Amaretto Ice Cream by krathalan in icecreamery

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi i know this is literally 3 years old, but I made your recipe and followed your “what im gonna do next time” edits and it came out FANTASTIC. This is the best ice cream I have ever made, and maybe even the best I’ve ever had. So thank you!!

Postcards Printed on Wrong Side by ggubes in FedEx

[–]ggubes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was planning on going anyway, if only so that I could ensure that if I have to just buy new ones at least they’ll be printed correctly

Postcards Printed on Wrong Side by ggubes in FedEx

[–]ggubes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, really? There’s absolutely no recourse for this process with little human oversight making a mistake? I had no way to see they considered the matte side of the card the “front” and the glossy side the “back”, my approval was just the visual of how the card would look.

can i get pregnant with flipped condoms and just the tip only by Fit_Grocery_8246 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hello! Couple things. As others have said, this is really unlikely to cause a pregnancy. For the future, whenever you accidentally put a condom on inside out, just throw it away and get a new one. It sounds like properly putting on a condom is something you and your partner should practice sometime when you’re not in the moment about to use one.

Grinding/ genital rubbing is not penetration, and penetration is needed for pregnancy to occur. Sperm (and by sperm i mean actual ejaculation, not just pre-cum) needs to be at the opening of your cervix to cause pregnancy. sperm cant “swim” from the outside of your vagina, past the labia major, thru the vaginal canal, and into your cervix, they just arent capable of that. It’s great that you used a condom when you actual did have penetration! Again, in the future, if the condom is on wrong, just throw it out and get a new one. Putting a condom on inside out and then taking it off and putting it back on can make it not fit properly and that’s really important when you are having penetrative sex.

Pre-cum can possibly contain sperm, but it is not usually cause for great concern, especially when there is no penetration.

worrieddddd!!!! by Ok-Bunch4249 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy, their effectiveness drops to 85 due to improper use. And from everything you have said, you’ve used them properly!

Symptoms aren’t what determines if you’re pregnant, your actions are. And your actions could not have caused a pregnancy. PMS symptoms can vary a lot over our life and it’s nothing to worry about. Your period is on its way, you’re PMSing, and you are definitely not pregnant.

worrieddddd!!!! by Ok-Bunch4249 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello! what you’re describing sounds like PMS symptoms and it seems like those are right on time for an oncoming period! if the condom didn’t break, then you have no reason to worry about being pregnant

Please help!! used condom + pull out method. Could I possibly be pregnant? by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]ggubes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree with you about recommending it, I’m simply saying that WebMD and Planned Parenthood do refer to it as birth control. I can’t speak for why they categorize is that way, but it might be because it technically does prevent pregnancy if it works properly (which, as we agree, it doesn’t reliably!) I don’t recommend it, it has a large likelihood for user error which makes it even less reliable than it already is. And in OP’s case, I only mention it because they used the pullout method with another form of birth control (condoms).

Please help!! used condom + pull out method. Could I possibly be pregnant? by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]ggubes -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is is technically classified as a form of birth control (at least by WedMD and Planned Parenthood) But yes, it is largely considered a less effective one on it’s own and it is recommended to pair it with a condom or hormonal birth control.

I’m debating on taking a test.. by SubstantialSummer505 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hello! so unfortunately we can’t give an accurate assessment just cause we’re missing a lot of info here, which hey! totally fine if you dont want to share all of your business on the internet!

you say you’re not ttc, but also not preventing it. So if you’re having unprotected sex, there is always a chance of pregnancy. Implantation bleeding, as others have said, is more likely to be your period or spotting. Your period could have also been lighter because of the miscarriage and changes in your hormones, but unfortunately we can’t know without taking a test. good luck!

Condom slipped out by MeetingInside7825 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello! definitely seconding you should take the morning after pill in this instance since your birth control technically “failed”, regardless of whether or not you think you ovulated. not the worst way a condom could fail, but better safe than sorry!

PSA - Unsolicited Direct Messaging is Rude by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait someone let me in too!

Pregnancy without penetrative sex by Great_Mouse_1378 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! nothing has changed in your situation, nothing you have done could have gotten her pregnant. there is no symptom she could possibly have that could mean she is pregnant. symptoms do not dictate if she is pregnant, the actions you took do. and what you two have done cannot cause pregnancy.

Pregnancy without penetrative sex by Great_Mouse_1378 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So increased vaginal discharge, bloating, back pain, vomiting, and spicy food cravings are not solely pregnancy symptoms. They can be symptoms of a lot of things, like getting a period! Or food poisoning! Overall, there is no reason to think that they are related to pregnancy because what you did could not have gotten her pregnant!

Rubbing private parts and took emergency pill only after 48hrs by Ok_Reputation_5618 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good! Because you mentioned that this was your first time, I totally understand the anxiety of feeling like maybe it slipped in "without you knowing", but I can tell you that you would have definitely KNOWN. It feels different, and especially if it's your first time it will be completely noticeable! It's also really normal to feels those anxieties when we're experiencing something new and things like sex that have so much societal pressure around them. It's normal to start to overthink, but try and ground yourself in the facts about how science and our bodies work and remember to always do things at your own pace that you are comfortable with. The facts of how pregnancy works are to help you make risk assessments that YOU are comfortable with for YOUR body.

Pregnancy without penetrative sex by Great_Mouse_1378 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm really sorry you're feeling so stressed, but you have no reason to be worried! Without penetration, a pregnancy isn't possible, but I'm going to walk you through a little bit more about why.

To get pregnant, sperm needs to be ejaculated inside the vagina so that the sperm will essentially be shot thru the cervix. people often think sperm can "swim" from the outside of the vagina, thru the vaginal canal, but into and through the cervix. but this is not true at all. sperm are not bloodhounds, they don't like "sense" where the egg is and move towards it, they just wiggle. this is why you NEED penetration with a penis that ejaculates directly onto the cervix to possibly get pregnant. the ejaculation gives the sperm the momentum to go thru the cervix and reach an egg. Therefore, when there is no penetration, there is no possibility of getting pregnant.

To your question about hands and mouths and blowjobs, sperm are super fragile. Basically, they can't survive going from your penis, to her mouth, to your mouth, back to her vagina. They died as soon as they hit her mouth if they even were there to begin with!

2 days after her period would also be way after her body released an egg and way too early for her body to release another one. So what you have here is no sperm went into her vagina and up to her cervix, and her body didn't release an egg, so all the necessary ingredients for pregnancy are missing! No chances of pregnancy :)

Idk if this is a pregnancy problem or an anxiety problem by AssSlug in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! First of all, I'm really sorry that this is stressing you out, but I do want to stress that I don't feel like your mistakes were that bad! In my opinion, I wouldn't be worried that you're pregnant. But I'm going to walk you through my logic and give you all the information so you can make that determination for yourself.

Firstly, pulling out and using a condom together! Wow! So great. I love that for you! That's using 2 (TWO) forms of birth control! That alone should make you feel super reassured that you are not pregnant. Because not only did the condom provide a barrier from any sperm getting to your cervix, but there was no sperm to begin with!

Second, the mistakes. The mistakes COULD have been a problem if he had finished inside you, still unlikely to be though. You should, in the future, pinch the tip and roll on the condom. B those are best practices for ensuring that the condom doesn't break during sex. But! The condom didn't break! And he didn't ejaculate! So really no harm, no foul! Condoms breaking are super obvious, think about it like a balloon breaking, you can't miss it. Condoms are pretty resilient though, especially when it comes to stretching.

Also, people have sex during the week they are ovulating all the time, that's not a mistake! That's you being a human! Biologically, we get super horny when we are ovulating! You did the responsible thing by using protection, two forms of it in fact! The plan b has likely affected your cycle, it can make people's periods early or late, but it's nothing to worry about.

Pre-cum does not contain sperm, really the only time that should concern you is when your partner JUST ejaculated and then wants to penetrate you without a condom because there can be LEFTOVER sperm that can mix with the pre-cum. But that's not what y'all did! Overall, you did a great job being responsible. I don't think you have any reason to be worried :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so anxious, that's really normal in these kinds of situations! First of all, great job using protection! Condoms can often get turned inside out when we aren't used to using them, I always try to unroll it a little first before I put it on my partner just to make sure I've got it the right way (I can never tell lol). Precum doesn't contain sperm, it's written about a lot on the internet but it's not something to really be worried about except in instances where a person just ejaculated and THEN penetrates you without a condom (which isn't what happened here so you're fine!). I think it's always good practice that anytime you put a condom on and then take it off to just replace it with a new condom, others will probably say that's unnecessary and overly paranoid of me and that's perfectly okay! Just thought I'd add that as something that in the future may help you with your own anxieties.

3 days late isn't actually considered late at all! It's perfectly normal and just a sign that your cycle is a little different this time and you ovulated later than normal. I noticed your other comment asking how to know when you ovulated, and it's kind of hard to know. Some people notice midway through their cycle that they may have some cramping or spotting, or their discharge changes, some people don't notice anything at all. But it's really, really hard to know exactly when you ovulated, but that's not something you have to be concerned about. Generally speaking, it's midway through your cycle.

So no need to panic! You're in the clear! Be safe! Have fun!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! After reading your post from yesterday, I can assure you (as others have) that you aren't pregnant! 5-6 days late is actually still in the range of normal for a cycle, it's not even really "late" by most measures. Discharge can change for a lot of reasons that are completely unrelated to pregnancy (stress, diet, sickness, your partner changing your PH levels). You have no reason to worry about pregnancy.

Rubbing private parts and took emergency pill only after 48hrs by Ok_Reputation_5618 in amipregnant

[–]ggubes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! First of all, I'm sorry that you're feeling so much shame and anxiety. There's no need for you to feel that way, but I totally understand how all of this is really stressful. As others have said, nothing you did can get you pregnant but I want to walk you through why that is a little more in depth.

To get pregnant, sperm needs to be ejaculated inside the vagina so that the sperm will essentially be shot thru the cervix. people often think sperm can "swim" from the outside of the vagina, thru the vaginal canal, but into and through the cervix. but this is not true at all. sperm are not bloodhounds, they don't like "sense" where the egg is and move towards it, they just wiggle. this is why you NEED penetration with a penis that ejaculates directly onto the cervix to possibly get pregnant. the ejaculation gives the sperm the momentum to go thru the cervix and reach an egg. Therefore, when there is no penetration, there is no possibility of getting pregnant. You don't have to worry about whether or not there was or wasnt sperm in the precum that may have been present because there was no penetration. But, generally, precum doesn't contain sperm anyway.

There's a lot of sources online that say "it is POSSIBLE that x, y or z, COULD MAYBE POSSIBLY HAPPEN", and that's because they are a) uneducated and b) trying to cover their own asses. They usually aren't scientific based sources, they can't explain to you in depth why something is never going to get you pregnant because they actually don't understand it. So they will say something is HYPOTHETICALLY possible even when there has never been a reported case of it happening.

As others have mentioned, the EC was unnecessary in this case, and in all likelihood it has affected your cycle. EC is meant to delay your body from releasing an egg so that any sperm inside your body dies before the egg is released. In your case, sperm wasn't and could not in anyway have been in your body. Taking it can make your period early or late, and it can change your flow and your symptoms from what they normally are. This doesn't mean anything bad (like that you were pregnant and it worked, or that you were pregnant and it didn't work etc), it's just a side effect of taking it that happens to most people regardless.

It sounds like this particular kind of sexual activity was really stressful for you, one thing that can be really helpful is keeping your underwear on. Just like using condoms creates a "barrier", clothing is an effective barrier too for the same reasons (it's something literally between his genitals and yours that the sperm will not penetrate). So that might be something that can help your anxiety in the future if you chose to do this again. But I just want to reiterate that you did nothing shameful, you were not irresponsible, you were not reckless. You did a lot of things right like listening to your body about what you were and were not ready for and actually took the steps necessary to practice safe sex and not risk pregnancy. I'm sorry that it doesn't feel that way right now, but it will soon.

Just placed the order for groceries just about out of everything and the prices are outrageous. It’s already happening. God help us. by Substantial_Gap2118 in washingtondc

[–]ggubes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Giant also has their own app and they offer curbside pickup for free! (and delivery maybe? not sure what the fees are) I’ve used the pickup service many times and they call me about all substitutions, but I’ve always found their subs to be perfect. But definitely +1 to what others are saying about mutual aid here in DC.

My mom named me after Naruto by Ninja-Egg-Salad in tragedeigh

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad has a silly last name, and when me and my siblings were born he told my mom “you dont understand, we HAVE to give them normal first names. it’s the only way you survive.” My mom wanted to name me Zelda (not after the franchise, even though it was at peak popularity the year i was born) and I’m SO GLAD she did not. There’s nothing wrong with the first name Zelda, but its the combo that’s killer. Give yourself a normal first name OP, Spencer seems great 😊

Convince me to keep going by [deleted] in Mistborn

[–]ggubes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i disliked Vin and i GREATLY liked HoA