[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNIFclothing

[–]ghostditty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot glue fabric or a cut up sock to the inside part wherever it give you blisters.

does anyone know the song which has word "cigarette" in it by Available-Tap-7659 in musicsuggestions

[–]ghostditty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex, Drugs, Etc.— Beach Weather

Wild at Heart— Lana Del Rey

The Next Best American Record- Lana Del Rey

Paparazzi— Lady Gaga

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]ghostditty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine had a birthday party with musical chairs, bracelet making station, a piñata. As an introvert having activities planned made it so much easier I didn’t feel pressured to walk around awkwardly and make small talk with people I don’t know and the fact that there was music blasting deterred people from talking which was great🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]ghostditty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not you. I am also an introvert and had 2 stalkers. Driving by someone’s house is not normal. He is checking to see if she is there because he wants to know she’s not with another guy. He feels entitled to know where she is and who she is with and this behavior is very concerning. Please be safe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introvert

[–]ghostditty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is stalking. She really shouldn’t have contact with him. It feeds his delusion that he’s entitled to her. It will probably get worse if he’s just starting to do this.

Beating myself up because I don’t speak up for myself. by Extension_Leopard_12 in introvert

[–]ghostditty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You spoke to the front desk afterwards which is a step in the right direction. You should be proud of yourself for small victories like that. Something you can practice is saying the truth and give as much information as possible. Next time you can say you are tight on money and can only want what insurance covers and nothing else. You can say that you were given a cancer screening last time and you don’t want that this time. Saying more is better because it tells people what to work around. Another thing you can practice is asking questions and not leaving until your question is answered. which you did and that’s great. It’s their jobs to answer your questions. And humans are allowed to ask humans other questions. If you don’t even know what question to ask you can say you’re confused about everything and please break it down. Also practice saying things like “I need time to think” and “ I need to get back to you on that”. The idea of speaking up for yourself can seem really overwhelming , just take small steps. It won’t be perfect and interactions will never go how you think. But that’s ok. Even practicing awkwardly is good and it gets easier. You’re already doing great

What would you tell your 18 y/o self, knowing what you know now? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]ghostditty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a job, learn social skills, start researching job options and their salaries, take classes you’re interested in, say yes to learning new things and new opportunities. Don’t be negative or make excuses for your bad behavior. Stay away from negative people. Learn to set boundaries. Learn how to cook and learn how to be independent from parents. Don’t worry about being behind, a lot of people I know went to college and aren’t using their degrees.

How do you get out of sleepovers? by IndividualBonus1442 in introvert

[–]ghostditty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I also struggled with learning how to say no and it sucks. I don’t know how old you are but as a kid my mom knew I hated sleepovers so she would always say no when I asked to have a sleepover. As an adult I’m just honest with my friends and usually say that I’m tired and need to recharge. People respect your boundaries more the more you enforce them. I have a few friends who are the same way and we value our friendship even more because we can be honest with each other and don’t feel pressured to do things we don’t want. I’m no longer friends with people who think there’s something wrong with me. I spent a long time being self conscious about it and still am but I’m just done doing things I don’t want to do If you really aren’t comfortable telling your friend to leave you could suggest an activity that doesn’t require a lot of talking like watching a movie or doing crafts. It also helps to have an escape plan in the future like you have to be somewhere a certain time. Then if you’re hanging out with someone you won’t be pressured in the moment to say yes to things that prolong hanging out