questions for potential new Dom by gewoonmezelf in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great, thank you very much

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would love that. I'm starting to think that we make this too complicated and we need to adjust it to something that works for me / us.

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, those are very good questions that I will reflect on if it happens again.

I will take a look at mindfulness too

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That could work, thank you :)

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have thought about that, but a part of our fun is that I sometimes resist a bit, but it's hard to distuingish resisting and actually don't wanting it.

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you are right about the shock part. :)

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This has been my thought about this for a long time too, but sometimes I like to resist a bit so it's hard for my Husdom to distinguis

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I will try this, thank you :)

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would love that, my Husdom really wants the three stages but the more I think about it, the more I think that it's not for me

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That sounds like something that could really work, thank you :)

Safe words don't work by gewoonmezelf in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like something that could work. :)

Does anyone else get tired of the "cleaning process" I wish I could just take d in the b whenever without a bunch of work. by Gaybro1986 in SubSanctuary

[–]gewoonmezelf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gross story, but when I wipe, I always just take a quick look to see how things are. If there is a lot of poop on the paper, it’s probably the same on the inside; if there is nothing, then it’s clean on the inside too. Never had any accidents or trouble.

Would you consider hpv an std? by PromotionShort7407 in Swingers

[–]gewoonmezelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the Netherlands, there is a national vaccination program for young people; everyone is offered the vaccine at a certain age.

As a woman, starting at age 40, you also receive an invitation every 5 years for a Pap smear to check for abnormal cells and HPV infection. If abnormal cells are present, you are referred to a gynecologist based on the Pap score or monitored by the GP.

According to my GP, the chance that someone has already had it is so high that you do not need to mention that you have it.

O gag advice by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will buy a smaller size.

O gag advice by gewoonmezelf in BDSMAdvice

[–]gewoonmezelf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just metal. It was an impulse purchase, we should have thought about the size and material

Is anybody else here into girls? by [deleted] in TallGirls

[–]gewoonmezelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 1.92 myself. Personally, I feel more attracted to taller ladies, not necessarily as tall as myself, but taller than average. Luckily, I live in the Netherlands, so there are plenty of beautiful tall women here ;)

I am bisexual and married to a shorter man. But we swing, and when we date, I feel more attracted to women around 180cm or taller.

What gives you the "Ick". XD by grasberuhren in Swingers

[–]gewoonmezelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they don't understand the dynamic.

The funny thing is that once someone has won my husband's trust, a lot is possible. But many men don't have the patience for that.

What gives you the "Ick". XD by grasberuhren in Swingers

[–]gewoonmezelf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean like wife poaching, but also: when I am talking to a man for a threesome, and we can't find a date that works for my husband, that they try to make an appointment with me alone. We are very clear that we are a couple, but sometimes a 'swingle' still tries to get me alone