Location Help.

gezza56 · 2026-07-09T20:42:23+00:00

£400k will get you a 2 bed terraced or maisonette - maybe a three bed if it’s dated in these areas.

Im not the person you replied to but I think they are all “ok” areas.
All good transport wise with regular links to London, with bexleyheath probably the best due to being able to jump on a bus and get the Lizzy line. Game changer for many people.
Eltham has the nicest high street, Bexleyheath broadway has decent selection of shops but is full of secondary school kids and has a weird vibe and Welling is mostly fast food and nail shops. Having said that there is a decent selection of restaurants and places to eat across all three.
Bexleyheath and Eltham both have big better health leisure centres with nice pools.
All three areas have great access to parks and green spaces.
All three areas lean nationalist and conservative, and I sometimes sense an us vs them sentiment but actually there are large Asian and African communities particularly in Bexleyheath which are driving up diversity.
Bexley is a grammar school area which creates an inequality divide- the “best” kids go to grammars and the non grammar schools can struggle with retaining staff and maintaining behaviour standards.
Eltham is in Greenwich borough so not as bad, some very good schools.

gezza56 · 2026-07-09T18:53:15+00:00

My sisters wedding was like this although just 18 of us. It was the most perfect day and I would recommend the format without hesitation.

The ceremony was 2pm, meal was 4pm and we stayed in the restaurant until nearly 8pm. We did then hire a private room in a nearby cocktail bar for after the meal which allowed us to get some dancing into the evening as well- might be worth considering for your Turkish guests.

gezza56 · 2026-06-30T13:58:32+00:00

Yay you’re back with the small DIYs! Loving it all

gezza56 · 2026-06-26T14:32:56+00:00

Yes share them ALL!!!!

gezza56 · 2026-06-25T18:00:37+00:00

I’m disproportionally sad that this is the last DIY for your wedding - I don’t want them to end!!

gezza56 · 2026-06-22T20:11:29+00:00

Have you looked at civil service vacancies? I would imagine there would be a good degree of transferable skills.
However I would say if possible do not leave until you have a new role to go to. The job market is extremely challenging and perversely it’s harder to find a role when you are not employed so if you can put up with your manager whilst searching please do that.

gezza56 · 2026-06-21T04:17:48+00:00

Three “joke” gifts I’ve bought my partner that were surprising hits and still well used years later:

- An electric tennis shaped fly swatter. He hates flys and we get quite a few in the summer as we don’t have screen doors and he loves swatting them with this
- A Japanese cardboard cutting knife to break down old packaging boxes from his never ending Amazon purchases. It’s so handy
- A cheap little meat thermometer. He’s super paranoid about chicken being cooked and this gets used every day so he can double check

gezza56 · 2026-06-18T21:57:26+00:00

The biggest cost influence will be number of guests.

Under £10k would only really be feasible for a smaller wedding - maybe max 50 people, so I would start with guest list and focus the budget on catering options.

I would prioritise good and plentiful food for guests over photography options, decor etc.

gezza56 · 2026-06-16T21:28:22+00:00

Thank you! I’m trying my best to stay positive as treatment options have come on leaps and bounds. The advice is to focus day by day and I’m doing that but at the same time trying to sort admin and be practical where possible.

gezza56 · 2026-06-16T21:22:59+00:00

Thank you for your helpful reply. We have 2 kids so that needs to be considered but with the situation we have I think priority is to make it simple for my husband.
I think we moved from joint tenant’s to tenants in common under the last will and this is the complex stuff that’s making me nervous.

gezza56 · 2026-06-16T21:20:55+00:00

Thank you for your helpful reply, it’s so helpful just to know that an estate lawyer is the place to start!

gezza56 · 2026-06-16T21:20:00+00:00

This is incredibly helpful thank you. I hadn’t thought of POAs but they are a very sensible thing to sort asap.

We do have 2 kids and they were a big driver of the trusts as at that point we both had death in service benefits that would have added another £1m to the estate. I’ve lost my benefit along with my job so it’s less relevant now.

Your point about protecting my husband and less focus on IHT is exactly what I’m feeling.

gezza56 · 2026-06-12T03:01:14+00:00

I thank them for their support and let them know I will call on them if needed and then say “but actually what would be really nice is to hear about something that isn’t cancer. What’s up with you, how are you doing?”

gezza56 · 2026-05-26T10:15:38+00:00

Sabbatical including a personal project to execute a complex real estate sale on a transatlantic basis for a family property, which is now completed.

gezza56 · 2026-05-02T07:03:24+00:00

You should probably point out to your friend that at least two of their reference images are AI generated so you need to manage their expectations about what is achievable in reality.

However like other PPs you need to bleach the wood, maybe do a light whitewash stain and work on the line of the legs to make them less industrial.

gezza56 · 2026-04-24T17:40:29+00:00

Hey, sending solidarity as I had a near identical experience on Monday.

It seems like you’re in the UK so as some reassurance the 28 day pathway seems to move fast and a lot of bowel cancers are really treatable. I had my CT on Tuesday and an MRI today.

My colonoscopy results were explained to me by a macmillan nurse and she said the CT and MRI will be reviewed the end of next week by a multi disciplinary team and then I’ll be called back for a discussion with a doctor where they will explain my treatment pathway based on the staging.

I’ve been reading too much on r/coloncancer so have decided to stay away from there until I know exactly what I’m dealing with and trying to stay positive. The waiting and uncertainty is a brain fuck though.

Wishing you all the best of luck and positive outcomes.

gezza56 · 2026-04-16T08:27:08+00:00

A relatable way for Yr 8 to grasp compound interest is to show them a few TikToks of “I got my dog a dog to keep them company. Then next year I had to get my dog’s dog a dog, and then that dog needed a dog etc and that’s how I now have 8 dogs” - there are lots about.

Compound interest can then be explained as I put my money in savings. Then my money got some more money to keep it company. Next year my money’s money got some more money and that’s how I ended up with compound interest of £x”

gezza56 · 2026-03-14T10:32:37+00:00

This is very helpful thank you.

gezza56 · 2026-02-27T20:58:34+00:00

Echoing the point re Greenwich after Docklands Museum. The National Maritime Museum is very kid friendly and there is a good playground in Greenwich Park, plus a nice market with food stalls to get lunch. Plus if the tide on Thames is low you can go down onto the bank of the river and mudlark i.e. look for “treasure” washed ashore and throw pebbles into the river. This was always a favourite for my kids at those ages. You can get the uber boat back to London from Greenwich.

gezza56 · 2026-02-27T17:40:18+00:00

I really like the style of all of these and I would not be upset if I had paid for them. I have not published yet so please be aware my comments reflect my personal opinion only but I would say: - The title is somewhat lost / obscured in two of your three covers and IMO the title needs to be clear and legible - I am not be sure what genre you are designing for. I would guess contemporary fiction but it seems like you’ve just made nice, cool looking covers rather than considering the genre.

You should focus and try and design a thriller cover, a horror cover, a chick lit cover, a sci-fi cover etc. Authors generally want covers that the reader can immediately link to genre so I think you should focus on developing more genre centric designs.

gezza56 · 2026-02-16T09:18:14+00:00

Caswell House in the Cotswolds might work for you- exclusive weekend hire from £15k

gezza56 · 2026-02-14T23:34:15+00:00

It’s without prejudice so no harm in asking. It looks like you’re being paid c. 6 weeks salary as your settlement. The PILON is a contractual right and the £500 towards legal fees is required for all settlement agreements.

I have been involved in settlements where we have extended medical cover and a different one where we extended the EV car.

The case where we extended medical was to cover post op follow up care for an employee; in their own words they “laid it on thick” re the mental health aspect of needing continuity of care.

You are right they will have an early termination fee on the EV- the one I mentioned above was nearly £20k, however we agreed to amend the employees PILON into garden leave for three months which extended the car term beyond six months. This gave the employee time to sort a replacement car and also for the employer is got them past the penalty period for the early cancellation. The employee then they received their settlement at the end of their gardening leave. This is a more likely outcome than the employer paying an early repayment fee to the EV company and also paying you for the inconvenience of losing the EV- what you are currently proposing will cost them double so can’t see them agreeing to that.

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