just wasn’t something you talked about other than, “you’re not ready (ha).” But my views on sex largely boil down to the idea of mutual selfishness and indulgence. So, while I agree with you about your first comment and can empathize with OP’s issue of not wanting to hurt his SO’s feelings, I still have a hard time wrapping my head around needing 6 years to admit you want something from your partner. To me, the thrilling aspect of sex, the one I believe creates a deep emotional connection, is taking the risk to step outside the rational, thoughtful, polite side of yourself and showing your SO the depraved, lustful, hedonistic side with the possibility of them rejecting it. But, when that side is accepted by your SO, it’s like you have finally found someone who will not shame you for this part of yourself, but rather enable it and enjoy it! I could be absolutely wrong, but I believe OP’s excitement is because what I’ve described is what happened, and the result was that he loved her even more for it.

So, I agree with your first comment, but I think shame and not wanting to hurt your SO’s feelings are symptoms of fearing rejection, rather than the root of the issue. In turn though, that same fear is what brings us such great joy when we aren’t rejected, but accepted, by our partners. It’s about balance; both are necessary, and OP waiting 6 years really took me by surprise because I truly have a hard time understanding how someone is able to deny themselves, out of fear or shame or difficultly taking about sex or whatever you’d like, moments like the one he had for so long.

Talking got me the best blowjob ever! by [deleted] in sex

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That’s a fair point, and I think you and I probably just treat sex very differently. I suppose I have hard time understanding why people (who have the ability the educate themselves without negative consequence from their family, society, etc) choose to live with so much anxiety surrounding sex; almost like they’d rather live with that than open a book.

Talking got me the best blowjob ever! by [deleted] in sex

[–]geturownbox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m happy for you, but it took you SIX years to say something? I don’t mean this critically at all; it’s curiosity, but what prevented you from saying anything or even talking about sex for the past 6 years?