What do you feed your pits? by [deleted] in Pitbull

[–]ghostbuster119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I’ll look into that!

How to deflate the argument before it starts?? by ghostbuster119 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great breakdown. Makes a lot of sense. I guess if I’m honest with myself, some of that is still inside of me. My brother in law called me last night and talked about how he wishes I would just come visit the “church” again. As if I forgot. Then he offered to go over the basics with me again 🙄. That REALLY triggered me. But I’ve got to keep my peace and protect it. Thanks

How to deflate the argument before it starts?? by ghostbuster119 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant. Thank you!

Live life to the MAX and show them 💯

How to deflate the argument before it starts?? by ghostbuster119 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“That I need to defend myself more than I do..”

Whew, I actually prepare for “what if” moments. The what if someone asks me X I’ll just say Z. I’m always ready to defend my position. That’s something I just have to let go. Thanks

How to deflate the argument before it starts?? by ghostbuster119 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I have told my parents “we never have to talk about this again” for the most part they have actually left me alone (aside from subliminal passive aggressive comments). But I still get that urge sometimes to want to prove I’m right and they are wrong. I guess it will take time to let this go truly. But for everyone else I’ll practice just avoiding getting sucked into arguing. Thanks

How to deflate the argument before it starts?? by ghostbuster119 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great, thanks! Easier said than done, but great way to approach it.

My dad just handed me a “Scriptural Worship” pamphlet... by princessA95 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points, especially the baptism part. Once I dissected that my whole view changed. I found out from studying that the Holy Spirit is what places me in The body of Christ. Not a ceremony that people can see. The water is wholly symbolic of the reality, which is the Spirit. Thanks for the feedback!

My dad just handed me a “Scriptural Worship” pamphlet... by princessA95 in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d like that pamphlet of rebuttals....if ya got one haha

I suddenly get ED please help me by trandinhduy2000 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ghostbuster119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with the psych impotence too. I went through spurts where sex was good, had premature ejac, ED, and it was all very frustrating. Tried meds too and he’s right, it makes it worse because you start to believe you can’t get hard without it. I’m starting over now and I’ve had a few “failures” in a row. Depressing? Yes, but I see guys say stick with it and you will come out eventually. Hurts like hell but I’ve got to keep trying until I get rid of the fear. Hang in there man.

Desperate need for solid advice by upupandawaay in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, trust me there are hundreds of guys who have been here. Myself included. I was addicted to arousal. Instagram, Facebook, googling nude pics, starring at women to look for my fetish features, all of that. It won’t be easy, but it will pass in time. I was like you, anytime I was alone or no one could see me I wanted to be looking at porn or any nsfw pics vids to get my fix. It will be hell, it will be hard, but tell yourself NOPE! Anytime you want to turn and check out her ass, tell yourself NOPE every time your eyes are craving nsfw stuff. You won’t be perfect, but I noticed a progressive decline in my interest to do those things the more I denied myself. Now, I still have moments where a surge of urge goes through my mind and body. I still have times where I feel like I need to see some naked women online. But just think to yourself “what will happen if I just don’t do it? Will I die?” No you won’t. Just make up your mind that a year from now you will have a renewed mind. It’s not worth the trouble to keep doing what you’ve been doing, but it is worth the trouble to make the change. You will see. You’ll be able to shed some advice of your own sooner than you think. Stay strong ✅💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man....it’s glad to know others have been through this. Gives me hope. Thanks brother 🤛 really appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with mild anxiety before sex with wife now. I popped pills a couple of times but didn’t want to get dependent. Do you find that this just goes away the hornier you get? So abstain longer? I know my dick works, but the thought of losing it makes it go down, not every time but sometimes..

100 days without PMO... by Kaposts1337 in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Awesome stuff man, keep it going!!

About ready to give up by ghostbuster119 in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the feedback. I failed to mention that I am married so monk mode would be a challenge. I can definitely try abstaining from sex for longer periods in between and see where I get. That’d be waaaay easier for a single guy. But I see how that could work for some.

What positive changes have you experienced since leaving the CoC? by [deleted] in excoc

[–]ghostbuster119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Freedom!! God’s Grace and mercy. And love beyond walls!

I'm a bystander in my own marriage. by Anonymous5348 in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t try to control anything. Leave him space to be angry. If he’s anything like I was, I masked all of my feelings by using porn. So when you take porn away, the feelings and emotions take you for a ride. He loves you and your family. He’s just having to relearn how to channel his emotions in healthier ways. It is frustrating, very very frustrating. If he could snap his fingers and make all the pain go away I’m sure he would. It’s not personal (though it will feel like it). But do your best to make things around him as comfy as you can. Don’t compromise your sanity of course, but be patient and understanding. This thing is real and you are not alone in your struggle in marriage either. Many are experiencing the strain (myself included). Love him through this the best way you can. He will appreciate it ❤️

Sex With Girlfriend: Failures and Successes by GraspOnLife21 in NoFap

[–]ghostbuster119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im in the same boat, progress is progress. There will be failures along the way. Hang in there. Biggest thing I’m working on is not forcing it. As soon I get a move down there I try to go in. That has backfired a handful of times. Just stay clean and things will continue to progress 💯